advice for the rpc.

I feel like sometimes we can really use some advice, but we're not always sure where to go to. This blog is safe space for those to ask advice and others to contribute to it. No one has all the answers, but hopefully with a little help from others, you'll find the right answer. Hate will not be tolerated on this blog. If you send hate regarding a person/rpg, it will be deleted. You can ask for advice on or off anonymous, as well as giving advice. If you'd like off anonymous advice, message me through the IM feature. I will never share what you say to others. *This is a sideblog. I'm not here for followers, so you do not need to be following me to ask/give advice, but I cannot follow back.

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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

[advicefortherpc]

I want to apologize for my constant disappearance. I’ve been very on/off Tumblr and have been dealing with some things. It’s hard to give advice and be proactive on this blog when you’re feeling shitty. I know I keep saying we’ll do the things on Friday, but I’ve just... not been here anytime it happens. I’m very, very sorry for the lack of activity on my part. lakjdsflaksjdf sorry I’m a piece of shit lmao. I know that Admin Daya is around, I believe. If you guys need anything, I’m sure she can help you out! I developed a new system where we both were going to respond to messages so you have two different opinions/feedback, etc. So if she’s okay with responding things without me and you are all okay with that, let us know! I love this blog, but I just haven’t had the energy to really be active here. - Admin Zen.

[advicefortherpc]

Guess what?! URL POSITIVITY DAY IS FRIDAY! If you haven’t been following us and don’t know what it is, let me tell you! Every Friday, we will say positive things about random people. You send in a URL of a friend of yours who you think needs some positive vibes, and we will respond with something positive! You can send in your own URL, but if you do, please send in another URL !! We still have a few in our ask box from before that we will respond to this Friday, but from now until Friday, you can send us some URLs! As a friendly reminder, we are ALWAYS here to offer any advice or if you need a place to vent. We are a safe place and do not judge. If you need any advice, send it over.

[advicefortherpc]

hello guys! we just wanted to share a few thoughts with you! lately there’s been a lot of negativity going around, and we wanted to remind people to try not to feed into it. we come here to have a good, and fun time! whether that be by just ignoring it, blacklisting, or blocking them, it’s a way to ignore it. there will always be someone feeding into the negativity and drama, so the best we can do is just ignore them. we know our blog hasn’t been very active in a bit due to real life, but you don’t need us to stay positive! so let’s do something fun! reblog this and say something nice in the tags about the person you reblogged this from!

[advicefortherpc]

hello lovelies!! i’m the new co admin daya, and i’m excited to be a part of this and to spread positivity!! if you need advice on anything, or you’d like to send some positive vies someones way, feel free to send something in!!

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Some positive things to think!

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Y’all… UNCONSENTING MEDIA is a really, really good site. It’s a database of movies and TV shows, and it tells you whether the movie or show has rape, sexual assault, incest, or other sex-related triggers in it. It’s a fairly new site so they need people to submit info – the form is super-easy to fill out. I’ve submitted like 50 movies and shows in the past three days. Check it out and contribute, it’s really cool!

[advicefortherpc]

I’d like to formally introduce you all to my co-admin, Daya! She’s going to make an amazing addition to advicefortherpc. From now on, when you ask for advice, you will have TWO responses. We decided to keep Zendaya as our mascot, and to help know who is speaking we have chosen two names for us: Zen (me/admin) and Daya (co-admin). If you need any advice, don’t hesitate to send us a message. And our designated positivity day will be starting next week, so don’t forget to VOTE. *And remember you can always send a positive message about someone and we will post it !!

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[advicefortherpc]

CHALLENGE OF THE DAY: If you read this, reblog it. Go to FIVE people you’ve never spoken to before, and send them a positive message. It could be on or off anonymous, just be POSITIVE, and send them something you think will make them  s m i  l e.

[advicefortherpc]

okay so i have this friendship.. and in their eyes it’s not complicated but in my eyes it kinda is. we are best friends and i honestly ONLY talk to this person on a personal level. however, i seem to show my “embarrassing” side to other friends and i’m always hesitant to do things in front of this best friend. i mean she’s able to completely act like herself around me... i just don’t understand why i can’t do the same yk. if you’ve ever been through this or know what it means lmk :))

