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as much as i get the sentiment behind "make more bad art" there's gotta be a better way of communicating "you don't have to be technically proficient or hold yourself to a specific standard of practice" that doesn't sound as backhanded lol
you can't just leave this in the tags 😭
Hello! I hope you're doing well!
There's a video of yours that I can't find at the moment, it might've been a Q&A, but in it you said something to the effect of "shame is a widely useless emotion" and I found it really helpful at the time what you said. Would you mind expounding on that sentiment, if it is one you still hold, that I and others might have it for reference in times where it is needed?
Oh sure, ask the guy with ADHD to remember anything he's said! Ableist!
(this is a joke. I am joking about my disability.)
What I mean when I say something like that, though, is that I believe that shame is an extremely limited instrument. The only thing it is really good at is causing a kind of mental pain that prevents you from repeating a behaviour.
This is useful for some things—one should generally feel ashamed of harming other people, for example. But the trouble with shame is that, once it has provided the pain of itself, it doesn't really have anything else to offer.
If you harm someone and you feel ashamed of it, while that feeling is appropriate, the shame doesn't really offer you any useful way to address the harm you have done. At most, shame has a tendency to prompt us to seek punishment for our misdeeds (or, more commonly, prompt us to hide our misdeeds for fear of punishment), but there is nothing in that emotion that offers a way to make actual amends, limit or undo your harm, or even learn to do better in the future. All the feeling tells you is "THAT WAS BAD AND YOU ARE BAD BECAUSE YOU DID IT!", which, even if it is accurate, is not constructive or especially useful. Making amends, addressing your harm and learning to do better, these things all require many different tools and feelings, like empathy and care and responsibility and self-respect. Shame alone teaches you almost nothing.
Thus, shame is an absolutely dogshit motivator for getting in shape or taking care of your health, for example. If the reason you are exercising or eating better is because you feel intense shame about your weight or your body shape, then 1) exercising is going to be absolutely miserable because all you are doing is running away from a horrible painful feeling you can't deal with and 2) any "failure" to exercise (skipping a day, being too tired, not doing enough reps, not hitting step counts, whatever) becomes yet another source of shame which just makes you feel even more miserable, and the cycle compounds.
Compare and contrast with exercising out of an earnest love for your body, and a desire to nurture and strengthen it, out of curiosity to find out how you can change it or the desire to learn a new physical skill or sport, or just out of a neutral, practical acceptance that you have some condition or need that requires exercise as part of the treatment.
Shame is similarly absolutely bottom-of-the-barrel shitfucking garbage at motivating people to express themselves. Shame will drive you away from art, away from poetry, away from literature and song and, oh my god, especially from dance. It will drive you away from anything that requires you to in any way make yourself vulnerable, because the fear of shame and the pain that comes with it makes vulnerability even more terrifying.
Shame, generally, is a feeling that wants you to shrink into yourself and disappear forever. It's a feeling that wants you to be less in the world.
Shame has a place and a use, it exists in us for several evolutionary reasons, same as anything, it has a function in our social structures. But it is a limited instrument. It is good for a very, very small number of things, and when it is misapplied to almost literally anything else, all it does it make everything worse and everyone more miserable.
That's what I think, anyway.
stop calling your own work slop
stop forcing yourself to disengage with what you love because a layer of irony makes it more comfortable. admit you care and let yourself feel good about it
Jonathan burning the midnight oil
I'm enjoying new (?) Friends at the table season Perpetua a lot, surprisingly my faves might be Veile and Elena, especially together, they are both girl failures in their own unique ways!
I know the castle of Eschatonica is not over, but I have all these doodles and they’re rapidly ballooning out of control! I am SO EXCITED to learn more about the little freak
Saw this post from @ohnoitstbskyen(’s side blog) and decided to spend my day making this exist
They’re off to steal jawbreakers or something
Sorry if this is kind of a random question but do you have any tips for surviving college with suspected but not properly diagnosed adhd?
Well, uh, I powered through six years of university without a diagnosis and it put me in the darkest depression I've ever had an nearly ruined my life.
So I think my first advice would be to, if at all possible, to get diagnosed and medicated. Failing that, try and look up therapeutic online resources about ADHD symptom management and start implementing them in your life as soon as humanly possible.
Take your stress seriously, learn to say "no" to more things, be careful with your caffeine intake, take your stress seriously, get a friend to help you with accountability and co-working and take your fucking stress seriously.
Once you properly burn out, that shit sticks with you for years, or decades, or your whole fucking life, and I swear by all the gods above and below, there is no degree on Earth that is worth suffering that.
