just a quick note- no trans person has ever said âdid you just assume my gender.â trans people are very aware of how their gender and physical appearance differ and that visually one might assume that they are a man/woman when they are actually not. thatâs kind of the whole idea of gender dysphoria.Â
and also youâve beaten your âattack helicopterâ joke into the fucking ground. cut that shit out.
i wanted to add one more thing to this post that other people have pointed out: i know its an awkward question, but a lot of trans people are going to be 100% fine with you asking what their gender is, or with calmly correcting you if you get it wrong. and if theyâre not, then theyâre way more likely to keep it to themselves than get visibly angry with someone. this idea that trans people just go apeshit when people misgender them accidentally/when first meeting them is a complete fabrication for a stupid joke and thatâs why i despise it so much.Â
I canât afford to get visibly angry about people misgendering me because that puts me in danger of getting harmed. once a cis person finds out my gender, one of two things will happen: they either accept me to various degrees, or they reject me and potentially escalate the situation. politeness is the only way I can decrease the risk of the latter.
the âDID YOU ASSUME MY GENDER?!â trope only serves to make trans people look ridiculous/unreasonable in the eyes of cis people, and places in their minds preconceptions about us that makes it harder, ultimately, for us to come out safely. if all they know about trans people are shitty jokes, then we as a people become those jokes to them.
