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How To Discuss Race With Black People Part 3: Advanced
Welcome back. I can see that you’ve been doing well. You’ve been through the First and Second FAQs and are feeling solid.
You understand what black people mean by Racism, you understand that having latent racism called out isn’t an indictment but an opportunity for personal growth and increased empathy.
At this point, you’ve realized that acknowledging your privilege doesn’t mean that you are evil, nor does it mean that you have not struggled, worked hard or experienced hardship. You feel less defensive and no longer feel the need to take it personally when black people speak about the pain they have suffered and continue to suffer at the hands of White Supremacy in America.
You understand why appeals to black on black crime as a rebuttal to claims of police brutality are not reasonable and you are more aware of how police and media can control the narrative of conflict.
Now, with a certainty that you will not stumble into the novice’s pitfalls, you are really listening to what black people are saying. But still… you have some questions.
Q: What about these FBI reports that say that black people proportionally commit more crime than white people? I mean that’s data, right? Not racism.
A: No worries. That’s completely understandable. I mean when you look at those breakdowns by race it sure looks like black people commit a whole lot of crime per capita more than white people…
Until you look closer. What many people fail to recognize (willfully or ignorantly) is that these statistics do not represent the amount of crime committed by race. They merely indicate the race of people arrested for crimes.
So let’s think about this. There’s a clear indication that a black person is significantly more likely to be arrested than a white person due to the fact that black communities are more heavily policed than white communities. So if we recognize that this imbalance exists, we realize that a breakdown of ARRESTS will reflect this imbalance.
Next, the stats don’t count the number of people arrested, just the number of arrests. So 100 arrests can represent a pattern of harrassment against 10 people or it could represent repeated legitimate arrests of 5 people.
Also, being arrested is not the same as being guilty. That’s purportedly the reason we have trials. So a count of arrests is not a count of crimes committed.
Finally, the FBI reports are incomplete. Police VOLUNTARILY contribute their reports to the FBI, and any data validity problems on the local scale bubble up to the aggregate counts.
All of this should be tempered with the understanding that many factors contribute to crime and subsequent arrest rates.
Tl;dr FBI data is incomplete, reflects racial arrest bias and says nothing about the criminality of black people.
Q: A lot of famous black people are saying that racism isn’t really a problem anymore. They succeeded, why shouldn’t we take their word for it over yours?
A: Yeah. That’s totally confusing. And i can understand why it would be really comforting to take them at their word. I mean if there are black people denying white supremacy, then maybe everyone else is just being melodramatic, and you can go to sleep confident that nothing is actually needed of you.
Here’s the thing. Not all black people experience Racism in the same way. Not all black people experience racism to the same degree. Not all black people are conscious of much of the Racism that exists in America because so much of it is normalized.
Think about this. A movie with no black characters in it is not considered a “white” movie. It is simply considered “a movie” it is presumed to be relatable to all audiences. A movie with all black characters in it is considered a “black movie” and is presumed to only appeal to black audiences. Generally, in order for a “black movie” to become a movie it must have a white protagonist to give white people a person to relate to.
This sort of Racism is deeply entrenched in American psyches, regardless of race. The pressure to assimilate to white culture is strong. Subsequently many black people do not recognize these elements of society as products of white supremacy. Just like Neo in the Matrix (see how I tied this to a white guy for you?), many black people experience a process of becoming “woke” and conscious to the way that Racism is deeply woven into the fabric of American society.
When a black person is upwardly mobile, this generally thrusts them into a world increasingly devoid of other black people. Because one’s economic and professional peers are now more likely to be white, one’s perspectives are more likely to be influenced directly by white people. Because most white people are like you, harboring no active resentment against individual black people, the feeling of Racism may not be so intense.
White people will often “compliment” a middle class or educated black person as “One of the good ones”, the implication being that it’s not black people they don’t like, just the majority of undesirable blacks whose culture and language they look down upon with disdain. This acceptance can be internalized, giving an upwardly mobile black person the notion that they’re doing blackness correctly and if everyone else would just do the same, there’d be no race problem.
Furthermore, when one is particularly famous either through politics or entertainment media, their livelihood, appeal and ability to interact effectively with white people (who by and large control money and opportunity) depend on not rocking the boat so much. It is in their best interest to support the narrative that we live in a post racial America.