Sorry if this is kind of a random question but do you have any tips for surviving college with suspected but not properly diagnosed adhd?
Well, uh, I powered through six years of university without a diagnosis and it put me in the darkest depression I've ever had an nearly ruined my life.
So I think my first advice would be to, if at all possible, to get diagnosed and medicated. Failing that, try and look up therapeutic online resources about ADHD symptom management and start implementing them in your life as soon as humanly possible.
Take your stress seriously, learn to say "no" to more things, be careful with your caffeine intake, take your stress seriously, get a friend to help you with accountability and co-working and take your fucking stress seriously.
Once you properly burn out, that shit sticks with you for years, or decades, or your whole fucking life, and I swear by all the gods above and below, there is no degree on Earth that is worth suffering that.
if you are affected by unreality content/has or is prone to psychosis I would suggest blocking the 17776 tag today because tomorrow people are going to be posting a lot of shit that might cause problems
Context for those unaware: 17776 is a fictional sports story set in the very far future (the year 17776) in a world where everyone suddenly stopped aging and dying after the date April 7th, 2026 (there's more to it, that's just the relevant info). fans are celebrating this date for his reason, it will not actually happen
We need to be talking about wearing PPE while doing textile work. You would never dream of stepping foot inside woodworking studio without goggles and ear protection when using the machines, yet I have never seen respirators or masks available in weaving studios or other textile workshops where we work with materials and machinery that kick up a lot of dust that ends up in our lungs. Allergies develop with prolonged exposure! Cotton lung is a thing!
I've been working mainly with linen for couple of years, unprotected, and every time I get an illness the after-flu cough sticks around a little longer. After a long day of weaving I can feel the itch in my throat that lasts days. Please can we normalise protecting ourselves from long-term exposure to textile dust🙏
I'm reminded of that anecdote a few years back about a new scientist doing fieldwork for the first time who went out into the snowy woods in jeans in a t-shirt, got soaked in an icy creek, and when the senior members of the team tried to send him back to the vehicle to warm up so he didn't get hypothermia, laughed it off as a thing that doesn't happen to people in the modern era.
you! yes you too! can still be vulnerable to afflictions of the past! even if you're doing it as a Fun Hobby!
And textile-adjacent fumes! Dyes, paints, and glues often have VOCs - that's Volatile Organic Compounds and they are REALLY BAD FOR YOU. If you are processing raw fiber or dyeing yarn/fabric/leather, or if your craft involves adhesives, please make sure you have good ventilation and a appropriate hand/eye/breathing protection.
I NEED MY MEDS SO I DON'T DIE!!!
I like living, I want to live many years for my kids and for myself!!!
Our last post for transparency's sake.
Link to my archive, proof I've been the past 13 years.
https://chingaderita.tumblr.com/archive/2013/5 if you want to copy paste it in your browser btw.
I have been without my meds for a month now, all the money we've got so gar has been used for rent, bills, groceries, and other basic necessities.
I always put myself last but this is no viable, I need to care for myself so I can care for my family too. Our kids and elderly depend on my partner and me, I want to be as healthy as can be.
A month's worth of my meds is worth $270. Transportation included.
Our rescue cats need food too.
But we also URGENTLY need to get our eldest life saving trans care we started last year but we couldn't continue.
Our backs and joints are killing us from sleeping on the floor, so help with the laundromat so we don't have to hand wash our clothes would be great too. Also some ibuprofen patches.
Our friend is letting use its paypal* because paypal hates mexicans.
*Add a note "Aid for Calli" so it knows it's for us. Thank you!*
$50/$680
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I could kneel and beg if it means I could afford my meds today before 9pm.
Thanks so much for tolerating us this far!!
I should be on my way but we're not even halfway to the goal
Another question (sorry in advance if I’m annoying)
But I have this bad habit of taking Criticism or negativity towards things I like very personal and I wanna know if you have any tips to get out of this head space
Like I don’t wanna keep getting that “punched in the chest” feeling whenever I see someone criticizing tadc or something else I enjoy
I wanna be able to look at this stuff in a more reasonable manner than instinctively recoiling.
I've never really felt that way (maybe when I was a teenager?), so I don't know that I can speak helpfully from experience.
I guess all I can say is, it is a good life skill to learn to be okay with most of the things you like being trash garbage. Because they are all going to be trash garbage in someone's eyes, and it is much more powerful to be able to say "yeah, and what of it?" than to be immediately forced on the defensive trying to prove that it's not. You will never be able to prove a hater wrong or change their mind, but they can make you miserable for ages while you try.
