i dont understand people’s perception of friendship anymore. do you only want to get to know people on a surface level? just for cute instagrammable moments?
do you not care deeply about them and understand that they are complex human beings who experience a range of emotions?
your friend being vulnerable with you is not trauma dumping. you don’t have to be a grief counselor to be there for your friend while they cry about a loved one dying. or just a rough time they’re having.
i mean, do you only have deep discussions with a therapist and not friends or family? if so, that’s weird tbfh and not utilizing therapy properly.
it’s all so incredibly bizarre to me. everyone’s always talking about yearning and loneliness, but if a friend starts to cry about their dying grandma it’s like, “oop, girly i dont have the Headspace for that. here’s my discount code for betterhelp.com” weirdo shit tbh
UMMMMMMMMMMMMM crawling from the dead to tell you all aka my friends that i ended up cuddling on the couch with this guy while watching movies >< my heart is so weak
-Hone in on what you love doing right now and don’t stop doing it. Anything like painting, theater, reading, etc. will become grounding activities as you grow older, and you’ll find it imperative to stick to your roots.
-The best thing you can do is live for you. Not for anyone else. Let people guide you but don’t ever let them overrule you. You make yourself, so ensure that the you you’re creating is authentic.
-Don’t wait until you do so and so to feel ready for something else. Keep active plans to get to your goals.
-Don’t talk to anybody romantically until you know who you are first. People won’t be able to connect with you on that level if you can’t first connect with yourself. Also, don’t bother “holding” anyone down but yourself. People are fickle, you exist until you don’t.
-When we transition from girlhood to womanhood, most of the time we still hide behind “older” people because we see them as more knowledgeable. You have to let that idea go. Adults are just as stupid as kids, except they can legally drink. Don’t be afraid to put your voice out there, even if it opposes seniority.
-Learn how to create and cultivate friends that genuinely care for you. Those people that barely text you or forget about you when events come up are not your friends. Don’t take bullshit from them because you don’t want to be lonely.
-Learn moderation. Partying, drugs, sex, etc. all become more prevalent as you grow older and there’s nobody to tell you to stop but yourself. Don’t become an alcoholic because you didn’t wanna seem like a drag to some drunkhappy friends.
-Don’t wait until later to start building a financial foundation for yourself. Get a good savings account now, adopt a budgeting method, look into investing. Go to seminars and conferences about money even if you’re the youngest person in the room. You will be lightyears ahead of your peers.
-Find value in slightly older friends. They’ll show you what you shouldn’t do and help prepare you for your future. It’s how I know the majority of the things I do.
-Avoid quick gratification. It’ll satiate you for a while but you will still be hungry for something better afterwards.
-Being alone is important. I highly recommend living alone before you get roommates (if that’s financially affordable) because you learn not to base your identity off of other people’s belongings. Our homes become an extension of us. You need to learn how to be independent and how to cultivate your space free of others’ opinion. You need to cook naked in the morning and dance in your living room at night. It is a feeling of freedom that is irreplaceable, and it’ll be one you always remember if someone tries to make you dependent on them. Outside of your living space, go to museums and festivals and operas alone. Have fun. Make new friends. Realize that you shine just fine all on your own. You are not meant to be hidden behind other personalities in your friend group all the time.
-Everything you do, learn how to do it well. And then learn how to turn that well into damn near perfect. Always strive for the best when your work is representing you.
-Deletion ain’t nothing but an action boo. Somebody unimportant is annoying you? Delete! Instagram feed making you too mad? Delete! Friend refuses to do right by you? Delete! Of course you need to develop communication tactics but some people don’t deserve that time and don’t you waste it on them either. Anything you don’t want in your life, you can get rid of. Remember that. You don’t have to stay suffering.
last series i watched: currently binging winx club <3
last movie i watched: black panther
sweet, savory, or spicy?: savory > sweet > salty
craving: well now i’m craving mie goreng thanks vie </3 (jkjk ily bb)
currently working on: HAHA too many things including -> teenage dream (jake shim), the amor files: lumos (jaemin na), i’m in love with a monster (sungchan jung)
tagged by: @koishua aka the actual light of my life
tagging: @penny-quinn @enhyphun @enluv @youngiez @yourlocalhotgf @sankyeom @starryskiee @floraljae @jensrose and whoever wants to do it!
