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cherrypikkins

Me around ten years ago: "Am I really ace? Or do I just have impossibly high standards?"

Me today: "It's both >:3"

39raccoons

it’s ace week apparently so here’s my two cents contribution in the form of this short old personal comic

greenisms

Something I’ve come to realize is that my asexuality itself is not a problem. People’s reactions and negativity about it are. Therefore, I don’t have a problem or need to change. They do.

peach-pot

Which do you identify most closely with?

On the asexual spectrum but not the aromantic spectrum

On the aromantic spectrum but not the asexual spectrum

On both the aromantic and asexual spectrums

On the A-spectrum (don’t separate them/unsure of which)

Not on the aromantic or asexual spectrums

Questioning/Don’t know

Voting ended onFeb 16, 2023

(if you don’t mind reblogging this post, that would be groovy ^_^)

Hi. I just had a question. I have been reading through all sorts of ace identities, but I haven't seen anything like this. Is there an identity for people who (mostly) feel some kind of sexual attraction but do not actually desire sex. I see a lot of discussions about the reverse of this, but never this exactly. But then again, maybe it's because no one seems to be super clear on what sexual attraction is. I've seen many people describe it as feeling physically attracted to people and wanting to touch them and be physically close to them, but those both fall under types of tertiary attraction (sensual and aestetic) so I am confused as to wether they are inherently sexual anyway.

Hello anon,

Defining sexual attraction is quiet tricky especially since I am not 100% clear. What I can explain is that different types of attraction can be linked to sexual attraction (physical and sensual) but does not mean they are inherently connected. In my experience for some people they are linked but for others these types of attraction are not connected at all. I think attraction is tricky because it can be so different and it’s so hard to explain. You can experience physical and sensual attraction to someone without sexual, I know at least in my case. Or for one friend physical, sensual and sexual attraction go hand in hand.

Regarding the question on identities I think gray asexual could be a term to look into. As the common definition is people who rarely experience sexual attraction or experience it under specific circumstances. As for a term more specific to rarely desiring sex it can be tied to your asexuality or it could be separate. Similar to attraction I think the desire can tie into your sexuality or it can be independent! So if you feel it’s right you could identify with gray asexual as a way to cover both or simply state you are gray asexual with a low sex drive (if that’s what it is) or desire.

In conclusion, it’s going to be different person to person! Don’t feel pressured to put one or two nice words on it. If you can find one that works, great! If you need a whole sentence, that’s fine too! Maybe dig more into gray asexuality ?

Plus don’t feel rushed! I’m 23 and I’m still trying to figure the right ace term for me 😂 it’s all a journey

I hope this helps! Please reach out if something is unclear or you would like to further discuss something

Take care

-💜Shae

thefrogginbullfish

genderqueerpositivity

Happy International Asexuality Day!

(Image Description: a gray square with black and gray text that says "International Asexuality Day", below that is a rainbow in the colors of the Asexual pride flag inside a light gray abstract shape with the date "April 6th".)

Hi! I hope your are having a wonderful day! This question might seem a bit random, but I'm really looking for some help. I recently came out to one of my parents as asexual and they said they completely support me, but they also want me to go to a doctor to see if there is something wrong with my sex drive, etc. etc. It makes me very uncomfortable that they want me to do this, but I don't know how to word it to them without being shut down (which happens a lot whenever I try to talk back). Do you have any advice?

Hey anon,

Thank you and I hope you are having a great day as well!

Oh that’s tricky and I understand. I also have a parent who would never really listen to me when I would express my side.

I don’t really know you relationship with your parents and what’s it’s like but I’ll do my best to offer advice.

I would suggest that when you talk to them to say what you said. That you are very uncomfortable with their suggestion and just be honest about how it makes you feel. Express that you know yourself, your feelings, your sex drive and maybe if you have concerns you will then go to them or a doctor yourself when you feel it’s appropriate or think it is necessary (if ever)

Just stress that it’s something that is very personal!

I hope that helps and if need any further advice please let me know I would be happy to help

Good luck !!

-💜Shae

onceandfuturehimbo

Sex doesn’t make us whole.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY!

myarmsaretoolong

So I'm currently questioning my sexuality and I was wondering if someone like you could help me out, for a long time I never really cared about sex and as a teen would only do sexual acts as a way to hopefully get someone to love me. I still feel sexual attraction but my sex drive has always been naturally low and I've never been a sexual person, is this just my sexual drive being low or is their a specific word for it?

Hey!

I will do my best to help! Whilst you may experencie sexual attraction you could be on the ace spectrum. If you experience sexual attraction rarely or under specific circumstances you maybe gray-ace. Demi sexual is when someone experiences sexual attraction only after an intense emotional bond is form.

It is also possible you may not be ace. You can experience sexual attraction and have no sex drive or even be repulsed by sex. However this doesn’t mean anyone should ever pressure you into having sex nor should you feel like you have to.

Another possibility is maybe your sexuality is very fluid. I know some people who have periods where they experience sexual attraction and then later can go a long time without (however I do not know much about this or if there is a term sorry)

Hope this help, if you have any additional questions feel free to ask or even message! Good luck with exploring your sexuality, just remember don’t ever try to force yourself to fit a label, make sure the label fits you and hey if there isn’t a label that fits you perfectly that’s chill too! It’s a journey of self discovery so be patient, do research. It took me a while before I really figured out how I identify. I’m here if you ever need to talk

Best! Oh and Happy New Year,

💜Shae

babblebunny

I’m calling this segment

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* Just Ace Things *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

aroloverboy

Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!

nerdygaymormon

these and more can be found at the Instagram account teabag.cartoon

anon-mom

I really like this because my flag is on there and that’s really rare. As a demisexual, we’re grouped in with asexuals which we is okay, but we have our own flag, and when I see it presented in art (similar to this) I get giddy.