If you are in a position where you need the things you like to be liked by others, or else it feels like a personal attack or failure, odds are—though I can't know for sure and I am not your therapist—odds are that you are investing some part of your identity or self-feeling into the media you consume, and identifying your self with it, and vice versa.
This is normal and generally fine, everyone does it with some things sometimes. Get a sports fan going about Their Team™ and you'll get identity connections spilling outta both their ears, and to have something communal that you're deeply invested in can be genuinely life affirming. It is good and normal and generally healthy, so try not to get caught up in shame about it.
What you generally want to be able to do, though, is just as much as you should have the capacity to extend your soul, to connect with things, to invest yourself in them, you also need to learn how to retract those connections, and to disinvest yourself from them when it is necessary to do so. Like for example if people online are trash-talking the thing you like. In those moments you have to be able to go "I am not the thing, the thing is not me, none of this is about me, none of this has any bearing on who I am." You have to able to retract the connection, even if just temporarily enough to say "not my circus, not my monkeys" when it is called for.
If you don't develop the ability to retract and disinvest, well, that's when a media obsession can become genuinely kind of debilitating, both socially and personally. And in the worst consequence, it's where you get Harry Potter adults completely unable to let go of their Hogwarts Houses, it's where you get people who hold on to fandom (and monetary support) for genuinely awful people and causes, because they just cannot disinvest themselves or take their identity back from it.
Ultimately, you should be able to allow a thing to have power over you—to move you, to spark emotions and love in you, to make you happy, to make you cry. You should be able to open your heart.
And!
You should be able to take that power back when you need or want to. Your You should not be owned by your Things.
All of this is a skill to develop, by the way, not an inborn trait to have. It's something you practise and get better at, you're not "supposed" to already know how to do it. All you are supposed to do is practise it. Shame is generally unhelpful for learning, also, try if you can not to let that be your motivator; usually all it teaches you is how to cut connections off, not how to form them in a healthy way.
As someone who has felt that way, and done work to feel better about it, watching Skyen's reactions and other videos has helped a *lot*.
This isn't just because I like Skyen's work, either. His videos and credentials earned my trust that the criticisms he had were valuable. That helped me learn to think critically about what others are saying about my favorite media - to know when someone is saying "this just isn't the kind of thing I like" vs "this has problems". (In my experience, person A is more often the one making you miserable)
Skyen isn't the only one to teach me to accept criticisms of my favorite media, either. Following people that *are* fans but have different identities forces you in some ways to reconsider the media itself and try to see from their POV. (BIPOC players of FFXIV is a personal example)
tl;dr exposure to criticisms, critical thinking about whose critic you pay mind to, and practice/time
"The condition of being human means that you will fuck up." @ohnoitstbskyen (from: "TBSkyen attempts to react to 'Demacia Rising' metagame, gets distracted by the art" 22:11)
i just wanted to be mean to myself about feeling rusty as an artist in PEACE!!! but no! someone who's values and perspectives i respect just had to go and remind me that maybe some flaws are part of the sincerity of the process and not something you have to desperately try to hammer out at every turn just to reach for some nebulous goal of "perfection". WHATEVER!!!! ((7oO A Oo))7 guess imma just be over here~ showing myself some empathy or some shit... UGGGG!!!!!!!
also "AI can go fuck itself." - TBSkyen 38:50 (fuck yeah <3)
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Hello there! Recently there’s something in my mind regarding Jax and zooble’s relationship that I don’t know what to make of and I was hoping to get your perspective on it, if you want to of course. In the past Jax has made jabs at zooble that to me feel queerphobic in nature. Like in episode 3 cold opening and episode 5 bar section. Before episode 7 I bundle up this behaviour with Jax being uncomfortable with vulnerability since zooble’s is both openly trans and incapable of hiding their body dysmorphia. But now that episode 7 is out I notice two instances where Jax genders zooble as fem, when he is trying to distract Caine (“The gals and I were gonna do something which may or not be a surprise for a special ringmaster”) and this scene is almost directly followed by one where Jax calls zooble a woman to their face (“Worry not my dear damsel…”). The show itself has exclusively used they/them for zooble and they do not want to be refer with fem adjectives and while I could see the other comments as things I’d joke around with my close gayass friends all this is not gay banter material (jax is clearly not zooble’s friend but there’s more leeway is what I mean). The two moments are very close to each other so I have reason to believe the show wants you to take notice of the pattern here, jax already has subtextual misogynistic tendencies so maybe the show is going to make it plain text along those? But I’ve tried to see if there were any posts about this and so far found none so I’m no longer sure if I made a connection or just misunderstood and now add the fact that we are almost at the end of the show I don’t know if it has time to tackle such subjects.