Tl;dr Their success may shield them from it or their paychecks depend on a post-racial America. Either way. How many of them ARE there? Thought so.
Q: Why do black people get so touchy when I bring up Dr. Martin Luther King? He’s a great role model for peace. How’s THAT offensive? You LIKE him!
A: Ok, let’s start with the whole black people aren’t a monolith thing. Just hold that, we’ll get back to it. Dr. King rightfully holds a place of honor among the black community and is celebrated as a hero of civil rights. But white people often don’t understand the complexity of his legacy.
The common narrative is that white people were mean to black people until the Sixties when Martin Luther King led a bunch of people to jail, had a dream that black people should be peaceful with whites at all times and then everyone was so sad when he got shot that Racism ended.
In truth, Dr. King represents only a portion of the black voices in the civil rights movement. He was (and is) often considered the “good” civil rights leader because he refused any violence and as such was preferred by whites to more bombastic voices such as Malcolm X. Even this though is based on an oversimplification of both their messages.
White people, liberals and conservatives alike often fetishize Dr. King, reducing him to a Jesus-like figure whose dictates all black people must obey. WWMLKD?
This is a silencing tactic. A dismissal of black anger. An abdication of responsibility for white supremacy. People can look at #BlackLivesMatter and say “We saw violence at your protest on the news. MLK said no violence. Therefore you’re illegitimate”. Those who think themselves allies often use Dr. King as an excuse to distance themselves from any part of the movement that is more aggressive than Kumbaya.
Tl;dr MLK isn’t our dad. You can’t run tell him on us.
I sit down with the Ferguson Response Network to discuss #BlackLivesMatter, Miley and Nikki, SimSlavery and how Tone Policing is used to control Black narrative and history.
How To Discuss Race With Black People: Part 2 - Intermediate
So you’ve been through the first FAQ on race.
Now you've got a good grasp of the basics. You're boned up on your operational definitions, you grasp the necessary levels of propriety and respect, you're working on not taking it personally when people point out ingrained racism you may express, and are at a good point to start discussing some of the nuances of black experience.
Q: No offense, but what about black-on-black crime?
A: I went on a rant about this once, but let me try to explain why people may call this question racist. Crime in general tends to be opportunistic. People tend to commit crimes against the people they’re around. When communities are largely segregated geographically by race (as is the case in much of America) crime in general will tend to be against people of the same race.
Some like to point out that 9 out of 10 black murder victims is killed by another black person. This is said to show that violence against blacks is epidemic within black cultures. While this is a true statistic, it is misleading when not accompanied with context, such as the fact that 8 of 10 white murder victims are killed by white people. Doesn’t seem so drastic that way, huh?
TL;DR: It sucks. Just like white-on-white crime.
Q: Ok, but as you said, aren’t way more black people killed by each other than police? Why aren’t there protests about that instead?
A: The issue of blacks killed by black civilians is an entirely different concept than that of blacks killed by police. When blacks are killed by police, whether armed or unarmed, justified or unjustified, police are rarely if ever convicted. For police, the killing of unarmed black civilians is de facto legal. It is this ill-granted immunity to consequences for brutality, racist policing and outright murder that we protest against. It would make little sense to hold a protest against criminals. It is the police that are supposed to help stop the criminals and at the moment, they seem unable to tell the difference between black people and criminals.
TL;DR: Criminals don’t have a command structure to protest against. Police do.
Q: Speaking of Protests, I get that you’re mad but I don’t like this rioting and destruction of private property. That’s not the way to justice.
A: The problems with this question are numerous.
Firstly, it presumes that rioting or property damage was a goal of protesters. - It is difficult to wrap one’s head around the magnitude of the pressure that builds when a population is aggrieved continually without voice or relief, but explosive decompression is a thing.
