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Aby | 35 | your unfriendly neighbourhood German | cosplayer | (fan) artist | im old but I am thriving She/Her or He/Him

[missing-the-early-sunsets]

🌸🌟 \(^o^)/ 🌼🌟 he loves it!

[abessinier]

"In Chiikawa episode 31 Hachiware falls into a deep well and can not escape on their own. What is your well, Will?"

"Draw me a Chiikawa"

[abessinier]

Stuff kids on tumblr better relearn

1. You are responsible for your own media experience. 

2. There is such a thing as a healthy level of avoidance towards topics that make you feel unwell or even (in a real-life clinical definition of the term) trigger you - but you are the one to actively take care of what you view.

3. Avoiding does not mean policing others.

4. You have no right to tell artists to censor themselves - you may criticize what others do, you may dislike it, that’s fine - but actively asking for censorship when you could easily unfollow or block a person just makes you look incompetent in your use of the internet.

5. Do not give people on tumblr or /any/ website the responsibility for your emotional well-being. Because these people do not even know you so no, you have no right to ask them to take care of you.

[vesperlionheart]

6. Content creators are not your parents and owe you nothing, not even a breakdown on why their content isn’t problematic. You don’t get to demand a dissertation denouncing any and everything unhealthy in a piece you don’t like. Move on.

[summerpipedream]

7. Tagging is a nicety but not an obligation. You can message people, politely, and ask them to tag things, and many people will, but understand that it’s their blog and they aren’t obliged to say yes. Unfollow and block when you need to. Circling back to number 1, you are responsible for curating your own experience.

8. Don’t be a jerk. Remember at the end of the day, there are actual living, breathing people behind each screen name. Don’t say anything you wouldn’t say to someone’s face in real life. 

[pixie-mage]

I cannot stress enough how important it is to remember this.

[abessinier]

In hindsight, I wish I had phrased this with more kindness and understanding.

Taking responsibility for your media experience is still important and can be very empowering. However, I did not pay enough thought to this being a media competence that many people did not have the chance to learn.

I do not think this necessarily pushes the responsibility to artists (beyond tagging their content appropriately) but I think the discussion of anyone on the internet having a safe experience should not end with "if you're a kid and don't take care, its your own fault"

[abessinier]

Photography @bonesonmyface

Cosplay & drawing: me

[bonesonmyface]

... remember? Geto is @abessinier Gojo is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

Lazy mornings

Geto is @abessinier

Gojo is @bonesonmyface

Photographer is self-timer

[bonesonmyface]

"No matter the era, no matter the ending—we always find our way back to each other."

Geto is @abessinier Gojo is @bonesonmyface Photography by @elves-gone-wild

[bonesonmyface]

Departure 🛫

Geto is @abessinier

Gojo is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

Departure 🛫

Geto is @abessinier

Gojo is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

I can't hear it now. 💔 I started doing cosplay music video edits again and I had this idea in my head ever since we watched Arcane. <3 Geto is @abessinier Gojo is me

[bonesonmyface]

We tried to do a tiktok dance, but apparently we both suck at dancing the simplest dance, lack any sense of tact and I think that's ok. Suguru is @abessinier Satoru is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

Currently working on several new cosplay music videos with these two, here's a wip. 💔 Suguru is @abessinier Satoru is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

bonus:

POV: Your best friend is a walking menace.

Satoru is @bonesonmyface Suguru is @abessinier

[bonesonmyface]

results from our first silly photoshoot last month, I feel like they have a purikura vibe to them? maybe I should decorate and print them 🌚

Suguru is @abessinier Satoru is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

when we had our first photoshoot with the selfie timer back in november, we let our phones film us so that we would have some bts. <3 Suguru is @abessinier

Satoru is @bonesonmyface

[bonesonmyface]

“I never said it, but you always knew.”

Suguru @abessinier Satoru @bonesonmyface

[necromantictales]

Started drawing a doujinshi, didn’t kno where to put it, bon appetit