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PAC: You vs Them Love Connection Check-in❣️- 4 Piles Tarot Reading

💞 You, Them, the Dynamic and advice for you 💞

Here is a romantic love themed pick a pile tarot reading focused on checking in on the relationship between you and the person on your mind. There a four parts: first and second part focus on the Current Energy/Thoughts/Feelings and Intentions of You and Them, part three focuses on the connecting dynamic between the two of you, and part four is some advice for you in this situation. It is possible that You and Them is flipped!

-> Focus on the person you have in mind, then select the picture that draws you in the most.

DISCLAIMER Remember that this is a general reading meant for many different people and situations and it's possible not everything or even nothing at all fits. If something doesn't resonates or triggers you you are free to let it go. Don't ruin your sleep over a tumblr post and as always nothing is set in stone and you are free to do and think whatever you want in this world.

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PILE 1 🔥

YOU

[Current Energy] For your current energy regarding the connection, you seem to be focused on making bold movements and bring changes to the situation. Perhaps there are things you realized about yourself and/or the connection, or you reached a point where the current state of things doesn't satisfy you anymore and you have this urgency to shake things up. There is also a sense of this connection activating the part of you that seeks the sweetness/the thrill of love and flirtation and this is pulling you towards your person quite hard. The issue with this is that you may not have any solid plan or even the mental and emotional ability to bring stability to the situation, like coming boldly towards your person without being able to bring commitment in the long run. Could be a bit immature and wearing rose-colored glass regarding the situation.

[Feelings] Your feelings are young and full of passion. You look up to your person with excitement and a burning desire to explore them inside and out. There is an aspect of wanting to appear confident, beautiful and strong even if it doesn't match what is inside. Seducing feels incredible with your person and you're enjoying those moments a lot because of the stimulation and excitement it provides on every level. Basically I don't think you know enough about your person to really have a rooted sense of love and appreciation, but the spark is there and very strong.

[Thoughts] Your thoughts are somewhat a bit more tainted by worry as there seem to be something you know has to be left behind in order to move towards this connection and you are reflecting on this intensely. This connection requires deep change, to put an end to something and for some of you that might be a chapter of your life, a part or a version of yourself or even another connection. At the moment I don't think this change has been implemented yet, it seems still in the phase of being thought about as a necessity, a question that is being thought of.

[Intentions] This kinda reflects on the feelings like you want to match this person ''status'' in the sense that you put them on a pedestal and you want to appear like you can match them (I'm not saying you aren't able to, but you defo feel like you aren't). Like fake it till you make it kind of thing. You want to appear confident, optimistic, fun to be around and in tune with yourself. But there is an aspect of you that is watching, judging and holding off slightly, like you are ready to put some distance if things don't go as you want them to go. It doesn't read as malevolent but slightly guarded and calculating.

THEM

[Current Energy] They are in a state of non action, and if there is communication it's very surface level and they aren't investing or unveiling much. It seems they are currently observing the connection in a new angle. Perhaps they came to a new realization about you or perhaps they learned something that made them think differently, so it's like they are flipping things in their head and trying to see things differently. So while that is happening and until they find a resolution to their questions, they hold off and observe you. Basically they are looking for truth regarding what is happening and what this connection is and there is a strong need to get to the bottom of it and not push things one way or another until it's figured out. Strong wait and see what you're gonna do to draw some conclusion about you.

[Feelings] There is a feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction about the state of the connection and this is emerging on top of their feelings. Right now it's like they are worn out and lacking trust in where all of this is going. I get the feeling that it wasn't always like this but recent changes made it this way. They feel reluctant to commit and invest further but again it's paired with the feeling of someone who is observing and holding off while waiting for progress on your side of things. So the feelings they have are quite, not exactly detached, I'd say more like wounded and feeling they might be in need of a way out, but also very contemplative. It seems quite hopeless and heavy, like someone thinking they don't have a choice in the matter but have to make it through without you.

[Thoughts] RIght now their thoughts are on channeling their energy into anything that brings them a sense of movement, like work, hobbies or personal endeavors. They refuse to stay stagnant and are trying to stay strong by staying busy. There is also an element that they don't want things to stay like they are with you forever, they want movement and they want change even if that means putting an end to the connection once and for all. Very determined and very individualistic in the sense that they are focusing on themselves and their needs, and what the future might bring if they put in the work.

