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[weltenwellen]

Joy Sullivan, from "Late Bloomer", Instructions for Traveling West

[stringcage]

Years of personal growth can be unraveled in 2 days at your parents house

[9fruit]

me listening to my playlist: omg that’s crazy i love this song

[blond-shell]

—MOON SONG, PHOEBE BRIDGERS

[werenotreallystrangers]

you don't just marry a person. you marry their ecosystem. their food. the temperature of their house. their sleep schedule. their friends.their family. their way of moving through the world

[theambitiouswoman]

This made me think about all the “I can change them” people and how in reality, it usually ends up changing you. The reason we become those people isn’t just control but the hope that love can create the safety we are craving. That we never got or aren’t giving to ourselves. It’s attaching to potential instead of reality. Believing that if you can fix what feels off, you won’t get hurt later. That if you can shape the situation, you can finally relax

Sometimes it comes from old patterns where love to you meant earning, proving, or holding everything together. So you start adjusting yourself your standards, your needs, your routines,trying to make the relationship work. But you don’t change someone into alignment, you choose someone who already is because that “ecosystem” isn’t a small detail. It’s your everyday life. It’s what you wake up to, how you feel in your own body around them

And if you constantly have to reshape yourself to fit into theirs, you’re not building a life together you’re slowly abandoning pieces of yourself just to stay. And this expands to everything else in your life. Just to avoid looking inward, and really going for the love you deserve

[charitydingle]

Kedi 2016, dir. Ceyda Torun

[pollen]

Mary Oliver, from "Such Singing in the Wild Branches"

[discreetwithabellyring-deactiva]

https://thenewinquiry.com/blog/social-media-is-not-self-expression/

[ryebreadgf]

[werenotreallystrangers]

you don't just marry a person. you marry their ecosystem. their food. the temperature of their house. their sleep schedule. their friends.their family. their way of moving through the world

[theambitiouswoman]

[goth-queen]

[rarestsparkle]

i recommend telling yourself “this isn’t an experience i want to keep having” and stop entertaining things that are really detrimental to your health and don’t benefit you in anyway.

[theambitiouswoman]

Healing is realizing you deserve better and losing attraction to what disrespected you

[ashstfu]

from a recent reflection

[antisocialxconstruct]

man having your life even a little bit together will really make you realize how chronically sleep-deprived and poorly fed and under-enriched everyone is and then when they turn to you to implicitly agree that that's just the natural state of existing you feel like the asshole for being like "actually I think you might benefit from eating breakfast regularly and picking up a new hobby"

[sapphiccore]

i love seeing best friends goofing around in public. i love seeing couples laughing together. i love seeing little kids walking hand in hand with their parents. i love seeing dogs running happily back to their owners. i love seeing closeness and positive relationships, and knowing all that love is out there

[margecouture]

chase REAL dopamine ☀️

meditate first thing in the morning

journal any thoughts to clear your mind

dance to your favorite songs

get lost in a book

take a walk

exercise + move your body

make home cooked meals

hot shower before bed

stretch with deep breathing

watch more sunrises + sunsets

play board + skill games on free time

watch comfort movies without your phone

sip tea while watching rain fall

morning sun on your face

have conversations full of love