The Sweetest Suffering

[sootheandsavage]

About This Account

Welcome! I’m Savage, or Sav (she/her).

this is a NSFW + SFW whump blog. I mostly reblog things I enjoy from the whump community, with the occasional addition, commentary, or bit of writing from me.

I’ve been into whump for a long time, and tend to gravitate toward the hurt side of the genre more than extended recovery or caretaking. comfort exists here, but it’s rare.

I’m aware of NSFW whump discourse. This blog isn’t really for that. I’m here to enjoy the genre, not argue about its legitimacy or moral standing.

Fan of / Favorite tropes

• recapture whump

• conditioned / obedient whumpees

• whumpee begging or offering themselves

• villain whumpee

• nonhuman Whumpee

• restraint, collars, blindfolds

• loss of autonomy & partial reclamation

• existential / cosmic horror that feels whump-adjacent

• nsfwhump

• pet whump

not really my thing / squicks

• Any mention of scat

• explicit torture and gore

• death of Whumpee or Caretaker

• Parasites or bugs in whump

• Exploitation of a disability

• female whumpees with male whumper

• stalking/yandere dynamics framed as romantic

• Anything about cheating

• Pregnancy whump

(this isn’t a moral judgment, just personal taste.)

Content & Warnings

this blog may include noncon, abuse, captivity, kink, trauma, and occasional gore

everything here is fictional

I use appropriate tags and content warnings, so please curate your own experience and take care of yourself.

My masterlist

Tagging & Navigation

I tag consistently: #soothe– silly posts, memes, non-whump content #savage– whump and horror and terror #soothe and savage– announcements, PSAs, community warnings

Boundaries

18+ only

please don’t repost my writing without credit

please don’t feed my work into AI

I do not do politic discourse at all - please don't talk to me about it

I welcome asks - don't be shy to send me something

Some Quick Facts About Me

I like the chocolate guy

My favorite poet is Edgar Allen Poe

I enjoy cooking, learning about mycology, and random trivia about vampires.

I’m a fan of dark humor

I have a constant soundtrack in my brain

That’s about it.

if this sounds like your vibe, welcome! And if not, no hard feelings. — Sav

[sootheandsavage]

It's hitting me again how the people deep in "weird," "creepy," or "dangerous" labeled stuff, especially the whump writers/artists and the BDSM crowd, are often the ones who are actually the most respectful toward themselves and everyone else.

The louder folks yell about being "normal," "pure," and "morally superior," the more they tend to steamroll consent, ignore triggers, demand everyone perform comfort for their sake, and treat other people's boundaries like optional suggestions. They have a hard time understanding that not everything is, or even should be, about them.

But then you look at:

The whump blog that always has massive trigger warnings, extensive tag lists, "dead dove: do not eat" headers, and checks in like "hey, is this squick okay or should I cw heavier?"

The BDSM practitioners negotiating scenes down to the letter, using safewords/traffic lights/check-ins/aftercare like it's second nature

The roleplay partnerwho pauses mid-whump thread to ask "Are you okay with this level of gore/intimate whump/psychological torture?"

The person whose entire online persona is "caretaker-coded sadist" but who still goes "your boundaries come first, full stop"

They live in spaces where harm is literally the fantasy or the play, so they are hyper-aware of what isn't fantasy. Consent isn't an afterthought; it's the whole foundation. Whatever you vibe with, the culture drills in: check, negotiate, respect revocation, don't assume.

Meanwhile the self-proclaimed "wholesome only" corners can turn vicious the second someone admits they like something they find "not acceptable". Zero chill about someone else's fictional lines.

Funny how the people most comfortable exploring/expressing/reading about "monstrous" things are frequently the least likely to actually violate you. The monsters know they're playing monsters. The "normal" ones sometimes forget they're supposed to be human.

[only-tiktoks]

[sootheandsavage]

this is a nightmare Trainwreck and everyone should see it

[inhurtandincomfort]

Yet another OC Ask Game!

I will do my best to send everyone who reblogs this an ask, so that everyone gets one! If I do miss you pls let me know!

☕How would they take their coffee? 

🥐Sweet or savoury?

🐈What is their favourite animal?

🌓Day or night?

📚How did they do in school?

👐What is their relationship with their family like? 

🎭What emotion do they feel the most? 

🙏What is their relationship with religion? 

💖What’s something they like about themselves? Can be a physical feature, a personality trait, anything about them. 

😶What’s something they dislike about themselves? Can be a physical feature, a personality trait, anything about them. 

