[lifeafterpsychiatry]

The disabled people who can't work at all aren't "lucky" that they don't have to, just like the disabled people who are forced by circumstances to work despite severe symptoms aren't "lucky" that they can... Instead of idealizing one of two equally challenging situations, what about a little solidarity and compassion?

[futch-disaster]

incredible gender homie! can ı raw you?

[effemimaniac]

bro whys your i circumcised

[wellwaterhysteria]

hot girls have wonky brain chemistry. hot girls are too autistic do to something specific today. hot girls aren't girls half the time. hot girls have a lot of opinions. about a lot of stupid stuff. hot girls. forget what the last thing on this list was going to be.

[wellwaterhysteria]

hot girls want a little drinky drink for being SUCH a brave little boy today.

[enchantingruinscandy]

[but-the-library-of-alexandria]

an underrated detail in pride and prejudice is that elizabeth bennett was home alone on the day darcy proposed because she had a headache. can you imagine. this was in the pre-painkillers era. you're at home with a headache and then this asshole walks into the room and tells you he loves you and wants to marry you even though he hates your whole family and you're beneath him. imagine having to deal with that while also having a headache. she doesn't even have ibuprofen

[log6]

you block ‘liberally’ you say? Well I block marxistly. Just one of the many ways in which I’m better than you

[zephvros]

finally watched rogue one. that was brutal actually

[calellon]

women of the world unlearn your my nose ugly complex

[antidisneyinc]

when hayao miyazaki said that true love was two people inspiring each other to live…recognizing just how hard living is, putting one foot in front of the other every day, how easy it is to lose our passion for it…… that’s the real shit

[projectiondepartment]

btw. one of my professors showed us this website that’s put together syllabi on a range of topics (e.g imperialism, the novel, pandemic/disease theory), in case anyone’s interested ! i think you have to source the texts in question yourselves, but it’s arranged pretty well imo

[joan-watsonsarchive-blog-deacti]

[loboflaco-deactivated20221016]

I’m honestly fucking appalled that the greater LGBT community is dead silent on the fact that the Indian Child Welfare Act is going under review which means that white people are finalizing their steps at complete genocide against us (Native peoples). They will sterilize all Natives and steal our babies to be raised by you demons (white people). I’m sure the gays are silent though because how many white gays adopt children not of their own race. Fucking baby stealers.

[thebreakfastgenie]

This post is homophobic. Calling gay parents specifically "baby stealers" is homophobic. This isn't an issue related to LGBT rights, so why would you call out the LGBT community specifically? Saying "the gays" sounds exactly like a Republican.

[virgo-dicks-deactivated20241026]

First off, he’s not using “baby stealers” lightly.

The purpose of the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) is "...to protect the best interest of Indian Children and to promote the stability and security of Indian tribes and families by the establishment of minimum Federal standards for the removal of Indian children and placement of such children in homes which will reflect the unique values of Indian culture... "(25 U.S. C. 1902). ICWA provides guidance to States regarding the handling of child abuse and neglect and adoption cases involving Native children and sets minimum standards for the handling of these cases.

https://www.bia.gov/bia/ois/dhs/icwa

Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) | Indian Affairs

This law is literally to establish the MINIMUM requirements under which the State can remove indigenous children in order to promote keeping indigenous children with their families (which is far far far more likely to benefit the child than not btw). Indigenous children were quite literally STOLEN from their families & communities to give to white families in order to forcibly assimilate them.

He is “calling out the LGBT community” because he is LGB(T) himself! He is specifically discussing a major reckoning with the protections of indigenous people (of which he is also one along with being LGBT) coming up from the Supreme Court.

LGBT indigenous ppl will be affected. White LGBT ppl including “white gays” who are interested in adopting are generally complicit and ACTIVE in the process of pursuing the types of adoption that 1) uphold the white supremacist nature of indigenous cultural gwnocide & 2) SERVE AS A DETRIMENT TO THE CHILD.

You’re getting mad over a indigenous trans person expressing frustration over a major political moment and how whiteness, especially white gayness, still continues to damage his literal family & community.

Yes, LGBT people are often barred from adoptions due to homophobia & transphobia. That can be true while simultaneously discussing how certain “white gays” can use racial and class privilege to overcome these stereotypes AND turn around and actively steal indigenous children via “state sanctioned” “adoption” (it’s literally theft).

The important part is how we as white gay people need to be cognizant of how our limited cultural “acceptance” is allied specifically with upholding white supremacy that would rather steal indigenous children from their families via “adoption”.

I know this is hard, coming to terms with the fact that adoption as an industry is inherently damaging and STRONGLY racially & class biased to the extent that the Federal government had to implement minimum standards to prevent literal child theft. But it is vitally important. You are not exempt from this, we are not exempt from this, white LGBT people who are interested in adopting especially are not exempt from this.

You should apologize to OP for your misunderstanding & wasting his time. If you are also interested in adopting as a white LGBT person, please seek out additional information about Indian Child Welfare Act & it’s consequences.

