A Different Point of View

A blog for uplifting adoptees and making their voice be heard. This blog will also post about poc issues in general. If you want to know more about being an adoptee or want to tell your story, don't hesitate to send an ask

[wethankyouohmonolith]

Crispin and Basilio

[adopteesarevalid]

Transracial by white people is a really wild concept, Im literally born asian but grew up white and it makes me question if im a "real asian" like some fucked up imposter syndrome and then white people deadass just???? Claim to be a different race??? The pure and undeserved confidence and arrogance??

[adopteesarevalid]

I can see what you're saying; from the blk side of it there's just as much frustration too.

People were comparing the visibility that BLM got to SAH (and other movements and problems too; this definitely wasn't just SAH) while ignoring the fact the BLM was around for nearly a decade before 2020 (with many, many protests under it's belt) and the fact that it was the riots the drew people's attention. Hell, rappers have been talking about police brutality in music pretty consistently since the 90s (and before that too) and sportsmen too. But, with activism the more visibility it gets the more it puts the blk community and people in danger.

In a previous protest (years ago about a blk man who got shot; don't even remember which one) there were blk activists speaking out and I remember seeing comments asking people to keep a careful eye on them in case they die under 'sudden circumstances' (after the Civil Rights Movement all major activists were murdered over time; the FBI admitted later it was involved in some way with all of their deaths and the blk community was severely targeted for 'stirring the pot' so to speak). So there's lots of fear and trauma there I think other PoC don't really realize when it comes to activism for the blk community.

Activism is kinda seen like a life or death kind of thing; something you do if you have the strength. So when people from other movements demand or attempt to guilt trip BLM and the Blk community (because out of all the movements and protests only BLM was explicitly targeted) for more attention for their movements while simultaneously recognizing many of their own community haven't even been speaking out and putting work into it while also having anti-blackness in there too and scorning BLM for it's visibility.....well, it tends to piss a lot of Blk people off tbh. Especially since so many tagged all this under BLM which means it was under the tag meant for the Blk community.

Also, don't get discouraged about the vitriol and hate comments. BLM tag got them too (that'll happen any time anyone speaks up anyway). As a matter of fact I think it might be the same person/people. Because Blk bloggers got nearly the same comments.

-Same anon from before.

This really puts a lot in perspective, I wanna really thank you for your patient explanation! There's so much history behind not just the movements but also the people themseves that I and a lot of other peopel black, asian, white etc really dont know about each other but also ourselves? The "Stop Asian Hate" tag had a lot of history on racism against asians and how it's perpetuated everywhere in society that I never knew about. I followed the blm tag (and the movement itself too ofc) but i'd only seen the pure racist reaction from white people but I realise when other people start demanding your activism for their own shit that gets real bored real soon.

There is so much history and so many frustrations in general between different minority groups that it's really not as easy as saying "we should all work together" and it makes it easier for racists and white dickheads to come and disrupt everything we're working toward making us dump all our frustrations on each other.

You really made me understand that blck side of the story a lot more, it doesnt make other poc demanding blck activism for their own purposes or the negativity on a tag specifically for asians perpetuated by other poc or white people okay but this does make it somehow easier to not get as discouraged as I was before.

[adopteesarevalid]

Poc adoptees

It’s okay to sometimes feel distant from your parents because they are white and you are not

People like to say “don’t ask white people” like it’s the logical thing. But as an adoptee, mostly secluded from any other poc, it’s not that easy

It’s okay if you’re not interested in “your culture”

It’s okay  if you are interested and want to learn more

It’s okay to let your voice be heard, don’t let anyone silence you

It’s okay to want to know your biological parents

It’s okay not to be interested in knowing your biological family

It’s okay if you’re struggling with your identity, the struggle of who we are, is always more complicated than a non adopted poc

[allisonvaire-deactivated2022071]

it’s truly wild how people only listen to poc voices when there’s violence involved. but when we call out the micro aggressions, the “regular” racism, we get made fun of and dismissed by the edgy internet girls who treat us like we’re subhuman. you all were the very first ones making covid ‘jokes’ against asians last year. and look where that ‘joke’ went.... now white people have used it as an excuse to harass and beat and shoot up asians. it all starts with the little things. it always does.

[adopteesarevalid]

I mean, tbh when #stopasianhate first popped up on on tumblr (as well as in the weeks following) there were a lot of posts that did compare BLM and SAH. People would also talk strictly about SAH but have BLM in the tags too.

There were also plenty of posts appeared to compare the two but reeked of anti-black rhetoric too.

It was very frequent too; like overall *at least* every 1 in 8/10 posts. I didn't really see any blk people doing it tbh (though I did find lots of posts addressing it from blk people) mostly people who claimed to identify as white, Latino/Hispanic, and yes, Asian.

Nobody's really doing it or talking about it now thank goodness but it was definitely a thing for quite a while.

I'm definitely not trying to say any of that is okay but it's really gotten to a point where there's mostly reaction posts to things that aren't trending in the tag anymore. And yeah it's super tempting to compare to blm, just the fact that sah is not "gaining as much traction or attention" which is prob the main theme of posts like that and also super wrong but it's also super exhausting to finally have an actual movement, even if it's not super big or even if a lot of non asians dont give a shit, and then to see the first 20 posts be mostly about how horrible asians are or how we're not really opressed while asians are getting assaulted and attacked...it's not even about being "more opressed" it's about thinking we have something, some movement and then finding it literally has no substance except negativity after 2 weeks of existing

Also, i do not think tagging both sah and blm when talking about these things is wrong, inherently they're 2 movements who have very similiar and overlapping goals, they should be supporting each other instead of pitting themselves against each other

[adopteesarevalid]

I literally cant go through the "stop asian hate" tag without asians being painted as the model minority/racist themselves/ being told that blm is more important and to stop "piggybacking" off black people when NO asian post on there in the top 20 remotely does anything like that?