💤How do they sleep at night? What’s their sleep schedule like?

👨‍👧‍👦Do they want children? Would they be a good parent? 

💼If they had to/could get a different job than what they currently have, what would they do? 

🌍How many languages do they speak?

✈Have they ever left their home country? How many countries have they been to? 

💘Have they ever been in a relationship? How many?

🤑How’s their financial situation?

🍂What’s their favourite season?

🎄What’s their favourite holiday?

😕What’s their biggest regret?

🧎‍♀️If they could speak with their childhood self, what would they say?

🎠What would their childhood self say to their adult self?

🐇Do they have any pets? Do they want any?

🔷Do they collect anything?

🧭How is their sense of direction?

😉How is their confidence? 

🥊How is their physical fitness? 

💚Which of the seven deadly sins do they embody the most? 

👮‍♂️Have they ever been arrested?

🧠Are they more likely to follow their head or their heart?

🎶Pick three songs that represent this character.

🥶What is this character's primary fear response; Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn? 

🎁What is something others are surprised to learn about this character?

🚬How likely are they to give in to peer pressure?

🦄Do you have any AUs for your OC? What AU would be interesting to explore?

🩹How is their pain tolerance? 

⚔What is their weapon of choice? Are they actually trained to use it?

💡How good is their gut instinct? Do they follow it?

🙉What is something your character wants to hear, vs what do they need to hear? How would they react to being told these things?

🍝How good is their cooking?

🍷How’s their alcohol tolerance?

🎮What type of video game do/would they enjoy?

🌈Would they ever dye their hair? What colour? 

😳What is their most embarrassing moment? 

😘How would your character behave around their crush?

🎂When is their birthday? How do they celebrate?

🙊How are they at keeping secrets?

[johnny-depp-is-loved]

I’m barely on TikTok but. Yikes. Be careful y’all

[gazpachoandbooks]

Gandalf, to Bilbo: please, listen to the Took in you!

Gandalf, to Pippin: for the love of all that is holy STOP LISTENING TO THE TOOK IN YOU

[the-bar-sinister]

Remember when I told ya'll last month to be ready to start looking for a Discord alternative?

Yeah things aren't looking good for discord.

[the-bar-sinister]

#what is the alternative anyway

If you want a direct alternative there's Revolt, which is a free, open source discord clone.

Revolt is the chat app that's truly built with you in mind.

[the-bar-sinister]

Oh...

It's even worse than I thought.

[darker-than-darkstorm]

Time to go back to IRC.

[howtoimpersonateanadult]

I recommend Element; it's very similar to Discord and has basically the same features but it's privacy-focused and both servers and DMs can both be encrypted so only the actual users of those rooms can read the messages.

This means unlike most popular chat apps, including and especially Discord, Element doesn't sell your conversations or tracking data to advertisers, because the company literally doesn't have access to that data in the first place.

I've used it for years and I think it's a natural fit for Discord users.

[give-grian-rights]

sighs. saves for later

[cell113]

The problem with this is transferring YEARS of Discord usage to these new alternatives. Until a tool is made that allows full back up if not transfer of All That, then transitioning to these alternatives isn't feasible for the baseline everyday user.

[hjbender]

GitHub - Tyrrrz/DiscordChatExporter: Exports Discord chat logs to a file

Exports Discord chat logs to a file. Contribute to Tyrrrz/DiscordChatExporter development by creating an account on GitHub.

[sootheandsavage]

Revolt is now called Stoat (https://stoat.chat/updates/long-live-stoat) but otherwise fine.

[sootheandsavage]

[sesamie-moving]

hello people today i ask: what is your favorite artificial flavor, generally? like if you’re having a new artificially flavored thing and need to pick a standard flavor, what are you going for?

[sootheandsavage]

that tangy really artificial lemon

[tenderwhumps]

when the comic relief character gets whumped.

the one who’s normally cracking jokes. adding levity to things. being goofy or clumsy. the one who almost seems untouchable, like they’re made of too much light to ever fall into darkness.

but then they get hurt.

maybe it’s bad. maybe it’s really bad.

suddenly, they’re terrified. they’re panicking. (or worse yet, everyone else is panicking and whumpee doesn’t understand why.)

whumpee has lost the jokes, lost the happy-go-lucky attitude. their hands are covered in blood. they’re crying, begging someone to help them, to save them. grasping at caretaker’s shirt. saying “please, please don’t let me die, i’m so scared.”

the gravity and seriousness of the situation has fully sunk in for everyone. no longer can they laugh at whumpee’s charming (or not so charming) antics. things are, suddenly, so much worse.