Do you have any thoughts on this? Do you think the show has lay down enough for this conflict to take place? And if so Could the writing of the show pull it off so close to the end?
Oh and thank you for your time
I mean, Jax has hella gender issues, is my main interpretation there. Or at the very least: incredibly acute identity issues that he is projecting outward and inflicting on other people to cope.
Jax insists that people are just their archetypes. Nobody is anything more than the role they are assigned, and it isn't possible to change from those roles. "Gangle is The Sad One!" he proclaims, despite how much she's smiling recently. And he proclaims it in total hypocrisy of how much of his time he spends making Gangle sad.
So you see the self-reinforcing loop there. Gangle is The Sad One, and so if Jax makes her sad that's fine because that's what she's supposed to be. She's The Sad One, and that means by making her sad Jax is just doing what his archetype ("The Funny One") is supposed to do, which means he's not doing anything wrong.
And so long as he keeps doing that, Gangle keeps getting more and more sad, confirming that she is nothing more than her archetype, which justifies Jax doing everything he can to make her sad, which confirms that it is impossible to be anything other than your archetype, and so on.
Jax is terrified of the idea of change, the idea that people CAN change, that the WORLD can change. He's terrified that things don't have to be the way they are, because if things aren't ordained by the laws of nature or divine mandate or whatever other absolute power outside of himself, then he will have to face the responsibility of what he has done, and he will have to face the responsibility to be better and make amends.
And that is deeply, DESPERATELY terrifying to him, for reasons which seem intimately connected to his trauma flashback in the big button room. So, to avoid having to face all that pain and fear, he spends a lot of time trying to ENSURE that breaking out of your archetype isn't possible, by enforcing people's archetypes through abuse.
So... connect this to gender. Zooble is this infuriating living proof that people CAN change - Zooble changes all the time! And seems to be HAPPY and CONTENT in that change!
So Jax does to Zooble what he's been doing to Gangle: he tries to bully them into conforming to their archetype, their social role, to their gender (as he sees it). In his mind, I am sure, he wouldn't express it that way. He's just misgendering Zooble because it annoys them, and annoying Zooble is funny, and he has to do what's funny because he's The Funny One. And you know what's super funny? Misogyny is super funny! Nothing is more foundational to comedy than hating women! I'm not being a sexist asshole, I'm just telling jokes! And Zooble should just get with the program already and understand that she can't ever be anything other than a woman ha ha ha no but for real it's just jokes I don't mean it I'm just The Funny One ha ha ha can't you take a joke? Typical hysterical damsel!
The reality, I think, is he is doing it because Zooble is threatening to him. They are threatening both because they embody change, because they seem to be HAPPY with who they are (something which Jax resents instinctually), and worst of all they are threatening because they keep extending more empathy to Jax than he deserves. This is the same thing that set him off with Pomni in episode 6 - she showed him affection and care and he freaked the fuck out about that, because it threatens his self-perception.
Jax hates himself deeply, and his only coping mechanism for that self-hate is to try and convince himself that he has no choice except to be shitty in the way that he is, and therefore it's kind of not really his fault. It's everyone else's fault for not being as smart and clever at seeing through the illusion as he is, and if his behaviour hurts other people, well, then that's also their own fault for not knowing better! That coping mechanism isolates him, and constantly reaffirms to himself that he is a horrible person who cannot change, and anything that threatens the total dissociation from himself that he is pursuing becomes a target for his cruelty.
or, tl;dr basically: hurt people hurt people.
The "I can't change, I can't be anything different, life CAN'T be better, I CANNOT love myself, I CANNOT become who I wish I could be, it is IMPOSSIBLE and everyone who says it's possible is a LIAR who's out to HURT ME and make me look STUPID by believing a LIE!!!" is a kind of defensive, self-protective misery which is familiar to—certainly not all—but to a lot of trans people and their experiences of being closeted and ashamed, and a trans reading of Jax dovetails very nicely also with the ways TADC explores themes of body dysmorphia and identity and self-actualization.
Trans Jax is not the ONLY reading of his identity crisis you can make, of course, the kind of pain and dissociation he's presenting is applicable to other life experiences as well. But it does feel to me like an apt reading for the story as it has presented itself.