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I actually really like the term genderqueer, because the only thing it specifies about your gender is that it's queer in some way. Does that mean you're nonbinary? Binary trans? Cis with some freaky cool gender presentation stuff going on? None of those or all of those? It doesn't matter and I think that's beautiful.

inthesensethat

hexthelex-deactivated20250420

This is true btw

letmeliedown

the podcast If Books Could Kill has a really great episode on the original book and its legacy! just a bunch of misogynist evangelical bullshit really

cherishedproperty

I want to clarify something kind of important because this kinda used to be my field. The concept that people express and feel love in different ways, and that this might lead to misunderstandings, IS something with scientific merit. The idea that there are just five and we know what they are is NOT. The idea that people have a primary love language is NOT.

In science, we have a saying. All models are wrong, but some are useful. That’s how I see the love languages framework. It is inherently flawed, but some of its concepts are useful. Communicate with your partner what makes you feel loved and understand what makes them feel loved. Understand how your partner shows love. There is immense value in that. But don’t over-index on which one of the five you are. That part doesn’t matter.

thesunflowersqueen

#love languages#really reblogging for that last comment though#“all models are wrong but some are useful”#the concept is sound but the specifics are uhhhh not (via @mad-madam-m)

skysthelimit57

Non-binary people can't use they/them because they're only one person. Non-binary people can't use it/its because it's dehumanizing. Non-binary people can't use neopronouns because they're too confusing. Non-binary people can't use he/him and/or she/her because that's not gender neutral. Non-binary people can't use no pronouns because that's too hard to use.

No matter what pronouns a non-binary person uses somebody will get mad at them.

kominfyrirkattarnef

Have you guys noticed how much the internet/technology just does not listen to you anymore? I click “don’t show this artist” on Spotify and I get recommended a music video by them on the front page. I click “skip this update” on a pop up every time I open a file organization app and it’s right back there every time. I click unsubscribe on a newsletter and it keeps showing up in my inbox!! I click “delete my account” and the next time I open the website they suggest I “reactivate”.

motherfuckingshakespeare

A HANDY CHART FOR THOSE OF YOU WONDERING WHAT THE FUCK IS UP WITH THESE. NOTE THAT THESE ARE ALL THE INFORMAL AND YOU IS THE FORMAL SO LIKE YOU WOULD ALWAYS ADDRESS YOUR SUPERIOR/ OLDER PERSON/ SOCIAL BETTER WITH YOU BUT WITH YOUR BUDS YOU CAN USE THESE.

yaoigaysexaura

you can't say "stop making everything about men" about a group of marginalised people who have been historically erased and never centered in any conversations that affect them. that is erasure. you are perpetuating the system that leads to these people being trafficked, raped, and killed without ever being remembered as more than a "tragic woman"

toomanyfrogswtf

This may be my favourite Gerard Donelan comic :p

transmasc-theory

I reject the premise that trans women are the "main" targets of transphobia. I reject the premise that trans women are victimized more, worse, or more intentionally by transphobia than trans men. I reject the premise that trans men are only accidental or secondary targets of transphobia. I reject the premise that trans men are merely splash damage casualties in attacks against trans women. I reject the premise that trans men are only accidentally harmed by transphobia.

I should not have to post about transmasc issues with a disclaimer that "of course" trans women are hurt worse by this. I should not have to apologize for posting about transmasc issues instead of transfemme issues.

There is nothing accidental about transphobia. Every facet of it is intentional. Trans men are not bystanders in the genocide against all trans people. Trans men aren't accidental targets of trans genocide.

transmasc-theory

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is he so afraid of being assaulted in men's spaces if he is outed that he will use women's spaces?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is he asking you not to erase his lived experience?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or has he been scared by all the posts mocking male transition results into thinking he'll be a laughingstock if he starts balding?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or has he seen masculine people be treated as inherently predatory so often that he holds this back to be seen as a person?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is he trying to avoid being treated the way you treat masculine people?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is his childhood still influencing how he conducts himself?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is he speaking about misogyny he has experienced?

11rarara

I think about this tweet all the time

a-kind-of-merry-war

it's me and my two sources on medieval strap-ons against the world

a-kind-of-merry-war

Right, so.

