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hey another update, when I finally was able to get back onto this account I had over 200 messages. Because I've been gone for so long, and I cannot see the dates, I have no idea when some of them were submitted and which ones are still relevant and people still need help with. Because of this, I decided to delete all of them, because there is no way I could respond to all of them. If you have recently submitted something or messaged me, please send it again, and that way I know to help you! so sorry guys!!

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Mindfulness🙇🏼‍♀️

We’ve all hear about being mindful right?

But only a few of us know why it is important and how to be it.

The meaning of mindfulness is “a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique”. The purpose of mindfulness is to just live in the present moment instead of having your thoughts just thrown all over, It is about putting last events to rest and realising you no longer are living in the past.

There are three main aspects of mindfulness

• intention- so this is what your hoping to get from practicing to become mindful.

•attention- mindfulness includes a lot of paying attention to your inner and outer experience.

•attitude- practising mindfulness involves paying attention to specific attitudes such as; curiosity,acceptance,kindness.

Mindfulness enables you to work on and improve your wellbeing. It benefits you by making you become more engaged in activity’s, helps you to deal with bad events that happen in your life from minor to major. Focousing on the present instead of the past also allows you to unwind, your less likely to worry about things such as your future,careers,jobs,relationships, or about any things you’ve done in the past that you might regret. This allows you to become more aware and able to form great bonds and connections with people. It helps you deal with your mental health as some doctors or therapist may advise you to meditate or read books on mindfulness and any topics surrounding mindfulness. Mindfulness also has benefits towards physical factors as it helps improve sleep, lowers your blood pressure,relieve stress and ease any chronic pain and this all down to meditation and reading books to help open up your mind to new ways of dealing with things freeing all your worry’s stress and any bad emotions that might be stoping you from being the happy person you are... you don’t need medication to make yourself better, you just need to be taught there are other ways arround a situation rather then just being thrown pills.

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I have learned a lot about mindfulness, and I’d like to share some ways to help practice it! Mindfulness is all about being in the moment, so my favorite thing to do to help me zone into my surroundings is practice focusing on my 5 senses. this is super easy to do;

1. look around you, find 3 beautiful things (whatever beautiful means to you)

2. close your eyes, focus on what you can hear. try to find 3 different sounds. maybe its cars driving by, or the leaves blowing, or someone tapping their pencil.

3. what can you smell? this ones a little more tricky, so try to find just one scent.

4. what can you feel? are you touching paper, or are you under a blanket, are you petting your dog? whatever man

5. this one might not always work but do you taste anything?

personally i find this technique is really easy and super helpful for anxiety. I get really bad anxiety in school, so every now and then i’ll stop what im doing and do this instead. try it!!

hey guys! i haven’t been on this account for a long time because of a bunch of reasons that prohibited me from being able to... however I am going to try to come back to it and stay as active as possible. I will be getting back to all of my messages and such asap, im so sorry im responding to some of yall so late.

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Please help my sister

As you can already guess by the photo my sister is handicapped. Actually she is ten years older than me and she was born as a healthy cute child. We were born in Romania and she was born 1988. So in that time the medical treatment wasn't good at all in Romania. She became ill when she was about a few months old and my mother brought her to the hospital. There she got even more sick because she got infected with salmonellae! Unfortunately the doctors honestly didn't treat her accordingly without bribery. But my mother didn't have money at all at that time. So she could not afford it to pay the doctors more money... Please believe me that the doctors didn't care that much to help. They even treated her the wrong way and gave her a syringe in the wrong place in the spinal column which made her condition even worse. They said she might die but if she survived she will be 100% psychological handicapped. One doctor even told my mother that she should leave the hospital and my sister so that she would die! Because who would want a child that will be handicapped. Well thanks god my mother loves all her children and she didn't abandoned my sister. She staid with her and prayed for her that she will survive. Luckily she really did survive! If you are wondering where my father was, he was working in the army to provide our family with money to live. That was the only possibility for him at that time to have a job with a guaranteed loan. The sad part was that he was almost never home so I we didn't have a chance to know him that good.... But honestly I wasn't that sad bc he was a very strict father who was not afraid of beating his children and wife when he felt like it....