YAYAY okay thank you @cloudwaeve for the tag I APPRECIATE IT💖💖💖
Favorite color: 💜
Currently reading: Nothing. I dread reading books in any context 😎👍 I admire people who do actually enjoy reading tho. It is a gift that I do not have.
Last song I listened to: Stockholm - Bianca
Last movie I watched: Back to the future (for like the 20ith time help)
Sweet, savory, or spicy?: Savory>>>>
Craving: a singular snake bite piercing and women’s shirts that are cute but also don’t have stupidly short sleeves (no I will not explain)
Currently working on: A post 🤪 but other than that hardly anything cause I was just on vacation for a week. Also trying to improve my tarot skills a bit.
Anybody who sees this is 100% welcome to reblog with their own answers!!
Currently reading: Crime and Punishment, by Fyodor Dostoevsky (Raskolnikov is too much, honestly, I wish he would just shut up goddammit fuck)
Last song I listened to: The last song I REMEMBER listening to was Hallelujah, covered by Rufus Wainwright, but I know for a fact it wasn’t the last song I heard, just the last one I remember.
Last movie I watched: Fried Green Tomatoes (incredible film, go watch it now), according to my listography, but I think I’m forgetting something. Last thing I watched that was a show was Star Trek TNG.
Sweet, savory, or spicy?: Sweet.
Craving: To finish the things I’ve been working on for so long am I rite, haha help.
Currently working on: A drawing and a 📝 WIP :)
I’ll tag @ukiyowi, @moonsetlover, @dianaoflight, @the-wild-candy and anybody who sees this. Just do it (it’s what I did).
favorite color: i have a lot 😭 all shades of pink purple green yellow orange brown red blue – but no neons, only dark/neutral/maybe pastels, or electric shades for pink n blue (idk how to describe it lmaoo) – anyways my go to color would be black 💀🤚
currently reading: emma by jane austen and also finishing the midnight library by matt haig
last song i listened to: love me harder - ariana grande (currently listening to it rn as i type xD)
last movie i watched: fear street part 2: 1978 (i’m surprisingly fine with watching all the scenes but had to sleep with lights on the next two nights so…)
sweet savory or spicy?: savory & sweet > spicy
craving: to travel
currently working on: some posts 😎 like 4 or 5…
🔖 no pressure tags: @sunkissedchld @riuascita @augustnotes @yashashveeroy and anyone who’d like to join <333
!! 𝐃𝐈𝐒𝐂𝐋𝐀𝐈𝐌𝐄𝐑 ¡¡ they're only personal observations so take what resonates <3 the entire chart matters! — this one's kinda long XD enjoyyyyy
observations made using tropical placidus house system unless specified! i don't own any images in this post :">
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we all know aquarius people as trend-setters right? but if they're late to a trend they won't join 😭 only until it dies down and they start it again. same goes with prominent uranus.
7H mercury people remember their crushes birthdays better than of their friends'.
remember taurus placements & 2H virgos with a keen sense of smell and taste? i notice that they have a specific scent(s) they like too.
me when asked "what scents do you like?": the smell of books, shampoo, etc.
them with the same question: *inserts that one specific perfume brand and name*
and when we go to sephora they'll be at the perfume section testing and smelling every scent while i'm just🧍♀️
aquarius placements have a lot of hot goss on people (doesn't mean they gossip/bad-mouth others, they just know things - like being in the inner circle).
my parents both have neptune in 5H (tropical whole signs) and me & my 3 siblings all have pisces in our big 3.
not me looking at my 5h saturn & moon expecting to get capricorn or cancer kids 👀 while also wondering if i'll ever have kids at all
saturn - moon harsh aspects during childhood they might have secluded themselves from their family.
like avoiding family dinners and eating alone at a different time or always staying in their room
pisces kids usually want to have their own independent room.