Secondly, it presumes that rioting or property damage was initiated by protesters. - It is also common to underestimate the effect of the dynamic created when a group of unarmed civilians is surrounded by heavily-armed troops -- often the same troops who have recently killed members of that same community with impunity. Asymmetrical police response to minor disturbance is an escalating factor and cannot be discounted when assigning blame for violence. In addition, protesters are routinely blamed for police missteps. As police literally control the scene, they also largely control the official narrative
Thirdly, it presumes that rioting is inherently an illegitimate tool of resistance - In fact, America’s long proud history is littered with triumphs of civil unrest. We have glorified the story of intrepid heroes doing what needs to be done to fight injustice. Instrumental violence to achieve worthy goals is an American favorite. Unless the people doing it are black.
TL:DR - What do you think the Tea Party WAS?
Q: Well I think that the problem is that you keep making such a big deal out of race. If you just stopped talking about it all the time, it wouldn’t be a problem.
A: That’s not really a question. But I’ll answer it anyway. The problem of systemic racism continues even if I don’t talk about it. That’s what the “systemic” part is about. Racism in America is baked into the crust. Legislation, societal memes, media, education, policing, housing, poverty, systemic racism pervades each of these. The idea that everyone was getting along fine until this whole #BlackLivesMatter thing started is a fiction. The effects of racism have been with us this whole time, camouflaged and subtle but unabated. Talking about race doesn’t cause racism any more than talking about cancer causes tumors.
TL:DR: Even if I stopped caring about my race, the police would do it for me.
to be clear the first one is the original. i just riffed on it because it’s a powerful message.
Good riff
How to Discuss Race With Black People: FAQ PT 1
So. You’re a white person looking to hop into a discussion about race with black people. This can be tricky. You’ve got something you want to say and you feel it’s really relevant. Well if productive conversation is your goal (and even if it isn’t) you might want to read the following so you don’t look too silly / uninformed / racist / trollish.
As an added bonus, you can avoid annoying the black people who answer these questions a billion times a day and just can’t explain the whole thing to one more person.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
Q: ISN’T EVERYBODY RACIST? A: No. Everybody is biased. When black people speak of Racism (denoted here with capital “R”) we are speaking not of a simple biased view of another. We are speaking of the ability to translate those biases into a dominant socio-political force that negatively affects the race as a whole.
TL;DR - Racism = Bias + Power/Dominance
Q: ISN’T #BLACKLIVESMATTER RACIST? SHOULDN’T IT BE #ALLIVESMATTER? A: No. The hashtag is a response to the sentiment, overwhelming nationally that black lives DON’T matter. While the vast majority of those behind the hashtag are sympathetic to injustice suffered by any, the systematic prejudices toward blacks in America and the history of those prejudices is starkly different than those suffered by other minorities in America, so making a statement specific to blacks is not denying the worth of other lives.
TL;DR - No. It’s #BlackLivesMatter not #OnlyBlackLivesMatter
Q: WHY DO PEOPLE SAY I SAID/DID SOMETHING RACIST? I LIKE BLACK PEOPLE! A: You can have racist thoughts or ideas or even actions without being “A Racist”. Really the difference between a Racist and someone who did/said/believed something racist is that the former, when confronted with their racist act, stands by it, while the latter seeks to re-evaluate the offending deed. Liking black people does not keep one from racist ideas or acts. Much is unintentional or sub-conscious.
TL;DR - Your black friends are not a racism vaccine.
Q: DON’T I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE MAD WHEN SOMEONE ACCUSES ME OF RACISM? A: Sure. You have the right, but that doesn’t mean it’s productive. More often than not, when a person points out something racist you did, it is in an attempt to help you identify and reject it. Taking it as a condemnation of you as a person is counterproductive. See it instead as a learning opportunity.
TL:DR - Yes. But you could just listen instead.
Q: ISN’T IT RACIST TO TELL ME MY OPINION ISN’T NECESSARY/WANTED BECAUSE I’M WHITE? A: No. See, despite the fact that you may be a brilliant and thoughtful and downright wonderful person, a core aspect of any black discussion on race is that black ideas and speech have historically required white validation. Whites as a group have dominated all public discourse in America for centuries. By and large, white people still feel the need to put in their two cents instead of listening. Often the best contribution you can make is listening and hearing.
TL;DR - No. Its just not about you right now, and that’s ok.
