So TERFs have this thing where they collect stories of Political Correctness Gone Mad in institutional settings where there is a strict bureaucracy-backed male/female distinction, which the TERFs like, and it is not based on having a vulva as a newborn, which TERFs hate.
The thing is, most people have never set foot in places like prisons or mental hospitals so it's all very abstract. It's not actually obvious what the people, uh, staying in those establishments might need or want, what the staff on the floor might need or want, what the upper management thinks of this all, etc. You have something where on one side you really juice the "everyone who's been sent to prison or the nuthouse is a scary violent monster" and on the other you juice the "but she's a woman, how bad could she have been".
TERF rhetoric is so extreme that people who were driven insane in the colloquial sense by the prison-like environment of an all-girls' high school are like "I've watched OITNB, cis women do some impressively fucked up shit to each other, you might be justified in policing whether trans women have balls but as far as their brains go then even if they were men they'd have some stiff competition.
There is always a Problem if you have an institutional setting where there are pairs of inmates who are physically capable of getting a pregnancy going if left unsupervised, like even if it's not really obviously rape then it feels super uncomfortable to think about those people being able to consent or not, or what it would mean to have a person who wasn't able to consent to have sex but did want to have it and went looking, and of course whether we consider them capable of being parents.
If you're not a cultural lesbian, there is a pregnancy plotline in OITNB where... the trans woman has had SRS to get a coochie and no longer has testicles, but guess what TERFs there are outright cis men working as guards and guess what fucking happens every so often. It's Complicated in that the prisoner/guard relationship was as consensual as you can really get, that the mother and her shitty abuela friend engaged in flagrant violations of every principle of bodily autonomy and the show goes super easy on them, and the guard they decided to frame once the shitty mother had browbeaten her daughter into keeping it but not browbeaten her into dobbing in the guy she fucks... well, he's a piece of shit, you could make a good case his actions include actual murder and they were certainly things where you really shouldn't have to be resorting to technicalities to argue you didn't murder someone, but as far as having sex with him goes it was his consent that was questionable. Then he ends up in, like, real prison, scary male prison. Idk if that's the plotline conclusion. Baby daddy just fucks off which is an unsatisfying enough conclusion to be all arty and realistic enough to not be laying it on too thick.
Anyway yeah there's that sort-of acceptance where "are single-sex schools based?" is the kind of discussion you can have in the paper of record, right, like normal public institutions people actually regularly use are coed but there's an understanding that if things are special it's single-sex.
Look, the kind of belligerent old man who goes to the bathroom without even trying to call the nurse is a fucking annoying neighbour in good part because he leaves the seat up despite evidently being capable of standing without using his hands for support, but it's not this horrifying contamination to have both men and women awkwardly bunking together? I mean, when you can't reach across the disabled stall to be sure it's locked so one of the ambulatory women busts in on you naked (is it better if they just see your whole pussy or ass, or if your fat gut is covering it all when you're in the shower chair? Should I watch a compilation of those classically degrading shower scenes from the super-fat people reality show?) then you shrieking on instinct isn't betraying the sisterhood and the (female) nurse saying "hey I'm locking the door" from the outside five minutes later is a "yeah this is unpleasant, it happens, we'll deal with it". It's substantially more "don't fucking force intimacy based on gender" than say when the older woman in the bread and breakfast is doing what would be called "groping" were she an older man and if you stand up to your full height and verbally say no then you would be the bad guy. Liberal cities have better intra gender relations because they don't put so much fucking weight on it.
I mean, were we European, or were this a place where Aboriginal Australians still exist... it's actually workable to have cleaners and caterers with limited English because there's a limited script, like if I can't follow an African accent I can take a good guess at what was asked and respond "I'd like a tea please" and if that sanity checks then yay. I have unfortunately noticed an uptick in young men who are that specific type of racially black that the Sudanese are, and who are living down to the stereotypes by starting fights in places you don't normally get a fight. But if someone is working those jobs and is foreign, there's a good chance they left a country where some unusually bad shit is going down.
The reason female Ukrainian refugees aren't getting picked up by girlboss cops on the regular is because in liberal cities, the different kinds of Slav can't be arsed fighting about it. It's not because they're women.
But then, if you haven't realised that Russian mail order brides are usually not reachable in the same way that povo (South)East Asian marriage visa women usually aren't, then of course you'd fuck this one up.