THEY NEED ALONE TIME
they don't feel comfortable being themselves around others, so sharing a room with someone is a no no
unless they spend the whole day somewhere else and only go back to the shared room at night then maybe
aquarius placements usually have (& buy) a lot of electronic devices.
like 2 phones in different models, 2 ipads, 2 airpods, or a laptop but they'd also buy a bluetooth mouse and/or keyboard
pisces & aquarius placements likes gaming and bingeing movies.
aquarius placements do things for no reason. if you ask them why they did something, expect to get a *genuine* "i don't even know" response.
aquarius placements are good with technology, and could even be talented at coding.
the sign on your 3H cusp can show what your fingers and fingernails look like.
air signs: BEAUTIFUL hands, big and clean cut nails
fire signs: short (usually bitten) fingernails, small tiny nails
earth signs: long nails as they rarely cut it, likes getting their nails done (no need for acrylics because they already have their long ass nails 😭)
water signs: size of nails varies, fingers are curvy/can be bent easily
3H gemini can mimic others' handwritings easily, also art (imitating the hand movements).
pisces, capricorn, scorpio – they are attracted to people with emo dark aesthetics, eboy/egirl kinda type.
random thought but earth signs make up a tree.
capricorn: the seed — planting requires a lot of hard work and effort to grow (cardinal & saturn energy)
taurus: the tree — keeps growing & rooted at the same place, preserves through the weather (fixed energy)
virgo: the leaves — transitions, adapts and changes colors every season (mutable energy)
pisces are the type to sleep right after they come home from work or school.
the cleanest, tidiest, most organized person i know has a 6H stellium of sun, pluto, and mercury.
absolutely NO fingerprints on their laptop screen & their room is always tidy + decorated
if a virgo likes you, expect TONS of gift-giving (food or like practical stuff) and acts of service.
mars conjunct asc often have reddish cheeks.
˴ ✦ TINY SYNASTRY CORNER !!
mercury in 8H makes the mercury person's words really stick to the house person's head. the house person may take it personally or very intensely but something just makes them keep pondering.
neptune in 12H – the neptune person might predict some things that will happen to the house person.
venus in 1H – even if you don't know one another personally or never met irl, just put pictures of you and them next to each other and see people compliment on how good of a couple you make/look.
you and them could also have matching aesthetics, similar pictures regarding color themes and aesthetic ;)
༄˖ ࣪⭑ 𝐑𝐈𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐒𝐈𝐆𝐍𝐒 !!
cancer risings' eyes remind me of tim burton's cartoons. big round eyes that's bulging out a bit and possibly could just POP out (inserts joey-tribbiani-shocked-face.jpg).
cancer risings have wide and prominent forehead that really stands out when you look at them (kinda like a crab's shell!), and especially as they age it gets even widerrr.
i kept looking at matt leblanc's (joey tribbiani) and matthew perry's (chandler bing) forehead when i was bingeing on friends and now i finally know why
makes me wonder if leighton meester (gossip girl's blair waldorf <333) is a cancer rising cuz i kept staring at her forehead xD plus the BIG eyes
cancer risings (sometimes) move like strands of noodles, kinda lanky and squiggly with their arms and legs.
i noticed that many cancer risings like plants and they take very good care of it.
cancer risings just give off super kind and comforting vibes <3
i love cancer risings so much and cancers in general, they're usually the one to randomly check up on you to make sure your feeling okay 🥺
pisces risings have dreamy tired-looking eyes, but when they SMILE it's just 🥺🥰💘💘✨ their eye smiles 😭💘 will 🤛 literally 🤛 make 🤛 you go soft
also when pisces risings smile, they usually have softer round corners of their mouth and their upper teeth are usually a bit forward, widee smiles btw.
pisces risings, especially women, are often asked "are you ok? you look sick" 💀💀
i mean "no we're just not wearing makeup" – from experience
leo risings got that gang leader type of vibe.
leo risings (that i know), LOVES branded clothing and everything designer brands.
