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smh i know this one girl at my school who watches bnha and she's a multishipper which is somewhat okay? but she ships b a k u d e k u.

ugh im so tired of hearing her say "it's not abusive!1!!1" like honestly wtf

so uh we both follow eachother on ig cause i genuinely wanted to be friends with her (i was hoping that i could change her mind?)

but tonight she sent me like 3 bakudeku pictures ugh im-

#she also has another friend whos pretty chill #her friend watches bnha and ships tododeku!!#she also thinks bakudeku is abusive

incorrectwebtoonquotes

Kousuke: Your hands, I want to hold them.

Yeong Gi: Your lips, I want to kiss them.

Dieter: Your dreams, I want to hear them.

Soushi: Your toes, hand em over.

nekomim1

Only takeaway from the new I Love Yoo chapter

obsessedwithstardust

“can I copy your homework?”

“yeah just change it up a bit so it doesn’t look obvious you copied”

“ok”

boku-no-meme-academia

skeletortilla

grapiibear-dead-deactivated2018

fingers in his ass sunday

zootycoon-archive

you know what day it is

zootycoon-archive

addicted to fingers in his ass sunday

#wowie cant wait to rb this next sunday

boymilk-moved-deactivated201903

its so weird to me that there are artists who listen to classical music while drawing cuz im like………..w…………..i listen to ke$ha…….

boymilk-moved-deactivated201903

artists rb this and tag what kind of music you listen to while you draw

#oh i just listen to billie eilish and patd stuff like that #I also found a a study music playlist on soundcloud that I listen to once in a while

misangremellama

Reminder for parents that though you may be struggling, it is never appropriate to use your child as your therapist/counselor. It’s unhealthy for the both of you.

emmxieee

Can I ask why? I’m genuinely curious

misangremellama

There’s a few reasons as to why its wrong.

For one, a kid is not equipped to handle a parent’s problems. I’m not saying to never express your feelings or say that you’re having a problem to a child. That can be healthy. But to use them to just dump on is too much. Children just aren’t equipped to deal with the heaviness of adult problems, especially if they’re already going through things themselves.

Two, the inherent power imbalance makes it really uncomfortable. Your child isn’t your friend, they’re your child. Even if they can offer advice, this sort of thing can become like a role reversal. They also would have a hard time separating themselves from it when it becomes too much. A lot of parents feel entitled to their childrens’ time and space, so the children can become overburdened with no reprieve and no way to express that this isn’t their job.

There’s probably more and better ways to explain this, but that’s my two cents on this.

angstriddentrashhuman

Because I was the oldest child when my parents marriage was collapsing both of them used me to vent about the other, forcing me to justify their negative feelings about a person that I loved by virtue of their place in my life. At 10 years old I was attempting to negotiate the workings of an adult relationship that had never worked and validate their emotions without being harmful to the other. All the while I was deteriorating into an even more depressed and anxious reclusive child, losing friends and and missing out on normal experiences. I felt like I was responsible for the survival of their relationship, above my own well-being I had to figure out how to save them from divorce, from splitting the family up. I never felt like I had the right to tell them I couldn’t handle it. So I shoved everything down and became weirdly mature, too aware of the fact that I was an adult even if I didn’t want to be. Now I have severe anxiety, depression, and PTSD and I can’t even keep a job. I’m 28. Don’t do this to your kids. Please.

crustgender

This is one form of whats known as parentification.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2017/03/23/your-child-is-not-your-confidant/

thebibliosphere

My father, having zero support from my mother, would seek me out during his depressive bouts and tell me about how much he wanted to die, over and over. Sometimes I even cleaned and bandaged the wounds. He told me he couldn’t talk to anyone else and I was his entire lifeline. I was nine.

In a similar vein my mother blames me all the time for not leaving my father when she wanted to. She would vent to me about how awful a man he was, how much she hated him and wanted to leave him. And then tell me it was my fault she didn’t because of what I had said. I was twelve. The fuck did I know about life other than it was awful and I was having to hide shit from social work and feeling like it was my fault.

I’m 30 now and they still do this to me. They still try to find ways to other themselves from their failure to protect me and my brother from themselves and make it my responsibility, then try to sugar coat it with “but you were such a good child” or “you’re such a great listener” or “you were so much older than your years”, like yea, cause someone fucking had to be.

Please, do not do this to your children. Please. Get help from an appropriate source, for your sake and theirs. I cannot stress how damaging this shit was to my psyche.

awesometogepix-deactivated20180

Additional Note: Don’t do this to your teenagers either. They may be called teenagers, but they are still growing up and trying to live their life the best they can. They’re making and learning from their own mistakes. Don’t force them to learn from yours as well.

misangremellama

Teens are def included in this. I usually keep up with tags and comments on my posts and these are just heartbreaking, hearing how much pain some of you have been put through because of this. The only comfort that I can think of to offer is that clearly, if you’ve been through this, you’re not alone and don’t have to feel that way. So in conclusion, don’t do this to your offspring. It doesn’t matter how “”“wise and mature”“” they are for their age. Just don’t.

#sleeping #when i was about 8? my mom was hanging out with a friend she knew #the guy invited my brother dad mom and I to a party #and my mom was like hush hush don't tell the guy that your dad is your dad #I was like wtf I'm only 8/7 #and one day my mom put my brother and I to sleep like at 3pm #we usually sleep at 8/9 pm?#so yeah we were but my brother and I were thirsty #so we went outside of our room and asked for a glass of water #and guess what #The guy and my mom were at the table eating?#so uh yeah #The guy left and we went back to sleep like at 8 #ALSO THE GUY HAD A WIFE LIVING WITH HIM #AND LIKE 5 KIDS BACK AT MEXICO #WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK

imnotstupidbutwhydenkilookdead

Voltron fandom: Ugh I can’t believe voltron! I hear bnha has good gay ships, im going there!

Bnha:

hazel0217

Iidabowl Challenge Day 17, Iimono.

#RAREPAIR #uhm yes??!

krpk-remaking

musashigouda-deactivated2019032

katsuki: our childhood hero chose you to be his successor instead of me. this is feeding into one of my complexes and has been literally mulling over my mind for months. i want to fight you because of it to prove to myself that it wasn’t because of who i am as a person. you are the centre of many of my issues. i hate you.

izuku: you have been abusive to me my whole life. you have nonstop bullied me and tried to prevent me from getting to where i have always wanted to go. you have been called out in canon on this behaviour being abusive by your friends. you are improving in other areas in your life, but when it comes to me, things are getting increasingly worse due to these delusions.

booky dookys: OMG MY GAYBIES >///////<