[sunfortune]

deserved

[sootheandsavage]

This reminds me of "Side Characters deserve Love Too!"

[bluewingedcoyote]

[skyinide]

[afronerdism]

This might be the funniest reply I’ve ever seen in my life

[thepioden]

[teaboot]

at the combination ikea and taco bell. ordering a blåhaj blast

[sootheandsavage]

@sapphiclittlecryptid how could you hide this in the comments?

[sootheandsavage]

No, no, i took a look at your blog - very funny.

[teaboot]

at the combination ikea and taco bell. ordering a blåhaj blast

[sootheandsavage]

@sapphiclittlecryptid how could you hide this in the comments?

[milo-just-a-crappy-writer]

I apologize for this random, vent-y post but if you write whump for coping reason I would like to hear your thoughts or really anyone’s thoughts if they write whump.

I started writing whump and making whump characters as a way to process some stuff in my life, I won’t go into details. The situation has basically subsided/I’ve been feeling better about it all etc. But like ik that Sera and the Our Angel story is like only a thing because of this situation. And like I want to continue to write as use Our Angel as Botha creative outlet and a way to process other stuff in my life but I feel like really guilty ig for like having the entire characters and story solely based off a specific situation and now that it’s not like as big of a deal that I just continue if that makes sense.

Idk I’ve been feeling very off recently in general not pertaining to this situation so maybe my mind is just trying to find something to overthink and bother me idk.

I would appreciate anyone’s thoughts. Ik I’m probably just being stupid but I just idk need some reassurance </3

[sootheandsavage]

I was so ashamed and confused of myself when I first started peeking into whump. I kept thinking that something was seriously, terribly wrong with me, and I was a horrible person. But! Writing and reading whump actually makes me much calmer and happier in day-to-day life. And I adore all my mutuals. Having people who are just like me helps a lot, and keeps me from winding up.

I think part of what finally made me decide to engage with whump was that I was really stressed, and keeping it bottled up inside. Now that I have an outlet, many of the things that bothered me don't sound like such a big deal anymore.

It's completely normal to feel weird/guilty when the original "reason" for a story starts to fade but the characters and world still feel meaningful. That doesn't make the whole thing invalid or "fake", it just means the story has grown beyond its starting point, which is actually a beautiful thing. A lot of us start whump OCs/stories as a direct way to process one specific hurt, but then they become their own people who can carry other feelings, new struggles, or just fun creative exploration. This isn't just a whump thing. A lot of writers on here can tell you that charecters who were meant to be one thing can evolve with time, as your perspective on the world changes.

It's okay if Sera and Our Angel were born from that one situation; they're not frozen in time. You can keep writing them because you love them now, because they help you process other stuff, or even just because the writing itself brings you joy and calm.

You're not "using" or "dismissing" the old pain, you're transforming it into something that keeps helping you (and probably others who read it). You're not being stupid at all. That overthinking/guilt spiral is super common when you're healing and your brain is looking for something familiar to latch onto, especially if you've been feeling off lately.

Just give yourself permission to keep going without needing the original "excuse." If it ever stops feeling good, you can always pivot or pause, and I promise that'll be fine. The phrase "kill your darlings" is rather widely known, and although it isn't meant to be taken as this I think you can apply it here too. If Sera ever begins to drag you down, you can let go. But right now? It sounds like it's still serving you in really healthy ways, letting you enjoy and process. You're allowed to keep it.

[whump-princess]

Pick a door, then look under the cut, the door you chose with decide your whumpees fate for the next 24h

Blue door 🚪💙

Red door 🚪❤️

Voting ended onFeb 2

Reveal their fate⬇️😈

💙Blue door: your whumpee gets all the rest they need, a quite cozy house, a clean comfortable bed with 1000 thread count sheets made from Egyptian cotton. Plenty of food, and a cute cat to cuddle with. They are safe here for the next 24hr, survival rate: 100%

❤️Red door: your whumpee is trapped in the basement of an old house in the middle of nowhere, no one is around to hear their screams. They are tied to a chair hooked up to a car battery. They are given math, geometry, and science questions, a wrong answer earns them a good zap. If they don’t answer within 1 minute they are zapped. 15 minute breaks every couple hours. No food, no water, no sleep. Survival rate depends on how smart your whumpee is

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Note: After doing a quick search a car battery is not going to hurt you, it’s not even enough volts to do shit but this is fiction so we are going to pretend this battery has extremely high voltage and things just work out

[sootheandsavage]

I picked the blue one:)