Acethetic

Reyn. 20. Genderqueer (they/them). Butch. Queer aroace. Pro-ace inclusion.

[a-gay-possum]

Seeing discoursers trying to bring up their exclusionary hot takes during pride 

[yiffscourse]

“Queers fuck off” isn’t bc ppl who label as queer are necessarily not lgbt or whatever cause most of them are, it’s just more like

I know most of y’all under that label have bad politics and I’m not here for it lol. If queer is the one and only label you use, you’re probably FULL of bad opinions. That’s just how it is.

[nokogiriyama]

thats a lot of words to say “i’m homophobic and i love the taste of terfs boots”

[nonbunary-coco]

Heya.

I chose to make a blog that allows poc inclusionists to  talk about the struggles and experiences of  within the community when it comes to white exclusionists. I’ve been active in the discourse for a good while, and would greatly appreciate a boost!

[ace-cryptids]

How can you be butch if you’re not a lesbian? Butch is a lesbian only term/identity

1) No, it’s not, and the idea that only lesbians can use butch/femme is some ahistorical bullshit.

2) When you’re trying to police someone’s identity, for example, by insisting that they can’t use certain labels because they’re not a lesbian, make sure that they’re actually, like… not a lesbian.

3) I’m a Whole Lesbian, buddy. I realize it doesn’t say that in my description, but I’m more comfortable using those terms on the internet.

4) Butch is really the only way for me to contextualize my sexuality/gender, as well as how I would like to present.

5) Fuck off.

[ace-cryptids]

Fuck every exclusionist who’s ever used any of my special interests to mock aces

[ace-cryptids]

Reminder to self: never go onto IRL friends’ blogs, especially when you’re in a bad mood, bc you might find aphobic bullshit and you can’t unfollow/block them even if you really want to

[were-wolfcourse]

“Well there is an A for asexual!!!”

“A for asexual” was created by an homophobic cishet man who proudly flauntered how he called gay men f****ts, and popularized by cishets and fandom adults through harassing and boycotting LGBT organizations until they had to give up or lose the conditional support of cishets.

So really it aint worth shit and maybe some of you need to learn actual LGBT and not whatever turgid crap comes out of kwyr fandom mommies in their 30s.

[ungracefulace]

Literally the only part of this thats marginally correct is that David Jay is a man.

[kuromi-course]

eyyy can i join the weird name group, i go by Toxic online and totally would irl too if i didnt think people would be Rude about it. it's not a kin thing or anything tho

ur valid

[queersona]

c..can i join the weird name group bc people have trouble pronouncing it correctly?

[excalibelle]

ppl struggle to say “anna”?

also can i join vor similar reasons bc my name itself (Meg) is normal but every time i introduce myself to someone verbally they’re like “mag? mayg? mayb? may?”

[queersona]

it’s pronounced the other way than how you think it’s pronounced

[sailorcrystalgemplaneteer]

So like… Green Gables or Frozen?

[queersona]

finally

SOMEONE GETS IT

[webber-course]

Hey I’m a literal error can I join

[yorksilk]

I have a weird online name and a real name that people think is weird for a girl

[qinghua]

People think my name is fucking weird and everyone says it wrong, can I join?

[yorksilk]

I…. Genuinely don’t know how to say your name, you must be a member of high honour.

[cabyll-ushtey]

Can I join? No one can pronounce my name or write it, it’s Jörunn. x’D

[ace-cryptids]

Is Reyn weird enough? (It’s not pronounced how you think.)

Also @rusty-dyke I’m not sure exactly where to put the emphasis, but assuming standard German pronunciations, I could probably get decently close. Maybe. My accent is terrible, though. Also, I really like your name!

[fuckyeahasexual]

I can't vote because I can't get a ride and it's making me feel super horrible since people really want me to vote and I kinda wanna cry

Oh no! Do any of these help? (Text version here)

[ace-cryptids]

I’m super pissed about the Sesame Street thing, and you know what? I’m equally pissed about exclusionists using this to further their agenda about aces being homophobic. I’ve seen sooo many people complaining that aces are “celebrating” the statement as aro/ace representation, but the only things even remotely close to that were troll posts explicitly designed to mock asexual people.

[ace-cryptids]

You know, I’m never gonna understand people who say kids can’t be asexual. Like, I was a minor when I realized I was ace. But I was ace even before I knew about asexuality. I was an ace kid.

[ace-cryptids]

When I get to a computer, I’m gonna disable replies. You can reblog if you feel the need to comment, or you can shut the fuck up

[ace-cryptids]

My favorite discourse thing is when exclusionists provide “proof” that aro/ace inclusion is harmful to the community… by talking about 100% Straight (i.e. perisex, cisgender, heterosexual, and heteroromantic) people

[ace-cryptids]

There literally are not words to express just how much I hate exclusionists.

I hate you. You make me feel unsafe. I lost a year of my life to you people. I wanted to kill myself because of the discourse. Someone I admire attempted suicide because of you. And you’ve destroyed any chance of me finding a home in a community that I desperately need. So congratulations. You’ve done a great job protecting the community!

[nb-leafeon]

finally get to bring this back

[satanasgf-antigo]

Random cishet ace: I can’t trust people with the lesbian flag as their icon because a lot of lesbians are exclusionists or terfs so I feel threatened and…

Me, a trans woman:

[flower-lesbienne]

Sources?

[fagoroki]

this isnt exactly related but its extremely similar and can be seen within 5 minutes of looking in the top posts of the ace discourse tag

[flower-lesbienne]

Can you show me like. the rest of the post? This is kinda confusing on its own

[ace-cryptids]

OP of that post is literally a nonbinary lesbian. This post has nothing to do with “not trusting” people who have a lesbian flag as their icon. It’s about exclusionist dogwhistles. OP is encouraging people to think critically about what they reblog on this site, because people who aren’t involved in this discourse might accidentally reblog a post that was written with the intention of excluding a-spec/nonbinary/pan/queer/etc. people.

People who are hurt by exclusionists have a right to warn others about the rhetoric y’all use. We have a right to encourage others to no-platform bigoted users.

And you know, not all lesbians are comfortable being represented by the lipstick lesbian flag, especially butches and some non-cis lesbians. A lot of the people I’ve seen criticizing the flag… are lesbians. As a nonbinary butch, I don’t feel represented by that flag, and I’m uncomfortable with using a flag that was created by someone who is ableist and racist.

@apersnicketylemon I don’t know how you feel about people taking screenshots and/or implying that you’re cishet, but I wanted to be sure you saw this.

[ace-cryptids]

Are there any lesbian inclusionists who’d be willing to talk with me? It doesn’t have to be right this minute… but hopefully soon?