i've met this guy twice, both occasions on christmas eve. he's a lot older than i am, in college, he's my cousins friend. he spends xmas eve w us bc hes russian, he goes to russia to celebrate xmas later. we both love physics and always get in v passionate conversations about science. he's so sweet and polite, he's so nice to my mom and he treats his mom really well, says thank you for every little thing, etc. this xmas i had a pixie cut, when he saw me he was like 'wow ur hair looks good' (1)
part2:(2) and he goes to cornell and does all this really awesome extracurricular stuff, he chose his major (applied physics) not to mention he's really really cute. there's a small chance that i won't see him for christmas eve next year, we might not go. i found his facebook but we've only met twice and he probably only sees me as a kid bc i'm so much younger than him, what do i do
from all of this he just sounds like a really nice person, who's really grateful that he gets to spend a day of the holidays with your family. and overall just a polite, nice and goal oriented person from the way you described him
however i would totally advise against pursuing anything if you’re not legal yet because thats just principle.
but if you’re 18+ there’s nothing wrong in trying something out.
if you’re 18, dont downplay yourself because of your age, loads of people date people older/younger than them. nothing wrong with that. as long as both people are compatible, on the same page and no one is being taken advantage of.
you’ve only met twice but it wasn't for 5 minutes, he spends a significant amount of time around your family and im sure everyone enjoys his company if he’s able to come around and be treated like a member of your family.
so for that reason adding him on Facebook wouldn't be weird. christmas is a petty big occasion, its not like you’ve seen him twice at a small even or something along those lines. he must be extremely close to your cousin so just remove him from that pedestal and view him as a family member almost-a very close family friend, nothing wrong with connecting on Facebook.
just again though, if you’re not 18, wait off making any moves. if you're 16-17, a lot could change in you until the next time you see him (especially if you're not seeing him next year).
so just take it easy, I've stressed before over adding people on Facebook but its really not a big deal.
if you're 18+ it really wouldn't hurt to try. whatever the outcome is, just have fun. again dont downplay yourself, if you see yourself as a kid, chances are people will view you as such. the way your view yourself actually has a significant of impact on how others view you because your self-perception affects the way you carry yourself, affects your confidence and everything that has to do with how people see you (not necessarily physical but character-wise, mentally, etc..)
take it with a grain of salt
have a great and safe rest of holidays 💖💖