Q: AREN’T THINGS THAT ARE DESIGNED TO ONLY HELP BLACK PEOPLE RACIST FOR NOT HELPING WHITES? A: No. American society is by default a system that gives preferential treatment to its white citizens. This preferential treatment is quite reasonably experienced by whites as baseline, or normal. A change in the balance, to a white person, may seem like an injustice, when it is in fact simply a small correction toward equity.
TL;DR - You already HAD half the cake. You don’t get half of what’s left too.
Q: ISN’T IT UNFAIR TO BLAME ALL BLACK PROBLEMS ON WHITE PEOPLE? A: Inaccurate? Certainly. Unfair? Not really. This is generally a straw man argument. Black people, despite media and political portrayal are quite capable and familiar with personal responsibility. However, white supremacy in America is pervasive and affects the lives of black people at literally every stage of life. This makes it an inextricable factor in black lives. While the vast majority of black people do not believe that “Whitey” is to blame for every bad thing that goes wrong, the pervasiveness gives credence to the fractional minority of us who do.
TL;DR - No. Calm down. Nobody’s really doing that.
Q: I’M NOT IN THE KLAN! WHY DO PEOPLE SAY I BENEFIT FROM WHITE SUPREMACY? A: While White Supremacists are the loud obnoxious ones who yell “nigger” a lot, they represent an extreme of the white supremacy spectrum. White supremacy is a blanket term for the normality of whiteness, the claim to rightful privilege, the marginalization of other groups. The subtle end is of the spectrum is this. As a white person, would it occur to you to send a birthday card with only black people on it to your mother? If not realize that mass produced “black” greeting cards are relatively new. You benefit in myriad ways (not necessarily financial) from white supremacy.
TL;DR - Because you do. You dont have to like the Klan to benefit from being white.
Q: CAN I SAY THE N-WORD? A: You should probably ask why this is important to you.
TL;DR - No.
Let's Look Backwards
We are constantly informed that in order to progress as a society, we must look forward and not backward. We must not dwell on the sins and slights of the past, but instead affix our sights on the goal, never looking at the chaos behind us, lest we turn to salt. There is a seductive truth to this thinking and from the right perspective, it is well earned. Wallowing needlessly in firmly held grudges is not particularly healthful and tends to contribute to a persistent yearning for revenge and a resistance to resolution. But this is not what I'm talking about. I reference those situations in which this "look forward not backward" advice is given by those who have much to gain by our ignorance of the past. When wrongdoing by those in authority is uncovered, inevitably a chorus of "Let's not quarrel about the past" follows. This is not a suggestion designed to protect our emotional health. It is a dismissal. It is a "Nothing to see here" as police wave an angry and questioning crowd past the cooling body of a young black man in the street. Looking forward is not about liberating us from the shackles of the past, it is about enticing us to forget that there were shackles at all. And who put them there. Looking forward allows those who have exploited a people to judge the efforts of those people to thrive without regard to the effects of their exploitation. Looking forward prevents a people from seeing the trail behind them left by those who have been bleeding them with quiet cuts. Looking forward resets the clock of accountability. It prevents acknowledgement of the source of current wealth and power. The shorter our memories, the less evidence exists to indict bad actors for their acts. What a different country this would be if each person of color facing a judge could merely say of the charges against them "Your honor, let's look forward, not back"
While you sleep I stitch my name into your sleeves. I want to be where your heart is. And you breathe so deep I can barely see. It seems make-believe— the way you soothe me. You’ll never lose me, my dear.
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I'm Not Proud to Be an Ally
Earlier this week, a woman on Twitter thanked me for speaking out against misogyny. I'd been talking to men on Twitter about the ways in which our insistence on being "macho" emotionally cripples us from childhood, and how the effect of that is grown men who have no idea how to deal with the emotional nuances of pain and respond with the only two acceptable responses for men. Anger and violence. But that's another post.
She thanked me for speaking out and noted how brave it was of me to stand up and speak out for women as a male. I told her that I appreciated the sentiment, but that I didn't think it was brave at all. Because it's not.
I am a "feminist ally" because I strive to shed myself of my sexist thoughts and tendencies. Because I try to be conscious of when I am violating a woman's sense of safety or comfort. I am a "feminist ally" because I challenge men who make thoughtlessly sexist comments to think about them. I am a "feminist ally" because I am a man who believes that women are no less worthy of respect, consideration, attention or personal safety than we are.