Dont tell us to not compare it to blm, when the ONLY comparisons are by black people or other non asians in a negative light??

It's a literally a tag to stop racism and MURDER and ASSAULT on asians???

How about you stay off the tag unless it is to voice unwavering support to the stop asian hate movement?

[acesian]

hey I was going through the transracial tag and the top posts are all from transphobes and racists and other kinds of assholes. if you don't mind, could you please help boost my faq or other posts from real transracial people so we can spread the true definition and take it back from the bigots?

thanks to anyone who has reblogged or otherwise supported voices from the transracial community 💖

[wocinsolidarity]

““In a context in which 95 percent of adoptees are girls, it is important to address questions of how racialized desire might intersect with the construction of Asian female bodies. Cheung (2000), for example, argues that in American cultural history Asian women have been endowed with an “excess” of womanhood (alongside the full manhood denied Asian men). And in China/U.S. adoption, mothers Deena Houston and Jackie Kovich were not alone in conjuring the image of beautiful, enthralling Chinese girls. Adoption agencies consistently use photos of cute, dolled-up Asian girls in their advertising; some use phrases such as “From China with Love” to attract would-be parents. Some of those prospective parents said they had become enchanted with their friends’ or neighbors’ Chinese girls. Margaret Jennings said she saw a photo of a Chinese adopted girl in the paper and “knew I wanted to adopt from China right then.” Some expressed embarrassment at what they suspected hinted at “racist love”— embrace of the “acceptable model” of the racial minority (Chan 1972, quoted in Cheung 2000: 309). Just days after she had met her daughter, Barbara and I were discussing what seemed among some new adoptive mothers an obsession with dolling up their daughters, when Barbara stopped to say in a low tone, “I hate to ask this, but are all the children beautiful? It seems like they’re all beautiful.””

— Sara Dorow, “Why China?: Identifying Histories of Transnational Adoption,” Asian American Studies Now (2010)  

[diaryofanangryasianguy]

04/16/21

How adoptees experience anti-Asian hate

Adopted from South Korea as an infant into a white military family, Mila C.C. Konomos said she’s dealt with anti-Asian racism — intentional, or based in ignorance — her entire life. Being adopted into a white culture complicates the Asian-hate issue for her. “I got to experience all the racism of being Asian but none of the connection to food and language and family,” she said. “My only connection to my Asian heritage is stereotypes.”

Growing up, home offered no respite. “My whole family made fun of my looks,” she said. “I do love my family, but it’s very complicated.” When she was bullied for being Asian, by her three white brothers or others, her parents said she was too sensitive. “It can really be hurtful because the people that are supposed to be your family and love you the most have no idea what your daily life is like.”

[watcher0033]

I want to rage, to erase this crushing sense of helplessness in my lungs. To snarl instead of sobbing. I wanted to be shocked at this injustice. To be surprised and treat this as a horrific incident and not just a symptom of a bigger problem.

But I've witnessed how racist bigots reacted to Floyd, the instinctive racist response and "jokes" when people identified China as the one who was at fault with the whole COVID-situation, and how I immediately thought that those "low-key" racist thoughts will escalate someday to deadly actions. I listened to some of my friends when they said that I'm exaggerating.

And I wish- I wish I was. I wished that they were right and I was wrong. But look at our bloodied history. Look at where we are now.

One step forward, eight bloody steps back.

....stay safe.

[hellenic-reconstructionism]

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[doctorbluesmanreturns]

Happy father’s day to all of the good men who have devoted their lives to the wellbeing of the children in their care, biological father or not if you’re there for them, you’re a good man and their true father.

[dailymenamassoud-blog]

mena i grew up in an egyptian household massoud

[swanmask]

Since I haven’t seen any mention of it yet, except on twitter, i’d also like to remind everyone that not only is June LGBT pride month, but it’s also Indigenous History month!

Please take the time to support, uplift and remember your Native, First Nations, Aboriginal and otherwise Indigenous friends and family. We are here, we exist! We have a long and winding history that deserves to be heard and respected! The word ‘Indigenous’ is so wonderful, and so expansive, and includes so many different cultures under its arms. Go out, learn about our histories and our cultures. Talk to the Indigenous people around you! We’re everywhere!

And not only that, but also be sure to give extra support to LGBT indigenous voices in this community. We are a minority that is scarcely acknowledged, and in desperate need of it. Too many times have I gotten strange looks for being so openly Native and so openly a lesbian. It’s as if that combination is impossible for people to understand. Support our content, buy from our stores! Or at least just include us!

I’d like to wish a happy LGBT pride month, and a happy Indigenous History month to everyone, but especially us LGBT Native folks. This really is our month to be open about ourselves, and I sure intend to. 💗🏳️‍🌈

[sixxbenhargreeves]

HE IS LITERALLY THE CUTEST OMG!!

[adopteesarevalid]

Im getting real tired of the term’ nonblack poc’ first of all ALWAYS used in a negative way and being lumped in with “whities” and second of all, why would we put together literal dozens of ethnic groups and minorities with one umbrella term like that??? The world isn’t black white and uhh I guess those other people, who aren’t as important so yeah let’s just called them nonblack as if that the only important thing. If you’re not black and you’re not white, I guess you’re that thing in between people only use to complain /be negative about or shit on