Source One is Burchard of Worms' Decretum, Book XIX. The Decretum was a collection of canon laws compiled in the early half of the 11th Century. Book XIX, or The Corrector, was a penitential: basically a guidebook for confessors. Here's a sin, have u done it, here's your penance.

One of the questions for women was, essentially, "Did you make a dildo, strap it to yourself and fuck someone with it?". The original text is in Latin, and there's a few translations floating around of what it said. Here's one, which I spent the past three days looking for, because I wanted a direct source:

Have you done what women are wont to do: to make a certain device in the form of a male member to the measure of your will, and to tie it to your own or another woman's genitals with some ties, and commit fornication with other women, or others with the same instrument, or with another with you? - Translated from Latin, taken from "Die Bussordnungen der abendländischen Kirche nebst einer rechtsgeschichtichen Einleitung", F. W. H Wasserschleben

Pretty cut and dry re: the use of strap-ons. And dildos, because the next question is "and did you use this device on yourself?"

The second source is from the trial of Katherina Hetzeldorfer, specifically Female Sodomy: The Trial of Katherina Hetzeldorfer (1477) by Helmut Puff, which has an analysis of the trial as well as a translation of the trial texts.

Katherina is the first recorded woman to be executed for homosexuality. There's a lot to be said about her and the way she performed gender but what I'm interested in today is the strap. So, from the court text itself:

...She made an instrument with a red piece of leather, at the front filled with cotton, and a wooden stick stuck into it, and made a hole through the wooden stick, put a string through, and tied it round; and therewith she had her roguery with the two women...

And there we go! Two sources about people in medieval times using strap-ons, one from around 1020 and one from 1477.

luxiomahariel

"im a misandrist but not in a terfy way"

theres no feminist way to be a misandrist that doesnt bleed into terf ideology.

luxiomahariel

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be racist towards men of color.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be ableist towards disabled and/or neurodivergent men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be intersexist towards intersex men or intersex people that look like men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans women who don't want to pass or cant pass for whatever reason.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be exorsexist towards nonbinary men or nonbinary people who might look like men.

if youre a misandrist, i dont fucking trust you. you are not an ally to me or to marginalized people.

genderkoolaid

His family made the announcement in a Facebook post.

Foust, who used he/they pronouns according to friends, was a senior majoring in fine arts at NKU. He would have graduated May 8. His art is scheduled to be shown at the Cincinnati Art Museum’s “Art After Dark” series on May 29. In the post from his family, which often uses his deadname with “Murry” in quotation marks, they state that an art scholarship will also be established in Foust’s memory. There will also be a pottery fundraiser held at NKU in the future, the family said. “We are establishing an art scholarship fund in their name to honor their love of art,” the post reads. “Any donations or proceeds from the sale of Murry’s work will be used to support other art students in the community.” As of this writing, a Meal Train fundraiser for the scholarship fund has raised over $7,000.

Apparently his family is dead-set on deadnaming and misgendering Murray. Because of fucking course. I'm really glad they've done all this in his name, but its just so infuriating seeing over and over and over again how dead trans people can never get the most basic fucking respect. And because its their family, they get the final word in so many people's eyes.

But at the very least, Murray's friends appreciate and remember them as himself:

“Murry was one of my first friends I made in college, and helped me feel so much comfortable about myself, especially where I had came up to northern Kentucky knowing zero people,” Serenity Newell wrote. “I saw them a day or two before they had went missing and they were so sweet. I had dressed extra nice that day and they went and complimented me in detail for about 5 minutes straight […] I was going through our messages between each other today and was in disbelief that any of this was real. They were a big inspiration in my art and I strived to be more like them and try to poor more of my soul into each of my creations as they did.”

sodomit

A lot of people only seem to respect the more fringe minorities (nonbinary people, intellectually disabled people, intersex people, etc) for as long as all is fine with them personally. But once something happens, once they're in danger, they revert to acting as if these minorities do not matter and treat reminders to check their behavior for bigotry as a minimization of their suffering.

Y'all have seen liberals trying to learn to say "pregnant people" several years ago, but immediately bring back "MEN are policing WOMEN'S bodies" once Trump was back. The same thing is happening everywhere, with everything.

And yes, their pain is real and their anger is valid, but other marginalized people aren't some unserious frivolous thing you can just dismiss.