And I'm not proud of that.
In order to be proud of something, it should be a personal accomplishment. It should mean that you went above and beyond. It should be a celebration of effort and cost toward the end of a positive goal. Being a "feminist ally" is none of that. Neither is being an "ally against racism" Because being an "ally" is what I should have been doing anyway.
As an ally, I don't get a gold star and a parade for doing something that should be a baseline requirement for being a human -- respecting the dignity of other humans. There is no bravery in Allyship. There is no cost to me for saying "women are equal". It does not require effort or personal strength to say "Black lives matter" It takes nothing more than recognizing that people are people.
In those cases where there IS cost, it is never more than the cost paid regularly by those you are an ally with, and it usually doesn't even compare. The weight of being called a "beta male" or a "white knight" by some insecure Male Rights Activist does not balance well against the week of rape threats levied against the women I stand with. It does not balance at all against the actual pain of assault and rape suffered by the women I stand with.
The weight of being called a "race traitor" or a "nigger lover" does not balance well against being called a nigger or a thug or an animal. It does not balance at all against the reality of daily police harassment, denial of access to the tools of society and the centuries of utter contempt shown blacks by America. So we can stop patting ourselves on the back and thinking of ourselves as so enlightened and wonderful.
As allies. We have nothing to be proud of. We are doing the bare minimum.
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Brunch: An Allegory of Racist America
FADE IN
INT CLASSY BRUNCH SPOT IN NYC FINANCIAL DISTRICT. A COMPANY CEO AND A VICE PRESIDENT ARE SEATED AT A TABLE BY THE WINDOW. A HOMELESS WOMAN BEGINS TO POUND ON THE GLASS AND SCREAM OBSCENITIES.
CEO: ::shoos woman through glass:: Get out of here!
WOMAN: ::yells something inaudible through the glass::
VP: ::laughing:: What the hell is THAT about?
CEO: Nothing. This crazy lady yells at me every time I eat here. She’s really nuts. I usually have to call the cops on her.
VP: ::laughing:: Jesus! Do you know her? Why does she pick on you?
CEO: Know her? No. Not really…
VP: Not really?
CEO: Well. I mean she grew up in my house, but that was a long time ago.
VP: Wait. WHAT? She used to LIVE with you?
:: Woman bangs on window ::
CEO: SHUT UP CRAZY! Not me really. I mean it was my father’s house.
VP: Huh? I’m confused.
CEO: Well. My father was a great man. But in his youth he had some troublesome moments
VP: I don’t get it.
CEO: Ok. So funny story. When my dad first came to NYC, He was broke. He lived off of the charity of others.
VP: YOUR father was poor? I don’t believe it!
CEO: Yes indeed. A true rags to riches story. See. One night he was sleeping on a park bench, and a local man offered to let him sleep at his place.
VP: Ok…
CEO: My father jumped at the chance. They fed him and gave him a warm bed. They let him stay two weeks rent free. He fell in LOVE with that house.
VP: What does this have to do with her? :: points at screaming woman ::
CEO: Patience. Let me finish. So like I said. My dad loved the house so much that he slaughtered the man and his wife in their sleep, buried them under the dirt floor in the basement and kept living there. He forged a few signatures on a few things and made it look like they’d moved to Europe.
VP: You’re… kidding. Right?
CEO: Nope. It was a little underhanded, I admit. Anyway. The place was WAY too big for him to keep up himself, so he needed help.
VP: UH HUH…
CEO: Anyway. So he scouted the city till he found the perfect target.
VP: Target?
CEO: To be the maid. You know? So he’s at the park one evening when he sees this beautiful young woman with her husband and newborn baby sitting by the lake. And he figures “Perfect”. So. My dad.. Shrewd guy he is… Slices the man’s throat, puts his wife into the back of his trunk and takes her back to his place.
VP: ::aghast:: That’s… that’s…
CEO: A little tacky, I know. But it was a different time. Anyway. So yeah, he brings the woman back home. And she, you know. Keeps trying to escape, because you know how women are, am I right? ::unreciprocated high five::. So of course he’s got to break her, right? So as he told it, it’s like WEEKS of rapes and beatings. Just to show her who’s boss. Luckily for me, he knocked her up. Nine months later, there’s me!
