Time to conduct evil @action-bitch - Tumblr Blog

Have I been inactive long enough to just start posting n*des so no one will notice

gaydicks420-deactivated20150829

every time i see this post i kinda wanna cry? look at how little that dog is. its so small. it was so defenseless and that dude fucking punched a bear to save it. does that dog know? does it know how loved it is? i want someone to love me that much. i want to be that small.

aewm

i agree with gay dicks 420

yourbigsisnissi

When people tell stories about how their parents beat them, it’s always interesting to see their face change because they expected me to say “me too lol” but I instead say “I’m really sorry. You didn’t deserve that” Last time a co worker who also has West Indian parents was telling me in a joking way how he remembers being beaten with a belt because lied about his report card. As he was laughing it off and saying he deserved it, I just said “wow that’s awful hun. You didn’t deserve that.” And his whole face changed. Like it hadn’t occurred to him that it’s messed up that a part of remembering his childhood is remembering how badly it hurt to be beaten so badly at such a young age. Another time I had a friend, non West Indian parents, who talked about how she made a mess on a dress that her parents got her. It was really expensive apparently and she spilled red juice on it. She talked about how she was ordered to take the dress of and was beaten with a belt too without any clothes on. And she was laughing and said “I was a bad ass kid lol” and I said “no hun you were just a kid”. And she looked at me and immediately stopped laughing and just sat there like “yea…I was just a kid. I don’t know why they did that to me” My mom was raised in a household where she was beaten so badly….I just don’t understand how she is so loving now growing up in a home where she got so little love. They called it discipline, but once she became a social worker she began to see that it was abuse. That she grew up terrified of her parents, although they thought it was respect that my mom felt. It was fear. We have to get comfortable challenging what is often seen as cultural norms. We have to be a generation of people who are not ashamed to say “I would never beat my child”.

carnival-phantasm

We have numerous studies linking physical punishment on children, some far less drastic than the ones mentioned, to behavior/aggressivity issues and mental disorders in the long term, but it’s so normalized that most people think kids will become “spoiled” if they don’t ever get spanked – something far more related to parents being absent and not participating in their education than “lack of punishment”.

Beating children is just the lazy, ignorant way out and a sign of failure as a parent. Hitting some defenseless kid when you are angry is far easier and quicker than calming yourself down and having a conversation where you have to adapt your words so your kid can understand, but the latter is proper parenting and teaching while the former is just giving your children a risk factor for social and psychiatric disorders.