Nerdy Gay Mormon

I live in Florida, work at a university, am a Mormon...oh, and I'm gay

[nerdygaymormon]

Hey quick question how are you chill paying tithing when the church uses it to fund queer genocide through conversion therapy? Like genuinely curious how you square that circle

This is a thing that I've wrestled with many times over the decades.

Before 2015, I did not pay any tithing for many years because I refused to donate to a church which used its funds to fight against equal rights for gay people. Once the Supreme Court made gay marriage the law of the land and the LDS Church stepped back from trying to influence people to vote against legal protections for gay people, I then revisited whether to pay tithing.

Why would I pay tithing to the LDS Church? Most of what those funds are used for are things like paying for the building and utilities, for supplies, for youth activities, for education. Also, the LDS Church has a large network of food assistance to help people during times of financial hardship. Another reason is that paying a tithe lets me serve in positions which put me in situations I can voice my queer perspective. I don't get to direct how the tithing donation will be spent, so yes, it's something I struggle with, but if I'm still part of this organization then I want to use my voice to influence it to do better.

There are times I have paid tithing to the LDS Church and also made what I think of as an offsetting donation to other organizations. Sometimes I paid tithing to a different church or to non-profits, somewhere it will be used for purposes like feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, sheltering the vulnerable.

Since it's related to your question, yes, the LDS Church and BYU have a horrible history in regards to conversion therapy. They are responsible for much harm and even deaths.

We should also point out that the LDS Church announced in 2019 that it opposes conversion therapy and its therapists no longer practice it. In 2020, after negotiations with LDS Church leaders, LGBTQ leaders in Utah, and Utah lawmakers, a compromise was reached to pass a state law banning licensed therapists from practicing conversion therapy on minors in Utah.

I wish the 2020 Utah law outright banned conversion therapy as it does extreme harm, and unfortunately this law doesn't stop people who aren't licensed therapists, like pastors or life coaches, to continue selling this snake oil to desperate people, but still it's a strong move in the right direction and was supported by the LDS Church.

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Gender is like a sandwich

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[amethystmoons]

I've written a poem based on my experiences as a queer mormon.

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Thank you for reading. I hope this resonates with you.

[gahdamnpunk]

I’m just now finding out Anne Frank was bi??? OMG

[luanna801]

Yeah okay, those edits were made by her dad, a cishet person - and also her dad, a Holocaust survivor, who would have been brutally aware that when the diary was first published in freakin’ 1947, had he included anything which people could use to demonize his daughter or tar her as some kind of “pervert”, it would prevent the message he was trying to send about the horrors of the Holocaust and the heroism of his daughter from being properly understood and accepted the way he hoped.

That isn’t fair. It isn’t just. But it is reality. If Otto Frank had let this be included in the published version, there’s a large chance the homophobic backlash would have prevented the book from reaching the audience it did and spreading the message it needed to. It was NINETEEN. FORTY. SEVEN. The Holocaust had ended TWO YEARS AGO. The acceptance of LGBT identities was basically nonexistent. Otto Frank made a decision based on the time and place he was living in, about what the world at that time was and wasn’t ready to accept. 

Let me say this as bluntly as I can - I am a bisexual Jewish girl and I would have made the same decision Otto Frank did. Making sure Anne Frank was unambiguously seen as sympathic and heroic was more important. Making sure people weren’t sidetracked from the main issue of the Holocaust was more important. He shouldn’t have had to make that decision, without doubt. Anne Frank’s sexuality (however she would have identified in modern terms) shouldn’t be considered relevant to her status as a hero or a sympathetic victim. But in 1947, it undoubtedly would have been.

Otto Frank survived Auschwitz and lost his entire family (a wife and two teenage daughters) to the horrors of the Holocaust. He hoped that publishing his daughter’s diary would spread awareness and sympathy for the victims of the Holocaust. If he had to make sacrifices to do that - well frankly, so fucking be it. I don’t know who alive today has the right to judge him. 

[queenofthefaces]

Let’s also look at this thread from a queer Jewish person who brings up the fact that ANNE FRANK EDITED HER DIARY HERSELF

[fagraklett]

Chinese emperor Ai of Han, fell in love with a minor official, a man named Dong Xian, and bestowed upon him great political power and a magnificent palace. Legend has it that one day while the two men were sleeping in the same bed, the emperor was roused from his sleep by pressing business. Dong Xian had fallen asleep across the emperor’s robe, but rather than awaken his peaceful lover, the Emperor cut his robe free at the sleeve. Thus “the passion of the cut sleeve” became a euphemism for same-sex love in China. — R.G.L.

[jeremyyyallan]

get you a dude who will fuck up his own clothing for you

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[the-uncultured-lesbian]

When Cyanide and Happyness gives the perfect explanation

[thottybrucewayne]

For as much as I love Paris Is Burning (1990) (It was foundational in my getting into ballroom history and learning more about the ballroom scene in my area when I was in my early 20s), I feel like we barely mention its spiritual sequel How Do I Look (2006) even though it gives a much better look into ballroom and how the popularity of Paris Is Burning affected the scene. It also touches on the issues participants of the og Paris Is Burning doc had with the handling of the og doc and the way the mainstream has been trying to exploit the ballroom scene since the second they found out about what it is. While Paris Is Buring is a deeply important part of our history, it should NOT be your first and last stop when learning about ballroom culture.

How Do I Look documentary, 2006

Director Wolfgang Busch is going deep into the Harlem Ballroom scene, connecting history, trends and culture. The “Ball” culture created num

[nerdygaymormon]

[deeplifequotes]

“You did not choose your: 1. birthplace 2. skin color 3. birth parents, family 4. birth gender 5. birth language 6. birth name 7. ethnicity 8. born abilities You can choose to be: 1. kind 2. generous 3. honest 4. grateful 5. respectful 6. optimistic 7. humble 8. teachable 9. faithful 10. happy‏”

— Vala Afshar