[loboflaco-deactivated20221016]

@virgo-dicks thank you, it’s truly nice to have people stand up for me. No matter how deep the atrocity done to us , Native people must be silent and thankful that white people have “allowed” us to live at all or we risk “alienating allies” that “would otherwise be willing to fight for us”. So I appreciate the time you’ve taken to say anything at all on my behalf.

[leftheel]

Also, the reason OP is speaking to white gays specifically is because we (I say that as I am, myself, a white gay) are in a unique place RE: adoption BECAUSE it's so often touted as the "solution" to us not being able to have biological kids. For many gay people who express a desire to have kids, it's the first solution handed to us. And, for many, why wouldn't it be? White gays get to enter into a semi-traditional family structure, and some poor orphan gets a family...win-win.

But that's not the truth. Many white gay people adopt internationally or interracially - and they do so as an explicit expression of white saviorism. White gays use their gayness as a shield from criticism (something the commenter is blatantly ignoring). They ignore that many "orphans" have loving families who WANT to keep them, but who lose their children to the foster system due to racial prejudice or even more blatant kidnapping.* They ignore the pattern of countries opening their borders to adoptees only to close them when thousands of children go missing. Adoption is a pretty uniquely bipartisan issue (see: the reaction to the Haiti earthquake in the early 2000s), to act as if only Republicans can cause harm erases how Democrats & many leftists ENCOURAGE the dehumanization of babies of color for...political prowess.

TLDR: The history of white people STEALING BABIES from families abroad and from sovereign Indigenous nations does not end because the white people happen to be gay.

*Arguably CPS/the foster care system is also kidnapping but I think it's different than, say, lying to parents that the child will be returned. It is functionally the same but I think grouping them together dissuades nuances RE the different ways governmental and/or Evangelical groups commit genocide (cultural and otherwise).

[loboflaco-deactivated20221016]

@peachyteabuck thank you! I really appreciate your time taken to spell this out for people. I have a college degree in gender, race, and identity theory and another degree specifically in Native Studies. I have written papers on exactly what you have described above but I wasn’t going to provide that information for free to people that were telling me to kill myself lol. So the time taken as a white person to hopefully get other white people to leave me alone is deeply deeply appreciated

[rxfraud-deactivated20211015]

people talk about abuse like it's pathologically aberrant behavior but it's more like the logical conclusion of a variety of structural and interpersonal factors, particularly the nuclear family model, which depends on gender ideology as well as the codification of children as property. but it's much easier in many ways to perpetuate the idea that some people are "just evil" (/diagnosable) than to acknowledge how the behaviors we call abuse are not only culturally excused but actually encouraged and enforced. of course, that would implicate virtually all adults in a complex and nuanced way instead of demarcating a specific group of Bad Men To Be Punished, so.

[freshmoviequotes]

Everything Everywhere All at Once (2022)

[shonenpicture]

[natalieironside]

Being a mom and an anarchist and trying to figure out the whole "parenting" song and dance from that perspective makes me think 8-year-olds have about got it figured out. I hate school. I hate tests. I hate bedtime.

[cuetheviolins]

No like here’s the thing: children are an oppressed class. I mean that 100% sincerely. Children m are an oppressed class. They quite literally do not have the right to be free human beings.

Reposting from my twitter here, but: you wouldn't prevent an adult from speaking to their friend or eating when they were hungry. In your personal life that's abusive behavior, in the work sphere a suppression of workers' rights. Other places these rights are violated include: prison.

In Education and Peace, Maria Montessori describes the culture of war and identifies it as originating, on a personal level, in the struggle between the adult and the child that begins as soon as the child is born. This is the very first conflict. The adult subjects the child to their own wants and needs and completely disregards the needs, development and personhood of the child. This struggle continues throughout childhood, between both parents and children and other adults and children:

“Both the adult and the child are unaware of their own characteristic natures. They fight one another in a secret struggle that has gone on for countless generations and is becoming more violent today in our complicated and nerve-racking culture. The adult defeats the child; and once the child reaches adulthood the characteristic signs of the peace that is only an aftermath of war—destruction on one hand and painful adjustment on the other—remain with him for the rest of his life.”

This conflict positions children and adults relative to each other as two distinct classes, one with power and one without. Of course, there are other conflicts at play here—race is a huge one, gender another. And that’s not to say children can’t have power over parents, etc. But one of the most fundamental class conflicts is between adults and children.

Children exist in a state of war from day one. Their environment is completely unsuitable to them; they’re treated as if that’s their fault. They’ve literally been alive for less than a decade. Any action they take is done as a result of class conflict.

[natalieironside]

I vibe so hard w/ this

[sawasawako-archived]

[sawasawako-archived]

“To begin by always thinking of love as an action rather than a feeling is one way in which anyone using the word in this manner automatically assumes accountability and responsibility. We are often taught we have no control over our “feelings.” Yet most of us accept that we choose our actions, that intention and will inform what we do. We also accept that our actions have consequences. To think of actions shaping feelings is one way we rid ourselves of conventionally accepted assumptions such as that parents love their children, or that one simply “falls” in love without exercising will or choice, that there are such things as “crimes of passion,” i.e., he killed her because he loved her so much. If we were constantly remembering that love is as love does, we would not use the word in a manner that devalues and degrades its meaning.”

– bell hooks, All About Love