and even for unnecessary things like a louis vuitton phone case, a chanel strap for the suitcase handle, a prada glasses then another glasses but in louis vuitton so they can choose which one to wear depending on their mood
i was wondering why my leo rising best friend is SOO LEO RISING, until i noticed that she's also a leo rising in her sidereal chart LMAO (cuz her tropical leo ascendant is at 26° so when it moves back in vedic it's still in leo 💀)
no i did not just roast her with the branded things
that's why leo risings are BIG BIG spenders.
and also why they have BIG generous hearts <333 they're very self-less people, like if you both want something they'd let you have it first.
she (♌︎ asc) and i (♓︎ asc) were also roommates and her room is always bright while mine's always dark.
even the room placements – her room would have more sunlight through her windows than mine (we didn't choose the rooms).
another pisces rising i know also tend to have dim bed lights in their room.
i have a virgo rising friend and at first i'm like ??? cuz she doesn't look like one (mostly appearance – she does have the mercurian nervousness). then i saw she's a leo rising in sidereal and finally 🧩puzzles are solved🧩 she has rectangular head shape and veryy thick bouncy hair.
˴ ✦ THE ASC GUESSING CORNER !!
my guesses on their rising signs are entirely based on how i felt about their vibes and appearance :) little to no analysis. i cannot guarantee accuracy at all lol anyways give it a guess if you want !!
① sulli – pisces rising
looked soft 24/7, probably could be because her pisces stellium too (mercury, mars, saturn in pisces). if she's a pisces rising then the stellium would be in her first house! shows how direct she was, how she wasn't afraid to voice her opinions, and especially how she expressed her personality/color in a creative pisces way. anyhow, very talented and creative, with a smile that makes me go soft everytime :"<
② lee yumi – pisces rising (and maybe aquarius)
our lovely player 240 in squid game, yes she reminds me of sulli, ethereal vibes, soft, gives you a "wanna protecc" her kinda feels, alien-ish as well. i think she could be a tropical pisces rising and a vedic aquarius rising. it's also bc the way she smiled in this ig video – lowkey reminded me of someone i know who smiles like that in videos + have those placements above. but the way she smiled in the photo up there also reminds me of someone else i know lollolo and fun fact she has the same birthday with another friend of mine. omg she reminds me of so many people – now i'm even more convinced (the aquarius rising thing and how they're mistaken for a lot of people – @jojoangelley's observation).
③ lee jungjae – cancer rising
mr. gihun player 456 ! first of all, the forehead staring thing 💀 and the big eyes. tho they are a bit droopy/down-turned they're still BIG. his overall vibe is warm & nurturing. and when he smiled omg it feels so wholesome and heartwarming sosbj could be a little bit influenced by his character in squid game but that's just how i felt when i saw him.
④ leighton meester - cancer rising
veryyy BIGG EYES. and then i stare at her forehead quite a lot (i'm sorry idk what's with me and the staring at people's forehead thing but many of them do turn out to be cancer risings XDDD) her blair waldorf role in gossip girl is a toxic mean character lowk obsessive BUT im soft for her ndksn she's like a cinnamon bun 🥺 instant liking w her since the beginning (which happens to me when i meet cancer risings)
⑤ jung jaewon - cancer rising
hehe i already mentioned him in the previous astro observation but gonna do it again cuz now i'm more certain with my guess 😈 BIG ROUND eyes again and he has this thing where he emphasizes his eyes during interviews – when he listens to the questions his eyes kinda widens a little, generally many eye movements – which actually looks kinda nervous (air sign thingy) AND it made me think of the possibility of having a tropical cancer rising and a vedic gemini rising ;) not sure tho! just maybe. and i also remember reading somewhere that the sun shows appearance more? so at first i thought his wide forehead was because of his aries sun but now that i know cancer risings' foreheads...
tiny fact :: jaewon and sulli were born on the same day, month, and year! only different cities & time.
that's all for this time's observations! i hope you enjoyed it and reblogs are 10000000% appreaciated (о´∀`о) feel free to comment down your thoughts <3
remember :: this are just personal observations, might not be accurate + other aspects or placements from the rest of the chart can affect it differently ^^
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