So our story continues. My mother did everything for my sister to grow her up. She is behaving like a little child and she can't talk much. Furthermore she slowly gehts problem with Walking and using her hands. They become.... I don't know how else to put it but they seem to become stiff. Despite that in society she was still treated badly because she was handicapped.... All people looked strangely at her, talk behind her back, point fingers at her even insult her! And yes even now people still do this bs!!!! What else could my mother do than keep her as often as she can at home and never leave her alone. Nobody of the rest of the family helped. They thought she was cursed or possessed by a demon..... As you can imagine she had a sad and lonely childhood.

10 years later I was born and my mother told me my sister was so happy she cried when I was borne. She also told me my sister was always with and never left my side. I personally remember that I always played and had fun with her. My mother started to teach me how to take care of her when I was a very small child. It was really hard to take care of her when I was only 4 or 5 years old. In that time I wasn't able to comprehend the need of me taking care of her but I still did as I was told.

Please have mercy with me but my family is really suffering from poverty since my father is gone. We of course had to pay for the funeral and this is in general not cheap.... Also we had to pay for repairing the

So in 2018 I moved to Germany. I found a job as a waitress and my dream is to study here one day. I miss my family so so much especially my sister. It was the hardest decision in my life so far to leave my mother and sister behind. My mother kept begging my to leave so that I can live a better life and maybe one day even earn enough money to help them financially. In the end I took my chance hoping that one day I will earn enough money to help my sister and mother.

This year my father died. He died because of drinking while driving. Alcohol was his biggest love in his life and he took every chance to drink. Don't take it the wrong way but thank God he was the only one who got involved. Naturally we were and still are very sad and mourning that this happened.... He was still our father and a husband.

So to come to my point: I really need to help my sister. Honestly I absolutely don't earn yet enough money so that they are able to live a comfortable life. Also Simona (my sister) is becoming more and more sick. I really do wish to bring them to Germany even if it's only for a short time, I feel like I need to bring her to a German doctor. They medical system and doctors are so much better here and I am convinced that Simona will be treated better here. I'd do anything for my sister so here I am begging you to help me get here to a good doctor. Please even one Euro /dollar will help me out! she is really the kindest soul on this earth and she really deserves an easier life.... So please help if you can! Even spreading my story will also help!

Thanks a ton to everyone who is willing to help!!!

so I don't have anyone to talk to and I feel really alone and I tried to go to a counsellor but I already have a lot of trouble expressing my feelings to people I love and more or less trust and I really really can't do that with people I don't know so therapy is not really an option and I just don't know what to do. If you have any advice please tell me I hope you have a great day 2/2

hey, this is important and there are ways to help. therapy would help but if it is not an option, there are other solutions. there are numbers you can call for mental health just to have someone to talk to, there are therapy apps that are almost or completely free, and you can always message me. sending love :)

My dad threatened to hit my mom if she didn't leave him alone. All she was doing was checking to see if he was alright, since he was screaming and cussing, so when we left him alone, he came back to apologize saying how he was sorry that he yelled that he just had a shitty day, not for what he said, but because he yelled. I'm so afraid that if he gets a little drunk (he was sober when he threatened her) and gets pissed he will end up hurting my siblings or my mom. I don't know what to do.

this is really serious. i dont know what your relationship is like with the rest of the family but i would recommend talking to them about it (especially your mom) and trying to make a plan. if you feel he is verbally or physically abusing you or your family, you should tell a professional, or atleast another adult who can help you.

