Relinquishing Control

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[your-heart-has-no-teeth]

I'm gonna delete this blog guys i'll prolly follow a bunch of the same ppl with as close to this same URL as I can I'm not super attached to this blog and it used to be my porn blog so I'm just gonna start over

[thegoodplacefans]

Manny Jacinto photographed by Sela Shiloni (2018)

[misshoneywheeler]

[oh-my-girk]

I was taking photos of my grandmas cat and !!!! He got the peg!!!!! !!!!!!!!!

[brotherslug-deactivated20190730]

[samcahntent]

[somewhat-honest-abe]

Blessed image

[shane-actually]

Punch Nazis!

[javsterbroww]

Graphic representation of Monique’s “when you do clownery, the clown comes back to bite”.

[islandboi420]

Always punch Nazis!.

[geekdawson]

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

[lysikan]

If it wasn’t stated outright - it wasn’t said.

[theselfcarelifestyle]

This is really one of the most important reads

[mugenmcfugen]

this is fucking good advice

[there-is-still-some-liquor-left]

hongry. sleepy. feral.

[there-is-still-some-liquor-left]

the sequel to eat, pray, love

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

still thinkin’ about how like 6 years ago my sister brie went to a psychic faire (as you do) and she thought fuck it i’ll get a past life reading and the lady told her she was lord byron in her last life and brie had never been more insulted in her life and to this day we still rip on her for having allegedly been lord byron.

someone will read some random fact about something dumb byron did or said and we’ll all look at brie like she’s accountable

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

every time i see a post about lord byron i just think of brie and how I can use it against her.

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

I’m YELLING Brie just found it about this post and came to yell at me but she accidentally just busted into the group chat mid conversation like

[romangodfrey-s]

shes got strong feelings about this

[rat-babies]

Good groomin

[mr-merlin]

merlin photos 3/∞

[drstrangefangirl8900-deactivate]

“Time will tell how much I love you”

Stephen Strange to Tony Stark on their engagement

[the-red-cassock]

Papa Nihil: Neapolitan Mastiff

Name: Luke (Lucifer)

Sister Imperator: Cane Corso

Name: Judge

Papa Emeritus: Miniature Poodle [allergies]

Name: Elizabeth (no abbr. that’s her name)

Papa Emeritus ii: Rottweiler

Name: Katie (Katherine)

Papa Emeritus iii: Great Pyrenees

Name: Marshmallow (no abbr that’s his name)

Cardinal Copia: French Bulldog

Name: Max (Maximus Decimus Meridius)

Forearms: Staffordshire Terrier

Name: Pat

Dewdrop: Bull Terrier

Name: Zeus

Tall Ghoulette: Irish Wolfhound

Name: Maurice

Smol Ghoulette: Scottish Deerhound

Name: Reggie

Mountain: Wolf

Name: Wolf

Rain: Pembroke Welsh Corgi

Name: Cookie

Swiss: Jack Russell Terrier

Name: Scarlett Johansson (no abbr that’s her name)

[e-seal-deactivated20210319]

[sighborgs]

discourse topic of the night: mini m&ms are objectively better than normal m&ms.

[sighborgs]

90% of the people in the notes are just saying the same thing over and over about the candy to chocolate ratio, but i’d really like to give a shoutout to this person, for wording it in the most cursed way they could manage

[wlwhobbits]

Legolas in the hobbit: yes I’m gay yes I’m homophobic yes we exist 😌🤘

[eltonjohndenver]

@op 

[captain-acab]

*Lemony Snicket voice* The word ‘poison’ here can mean many things. ‘Poison’ may literally refer to the presence of an unwashed llama in a stream from which a nearby village likely collects its drinking water. Likewise, it may figuratively refer to the effect of greed and isolation on the priorities of a young ruler, or the machinations of a villainous royal advisor on the health and wellbeing of said young ruler. In this case, however, ‘poison’ most literally refers to the poison, the poison for Kuzco, the poison chosen especially to kill Kuzco, Kuzco’s poison… That poison.

[ohifonlyx33]

i feel like i was just rick-rolled

[emotionalgf-deactivated20190226]

[nylaporp]

Sounds like something I would do

[thefatladysang]