Your Life Spark

A sister blog to www.yourlifespark.com, written by an aspiring life coach about topics such as mental wellness, inspiration, success, overcoming failure, goal-setting, relationships, career, parenting, and more.

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You Are Not a Cake

You Are Not a Cake - You Are a Person

Just like you are not a cake, you are not a 'success' or 'failure.' Remove those phrases from your personal vocabulary. You are also not a 'cake-ing' person, as you are not a 'successful person' or a '(--> not a word - I made it up) failureful person.'

You are a person, doing your best to become proficient at a skill or achieve purpose-filled activities, which ultimately, leads to success.

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Keep going. Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.

— Roy T. Bennet, The Light In The Heart

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Why Are People So Mean?!

I remember the exact moment when "the magic light bulb" went off in my head that changed my entire perspective about humanity and people who do mean things. Before that, I took every mean thing someone said as a personal attack. I know I'm not alone in saying that when someone did or said something mean to me, I took it personally.

"But it's not about you. It's about them." Common advice on a perspective that, ultimately, was not helpful to me whatsoever. Why was it not helpful? Because it didn't address me or how I should react to it in the slightest. And that was the problem.

I already knew that it was my choice to speak up and let them know not to treat or talk to me that way. Does that help? Sometimes. Not all the time. Some people really just don't care about their impact on other people.

"I've lost faith in humanity."How many times have you heard other people say this in reaction to a mean thing someone says or does? There are good people out there who do good things every day and treat others with kindness. I know several of them personally.

When someone says "I've lost faith in humanity," what they're really saying is "I have expectations of humanity."

And therein lies the crux of the problem.

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A Better Way to Give a Compliment

What's even better than receiving a compliment? Giving a reason for the compliment. Don't leave your compliments empty. This is also a good way to give someone a compliment who doesn't receive them easily.

Here are some examples,

1 - You are beautiful, because you help other people, like when you helped your grandmother shop for groceries.

2 - I like your shoes, because they compliment your outfit.

3 - You are so intelligent, because you are always looking to learn new things.

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There comes a point when you either embrace who and what you are, or condemn yourself to be miserable all your days. Other people will try to make you miserable; don't help them by doing the job yourself.

— Laurell K. Hamilton

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How to Handle Toxic People

There are many different behaviors that, when practiced consistently, can be employed for the express purpose of ruining another person's relationships and mental health.

These include:

Always playing the victim, never taking responsibility for one's own actions, consistent projection on others of one's own flaws and mistakes, gas lighting, emotional or physically abusive behaviors, neglect or exclusion in order to manipulate others, and many more.

In order to be our best selves, it is imperative that we effectively deal with toxic people, because they are out there, oftentimes even within our own families.

So how do we deal with toxic people?

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You know what? You're an individual, and that makes people nervous. And it's gonna keep making people nervous for the rest of your life.

— Louise Fitzhugh

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I am finally in the driver seat of my own life.

I am picking the paths that work best for me, that align with my values.

I am discovering my own beliefs for myself, thinking for myself, loving myself.

I am reframing my mind so I can become the person I want to be.

I am becoming aware of my subconscious.

I am allowing myself to be open to new life skills.

I am creating the lifestyle habits that will help me reach my dreams.

I am living the life that feels right to me.

I am choosing how I react to everything, and how everything effects me.

I am in control of my emotions, my worry thoughts, they are not in control of me.

I am creating my own reality.

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Who You’ve Been Waiting For

Don’t wait for someone to guide you.

Take your own hand, dust yourself off, and pick yourself up.

Your past mistakes don’t dictate your future or your worth.

You are who you’ve been waiting for all along.

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Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work... And What Does:

Being positive when things are going negative is never going to work: it feels like you’re forcing it, trying to hard, ignoring situations or being plain stupid doesn’t it? When you try to be positive, you can hear the voice in your head telling you, “this isn’t going to work, what a waste of money, who are you kidding”.

The way anything is ever achieved is by building the new, and not focusing on the old.  Spend your time becoming clearer on what you do want how you want to live, who you want to become.  You are 100% responsible for your life, your happiness, and what you do with your time on Earth.  Ask yourself these questions: 1. If all the problems in my life were solved, how would I spend my time? 2. What do I have to do to be 100% happy and in love with myself? 3. What am I waiting for? 

So when you are really engaged in what is going on around you, it probably feels like all hell is breaking loose! The key out of this? Let it. Let it break loose, let things be as they are. Instead, you become clearer about what you want (and not what you don’t want).  Work toward that. And watch problems around you dissolve in the process.

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