Lessons from Jonghyunās death
Hello everyone! First of all, my deepest condolences to Jonghyunās friends and family. As a fan, itās really hurts to hear this news. I couldnāt even imagine what his sister or Shinee members are feeling right now.
Next, to the matter of Jonghyunās reasons for his heart-breaking suicide.
As we all heard, he thought that he wasnāt talented, he felt old and he couldnāt do anything about it. While the fans clearly see that he was a talented and capable man.
We all look up to him. We saw his smile, his charismatic self even with all those obstacles that were thrown to him through his 10 years of being a celebrity. He was so amazing in our eyes.
We just saw the good sides and we couldnāt notice how much he had suffered. We put him and any other celebs on pedestal that we didnāt notice how great of a burden it was.
Now iām not going to continue with āIt was our biggest mistakeā¦ā No. It wonāt solve or change anything. Instead, Iām going to continue withā¦
Be Kind. Everywhere. Even on the Internet where you can say something hurtful anonymously.
Yes. Just that. Be kind. When you find something you donāt like, unless you have something useful or constructive criticism to say (try to see the difference with negative comments), just turn away. Thereās nothing to gain in bullying.
Scroll through Jonghyunās social medias and you will find bad comments here and there (or worse, everywhere). Now I know that some of you might think that, as a public figure, hurtful words being thrown at him is something akin to daily occurences. That he was trained to smile and accept anything said to him but he still couldnāt say anything back.
But no, people. No. No one deserve hurtful words as daily occurence. Even if heās public or galaxy figure. Why? The simple answer is because
In the end, we are all humans.
The annoying version of the answer is you can try to find the definition of public figure. But you wonāt find any definition that says āa public figure is someone who should accept any hurtful, hate or inappropriate comments, voluntarilyā
Being a public figure doesnāt mean that he has to accept hate. Being a public figure doesnāt mean he welcome all the hates directed toward him.
Now, to the next question. What do I do with people who say something hurtful to others, or specifically, my idol?
I get that itās hard to hold your wonderful fingers back from typing even more vicious reply. Like dude, I can roast waaaaay better than that.
But hold it! Donāt step down to the same level as thoseā¦ insensitive people. Remember we are all the same kinds. You roast pigs or chickens or beef. But you donāt roast human. Donāt be inhuman.
Reply with more elegance. Reply like the educated person that you are. Iām going to offer you an example.
Maybe something simple like āIām amazed by the time that you dedicated to comment on this personās post. This person that you donāt like. Are you sure youāre a hater?ā
See the difference with āF*** you! I bet you canāt even sing! And btw I saw your profile pic, youāre so ugly as *censored*ā
Wow. Talking about heaven and earth.
So with your way of replies, it will affect the idols that you admired too. People will see that this idol have a good-mannered fan. Your idol, your role model, will be seen as good too. See my point? Youāre nice, your role model is nice too.
Alright, my rants are getting too long. To close this post, Iām gonna give you a reminder.
Before you start fanwars, before you say something hurtful to others, before you give some baseless accusation,
Remember! Everyone is fighting a battle that you know nothing about.