Hi, darling!I’m really sorry that you’re having this issue. As much as we try avoiding these kinds of things, sometimes it is out of our control. I’ll try my best, but you can send me more info on it as well! Is it possible that you’re afraid of losing this friend a lot? Maybe subconsciously you’re afraid that if you let her see this “embarrassing” side, she might judge? Of course I’m sure she wouldn’t, but there could still be a fear of that happening. I find it interesting that you use the word embarrassing because usually when I think of that word or do something embarrassing, I don’t want anyone to know or see that side of me. To me, it makes me afraid someone might judge me. Have you thought about that? Maybe this best friend is the closest and most important to you, and you could be afraid of them seeing every part of you, that you hold back as a way to protect yourself. Does that make sense? I would take the chance and tell her something you are afraid to tell her. It might be a struggle, but it could help. Say something you would when you let your other best friend’s see that side of you. Hopefully if you can do that, you might be able to open up more. Sometimes feelings are complicated when we don’t know why we are feeling that way. Try that and see how that works. It also never hurts to compare her to your other best friends and see what’s different. One could be asking yourself how you would feel if you lost her versus your other best friends. This is something that you probably won’t figure out over night, but something you will be able to sort. I hope you are able to figure things out and hopefully this was helpful. I’m here if you need anything else.

[advicefortherpc]

Please don’t forget to VOTE for which day I should respond to URLs sent in for positivity! I also might look for someone to help me with this blog. It just needs to be someone who is very positive and trustworthy. Especially when it comes down to my positivity days, I need someone who won’t be biased or delete/ignore a URL sent it. I never delete URLs sent in, so if I don’t respond, I probably didn’t get it and in that case, you can send it again! The ones in my ask will be responded to once we figure out the day to start this positivity thing! If you want to help out, send me your OOC info and something that makes you happy! If I decide to go with it, I’ll contact someone. And don’t forget that YOU can send a positive message about someone. It definitely doesn’t have to be me saying nice things!

[advicefortherpc]

so I came across a group that looks basically like a rip of an existing group & they're saying they're unique & the first of their kind because they've never seen a group like theirs before but its like.. painfully similar & the 1st rp is all over the tags. no one owns a book/movie/show & I get that, but when you pop up in the tags shortly after the first rp opens it feels weird as fuck & I kinda wanna message the first rps admins about it but I don't want to start any shit, you know? [1/2]

[2/2] The 1st group is the first twitter rp of it’s kind that Ive seen at least & now like 2 days later someone says they worked all night to start their rp & says its the 1st to take the show to twitter. Tbh that could just be a mistake, but its hard to miss the 1st group in their tag. Idk it just feels weird & if theres no basis to claim anything about the 2nd rp I dont want someone to get attacked over it obviously, but it just seems weird and i wanted to know what you think about it?

First off, I think that just because an existing group has been all over the tags, it doesn’t mean that the admins of that group have gone through them. For all you or I know, this group could have been planning this for a long time and never looked at the tags. So you always have to think about that. Secondly, I don’t think that you should involve yourself in this. If you’re not an admin or moderator of either group, it’s not really something that you need to worry about. I’ve been an admin before and had a group that seemed similar to those on the outside. Our groups were extremely different and both groups agreed that our groups were different. So, I would just leave it. When it happened to me and the other group, it was just anonymous people trying to start drama and conflict. I don’t know if they thought our groups were the same or wanted to start something. If you mention something, it very well could cause drama and no one wants that. For all you know, the first RP could be aware of that group. There’s absolutely no reason to bring anything like that up unless the admins have/had an issue with it, and even if they did, it’s not your place to deal with it. And if it was the admins who had/have an issue with it, they should be the ones to deal with it. Whether they ignore it or go speak to the admins of the second group. If you don’t want to start anything, just let it go. It may seem similar to you, but to the admins? They could see a lot of differences and not see it the same way you do. And for all you and I know, the admins could be speaking or have spoken. It’s best to just not involve yourself unless you’re an admin of either group.

[advicefortherpc]

Hey, everyone! I need your advice! I love when you guys send in URLs and have me post positive things about them, but it can get a little overwhelming and I never want to leave someone out. I really love doing them, especially when people reblog them and I can tell how happy it makes them. So, if you would please VOTE which days I can dedicate to doing them! If you could reblog this, that would be really nice. I would love a day to say positive and nice things about others!

[advicefortherpc]

Good morning, everyone! It's TGIT, and I'm really excited! If you need any advice, send it over. I shall be on and off for the day. If there's something you need, never hesitate to message me!

[advicefortherpc]

I probably should be resting, but if anyone has any questions, never hesitate to send me a message. If you need any advice or a place to rant, you can message me. The only restrictions for this blog right now is hate and callout posts. If you’re upset about something and need a place or person to vent to, I’m willing to listen. I just don’t allow any name calling or hate. You can talk to me through the IM feature, or send me an ask. 

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This blog is so amazing?? I think I might be obsessed with their icons! Do you think I could have a Zendaya one, please?! Anyways, this person seems really helpful and sweet! @raleiqhbeckets