dip & pip

🐝 call me Bee come yap with me! I always love music recs I’ve been lurking on and off isince 2013, but I am feeling SO NORMAL since Oct 13 2025 that I finally caved and made this sideblog Late 20s, she/her, queer

[lizardsmp3]

THANK YOU mysterious ki-tchennnnnn ffairy........ the wi-zard ofthe kiTCHennn... coommewithHis ESSSOTERIC KNOWLEDGE.... is jack rEeal? oRrishe a ~maniFesTation ofoOuhr madNess?~

[amid-fandoms]

H♡A♡P♡P♡Y at last :)

[diphowell]

Phil giving Dan a chance to spread his wings from the start yes AND also I'd imagine that Dan (as obsessed as he was with Phil) knowing he had other (life) options and he was encouraged to go out there and experience life on his own terms *by* Phil must've been so good for the way Dan works, even back then

He doesn't want to feel tied down, he wants to feel like there's always a chance to be doing something else, so that he can still choose to stay

And Phil was like yes don't worry we'll figure it out, we'll make it work, you can still explore opportunities that would keep us physically not as attached at the hip and that's okay

Just, Dan being loved in the exact way he needed to be loved, even before Phil had had the chance to fully KNOW in the way he does now

YES YES EXACTLY. Dan meeting a guy who loves talking to him for hours and thinks he's cute and funny but also encourages him to explore his options and go where he wants to go and/or where is best for him while also making it clear that he still wants to go forward in the relationship and put in the effort to be together and see each other and be happy. not feeling trapped but also feeling safe and loved and like he has an emotional home/grounding place no matter where he goes.

[diphowell]

thinking about dan telling phil about his childhood and the bullying (that awful horrific slapping incident) and how protective phil must have felt how immediately he wanted to help dan have good experiences and happy experiences. i can't even imagine. like every time i think on it i want to fight the world for that little bub and it makes me feel physically sick what was done to him. i can't imagine what phil felt. knowing he wanted to give dan every chance to have every good opportunity and happy memories just is a lot for my heart to process!!

i loved phil saying that him trying to "sabotage" the york tour or sway dan to go to manchester would've been weird because he! is! correct! i love that even as wildly in love young man saying things like this

and meaning it, he wasn't selfish. he did something that i think really shows that he genuinely and truly loved dan beyond infatuation or puppy love and encouraged him to do what he thought would be a good and healthy and needed experience in his life.

i feel like dan saying phil saved him and was something he needed in his life is largely about this specific way phil loved him. he made him feel safe but he also encouraged him to spread his wings. i feel like that thought in phil's mind of how they'd make it work if dan went to york must've felt a bit similar to dan touring doomed especially in the usa. of course he missed him. of course dan missed phil. but it was something dan needed to do himself (and yes phil was also having his dizzy time health issues so he was limited in traveling then) and he was there as remote crisis manager (and boyfriend texting him "where are you [in the house]" when he was in america on a bus.

[diphowell]

Dan and Phil talking about touring York together when Dan was trying to figure out where he would go to university, and Phil knowing that wherever Dan chose they would make it work.

bonus, around the same time (within months) that Phil was helping Dan choose a university, Dan was also involved with Phil doing first apartment hunting in Manchester:

[bluebirdlester]

dan and phil silent 1 minute livestream, preserved

[diphowell]

it really does just bring me to my knees how defiant they were in a way when it comes to having been closeted for so long and terrified of speculation and homophobia and still pushing beds together and phil’s boncas moment and the way they still showed so much love for each other in videos and you can say oh well they just couldn’t help it or oh they were young and “didn’t know better” but they knew better than i’d say anyone ever and even if it did spring from a love and enjoyment of the other one that was hard to contain or limit, it was still moment after moment of choices made for 16 years.

like dan has said, he hadn’t exactly been subtle, and neither had phil. idk i just think that even at their most afraid and most closeted they were bold and they were so brave. they shouldn’t have had to go through all of that but they really were still doing their best to be themselves when they couldn’t be out.

[diphowell]

#nodding nodding nodding. yeagh..... #i think it's also probably the biggest reason why they made it thru while a lot of other couples in their situation would not have #choosing love in spite of the fear... choosing each other in spite of the fear....... #they say 'at least we had each other' and truly i think them having each other is what got them thru#and not just having each other in the sense that they were like literally together but #having each other in the most active and deliberate and intentional way #choosing each other for 16 years (and counting <3) (via @backin09)

yes!!! i agree. i think "at least we had each other" and "i don't think i have to forgive you" are mindsets that are kind of pillars for how they stayed together through All of That. they had each other and they didn't grow to resent each other for their situation, which i feel like can happen so often in situations where no one is REALLY at fault but the stress and pain of it is just too much. and for them it really was like. their partnership their love their relationship was always the priority.

[diphowell]

"thanks mum"

[ellakas]

[ellakas]

[knight--error]

CANNOT take credit for these, my sister in law made them. Behold.

[magicratfingers]

i need this completed or ill die who is kitty?? WHO IS LYDIA

[fishing4stars]

@scyllas-revenge this has your name written all over it. twice.

[scyllas-revenge]

Ahh my two favorite things smushed together!!

[ellakas]

as op of this post this had me laughing truly out loud @scyllas-revenge

my bro in law: I hope they fold their gowns properly

[flowercrowndnp]

"that's a thing that dan and phil can do now"

music is dan on piano playing debussy's clair de lune

[amazinglestowell]

comments on danandphil video “we tried cocktails from around the world”

[fryday]

the fact that it was dan who tweeted about the 6 month anniversary. that it was dan who made the first solo post after the hard launch (and it was the world's most basic innocuous tried-and-true breakup joke, the kind of simple pleasure they'd been denied for so long, which dan evidently took so much pleasure from). that it was dan who commented on that pink news reel of them on the red carpet and only talked about phil serving phunt. you know phil is happy. he's wanted this for a long time. but that also means he was ready for a long time. he walked up to this door presumably years ago and waited by it patiently for dan. dan just ran up to it. he had all the excess energy ready to go. phil opened the door with pleasure but dan BURST through. and it's really sweet. it's really really sweet to see. dan being giddy, dan being joyous, celebrating loudly everything he'd been stifling silently for years and years. it's dan. our dan. it gets me is all

[pseudophan]

something about Phil saying Dan will say he’s always liked him since the day they met when he’s drunk 😭😭 all happy 😭😭

and you know he's telling the truth because for the first time in his life mr. denial over here didn't even try to object

[sunchildsatoru]

[pseudophan]

dan and phil's best trait is that they are both in love with pj

[phlondsbian]

them. in a way

[laddersmp3]

i have nothing to say on this hope it helps

[diphowell]

Dan being his genuine self around Phil

[lesbiandanhowell]

"that means he's happy" about Dan's gremlin face awww