Today me and my mom fought again and I wanted to talk to someone. Thank you for listening me and thank you for having a blog like this.

im here to talk any time! message me please id love to try and help

I was raised in a psychologically abusive household, and my relationship with my parents is so complicated. I love them and I fear them. They do so much for me - pay for college, give me a place to stay -- yet they also do so much damage to my mental and emotional health. So much of me jut wants to break away, but I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to make it on my own. Advice?

you will be able to make it on your own, it will be hard and money will probably be tight but if you can break away from the thing damaging your mental health, its worth it. don’t completely lose contact with them, but move out on your own and try to be independent. it will be for the best

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guys i made my first youtube video! go check it out!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTnTA4Kytw7Q9JWAWOlCiNw

Hi, I wanted to ask if being sort of bored with life is a symptom of depression? Just like nothing really excites me anymore, food tastes bland and just have no motivation for anything. I try pushing those feelings down when I'm around family as to not bug them with this, but getting a bit harder lately. And can depression be cured by yourself?

that is absolutely a symptom of depression and its very common. depression is best treated with therapy and medication. there is no cure to depression but you can make it easier to live with. if you want to do things by yourself, it is sooo important to surround yourself with people you love and that love you. also do things that make you happy!!

Is it wrong to go to the doctors and ask them for medication.I’ve been through maybe 5 years of therapy and nothing is helping.Long term I don’t know how I’ll cope.iknow there’s other factors to medication like age and current situations. But speaking generally,is it wrong to go to the doctors and ask for medication because I genuinely think it’ll help me.I don’t want it to come across the wrong way to anyone. that’s whyI want peoples opinions.Or do I just wait until medication is offered to me

this is not wrong at all, i DEFINITELY recommend doing so, dont wait for it to be offered to you, take the steps yourself. best wishes, i hope the medication can help!

Hey, just need some advice. I've been clean from self harm for nearly a year and I haven't relapsed my ED Behaviors in 2 months. But this week has been especially hard and I've harmed twice already and started to purge and restrict again. I know this is wrong. I know this is bad. I know I'm better than this and I don't need to do it. Why can't I seem to stop? I don't know why I'm doing this again. I don't want to hide it from my loved ones but I don't know how to tell them. I feel so lost.

hey this is really important. a main reason people self harm is because taht basically, physical pain we all know how to deal with, emotional pain we dont. if you scrape your knee you put a bandage on it, if you break your arm you get a cast, if you stub your toe you most likely fall to the ground and yell curse words until the pain fades, but when we feel hopeless, lost, broken, etc. we dont know how to heal it. there isnt a simple way to just out a band-aid on your emotions. i think this is what your experiencing. i would recommend telling a trusted adult, someone you feel comfortable talking to about it. do things that bring you the most joy and surround yourself with people who love and care about you. you can always talk to me <3

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Hey it’s me again, the person who doesn’t know to what study. I just read your blog and realised how tiny my problem is. If choosing what to study is hardest thing in my life then I should be grateful and realise I’m privileged to have options. I also want to say that you are a really good person for listening to people, even if you can’t advise all the time. I hope it doesn’t stress you out too much but thank you!

although it may seem like a small problem compared to other peoples, its still important! thank you so much for your support, thats so sweet :)

Hey, I think I’ve messed up my life. I applied to go study dentistry but there’s a part of me that’s not sure why I want it. I also am scared that I will be rejected by everyone. I also regret that I didn’t apply to the best unis in the world. I don’t know what to do tbh. I know everyone will say I am young and I can sort it but I really don’t want a gap year or anything.

hi! first things first, don’t be scared of people rejecting you. i know its easier said than done, but you need to focus on what makes you happy, not other people. if you’re happy and healthy doing what you’re doing, then who cares what others think? second, you do have time whether you take a gap year or not, what you study in college does not determine what you will be later. you need to take time and think about what is special to you. forget about the money and think about how your dream career would be. think about your passions. now obviously in the real world money is important, but no matter what your passion is theres probably a way to incorporate it into your everyday life. i would recommend not studying dentistry if your feeling this way, and quite honestly ive never heard anyone say their passion is to clean teeth. unless that is yours then go for it haha! just don’t rush into any decision. good luck :)

My older sister (she's an adult now) is depressed and she'd always said she'd never never attempt suicide when she's calm but everytime someone doesn't let her do something she wants example: Let her sit close to the tv or buy her a new phone she gets mad and threatens to commit suicide if we don't do what she wants. Is that normal or is she just over reacting?

thats not normal and something very serious. i think she has something more than just depression. i would recommend telling someone who is more experienced than i am. i’ll be praying for you and your sister.

go check out my youtube channel and maybe republish this to get the word around!

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