VP: What about the other baby?
CEO: Oh. He didn’t really care about her at all. She wasn’t his kid. But I was. Anyway. So eventually he flips the house, and uses the money to buy a few more properties and eventually had enough money to start this company.
VP: I had no idea that’s how this company got started.
CEO: Yeah. Totally. So eventually. He and the maid–
VP: The maid. WAIT. You mean your MOTHER?
CEO: Whatever. He and the maid got older. She never left him. All that torture was really effective. But she died.. then he died and it was just me and the maid’s daughter. I never had anything against her really. We were close as kids. But my dad refused to let her go to school. Said she’d never amount to anything anyway. I didn’t want to… You know… enable her. So i kicked her out.
VP: You mean… your sister?
CEO: Whatever. So when he died, he left everything to me. The company, the house, everything. The maid’s daughter was really mad about that.. I don’t know why.. she never did anything useful. she didn’t deserve it. She tried to sue me repeatedly for part of the inheritance. Said something about her having claim to it too. I knew the judge though and he assured me that he’d have my back. So suit failed. Sad really, She never really made anything out of herself.
VP: Wait… That woman isn’t…
CEO: Hold on one second ::pulls out phone. dials:: Yeah. Hi. Yes yes. Its me again. I KNOW. Like clockwork right? Could you come get her? ::hangs up phone:: Sorry. I like to have her cleared out before I leave. One time she hit me with a rock. It hurt. Left a scrape and everything.
VP: I’m sorry. Did you just call the police on your own sister?
CEO: THE MAID’S KID. And yes. She’s an erratic violent loser and needs to take responsibility for her life. Look at me. I’m a successful CEO and I never got a damn bit of help.
VP: But your father left you all his blood money.
CEO: AHEM. Don’t forget who you’re talking to. Both my father and I made our way without help. Without us you wouldn’t have a job. Listen. I’m not a monster. I’ve given her change, on really cold nights, I offer her $5 for a shelter.
::woman screams as is beaten and dragged away by cops::
Damned lowlives
VP: I… um. Quit. CHECK PLEASE.
FADE OUT
If a guy ever insists that you two have sex without a condom just smile really big and get teary eyed and emotional and start talking about how excited you are that he wants to have a baby with you and when he tries to interject and say that’s not what he meant, just talk loudly over him about possible baby names.
Reblog This If You Think Boys Can Wear Dresses
My mom just told me that because I’m a boy, I can’t wear dresses. Like, sometimes I just wanna dress up all fancy in a dress and be a bomb-smashin booty-rockin drop dead diva, okay? She wants me to get rid of my dresses because I’m a boy, but I wanna prove a point to her.
"Use your penis for good."
-C.W. (via akacharleswade)
Always.
Cops are consistent.
Famous People Don't Rape
"He was rich/famous/popular/charming/handsome/likable, he didn’t need to rape anyone to get laid"
Been hearing a lot of this lately, though it’s not new. My fellow men. Can we talk a minute?
The phrase “he didnt need to rape her” as a defense to rape strongly implies that somewhere a converse situation exists in which someone DID need to rape her. Hear how that sounds?
Likewise, statements like “she wasn’t good looking enough to rape” implies that some women ARE hot enough to rape.
Many are confused about why women keep going on and on about “rape culture” and they don’t understand how they could be implicated in it, considering they don’t rape anyone.
This though is one of those points. Whenever you perpetuate the notion that there is any circumstance in which rape is understandable (even if not condoned) you lay another brick in the foundation of a society hospitable to rapists.
Every time you ask “Why’d she wait so long?” Or “Why didn’t she get a rape kit?” Or “Why didn’t she keep the evidence?” Or “Doesn’t it matter that he’s talented/famous/nice? ” Or “She’s probably in it for the money right? “, you pave the way for predators to do what they do best, safe and secure in the knowledge that if their crimes are discovered, all society will be their defense team.
Rape is not about having sex, it’s about asserting dominance. It’s about displaying power.
Try not to applaud.