[Intentions] Their intentions are to stay in control of their energy/emotions/thoughts while again the idea of contemplating their options is present. However it doesn't read as having any real options, it's more a fantasy about what the future could bring at this point, and they get kinda lost in their head with all the possibilities. It seems they don't want to close the door with you but they also certainly do not want to loose themselves in the process. It can appear as being a bit tricky in the sense that they are keeping their intentions to themselves so as not to reveal their next move and having the freedom and ability to do whatever they need to do in the moment. I'm also getting someone who tries to stay calm even though they kinda want to lash out and express their view of the situation. Makes sense they want to hold off (current energy) as it seems they are a bit lost in the sauce and pulled in different directions in their minds.

THE CONNECTION'S DYNAMIC

[Current Energy] It seems neither of you is getting what they want, there is a sense that a lot of needs are being unmet and feeling of intense lack. Like things could be so different but they aren't and there is pain here and feeling like something is broken or not working. There is also a dynamic of holding off actions and let it up to the other person but both of you are doing that and nothing is happening due to mutual sheer apathy. Things could be different, could have been different and it's like you both think that yet none is making a move at the moment (not saying this won't happen, this is just the state of things). Also waiting for life or something to happen that brings you together not seeing what could be done if you wanted to.

ADVICE FOR YOU

If you want things to move further with your connection, you need to bring a sense of stability and dedication to the dynamic. Yes showing up is great but love bombing and disappearing after isn't gonna make your connection trust you. You want a new chapter so you have to act like it and act in a different way than you did before. Have faith in yourself and your vision but back your feelings, thoughts and actions with stable commitment. Stability isn't made in one day but built times after times of effort and care. Slow and steady wins the race. Give and give from your heart with the sweetness of someone who is not afraid of being seen and felt. They look up to you just as much as you look up to them.

PILE 2 🫧

YOU

[Current Energy] You're currently seemingly quite frustrated at the situation with your person, choosing to hold your position and avoiding making any kind of move. Stagnation mixed with anxious waiting, hoping the person is going to reach out, make a move, clarify things and bring you what you are hoping for which is to things moving off ground. There is a fear of reaching out and facing rejection or silence, and a worry about the other's intentions and thoughts regarding you. Beneath all of this there is a real desire to move forward in the connection, but feeling like you can't or shouldn't at the present time because of the other person's actions or lack of it.

[Feelings] You are deeply reflecting on what this connection means for you and coming to the conclusion that this person is someone really special that has the potential to heal you and fulfill all your romantic needs, if things were corrected. There is a desire to passionately and adventurously go toward your person but you feel somewhat lower than them, less experienced and less confident. You put them on a pedestal a bit, and I mean it's not like you don't see their flaws but more like you shut them down and don't see them as important or relevant. You feel like this connection is worth hoping and waiting for and do not want to give up on it.

[Thoughts] Big over thinker vibes, there's probably hasn't been a single thing you haven't mulled over about this connection lmao You wonder whether you should move on but refusing to do so. Also you don't feel secure in your power to seduce and please your person, wondering if there's something wrong with you or the way you appear to them. wondering if they don't like you enough to move toward you and if that's the issue. Also you're wondering whether you should try to open your heart, be direct, vulnerable, and bold, and see where it goes or if you should just cut your losses and move on. Very worried energy,

[Intentions] For your intentions, it seems you want to remain in control of your feelings, your boundaries and your thoughts, to appear calm, collected, rational and in control. Right now it seems you intend on doing nothing and stay with you are. There is also an awareness of the cycles you are trapped in when it comes to relationships and wanting to break free from them as you don't want to put up with anyone's bullshit anymore. Perhaps also leaving the fate of this connection up for the universe and disengaging from it.

THEM

[Current Energy] Your person seems conflicted and is currently choosing silence and retreat to sort their thoughts. There is like a temptation to go towards you, but it registers as something that would feel dishonest or tricky, indicating a third party situation that you may or may not be aware of. They also see you as out of reach and higher than them from a status point of view. They might think you are closed off or that what they would bring wouldn't satisfy you, and they would rather avoid the whole thing than risking rejection or failure. They also seem to try to convince themselves that what they feel is not worth it in the sense that it is not that serious and not worth pursuing and as a result they cage in their heart even more. There is also something they feel guilty about and they are aware of the wrong they did, but for some reason they don't want to make it right (could be about you or the third party).

[Feelings] They worry they are not able to provide right for you, to be stable and committed and they are in contemplative mode about that, turning ideas about the future in their heads. They seem overwhelmed at the moment, struggling to juggle between their feelings who run deep, their ego who tells them to act a specific way that could be qualified as stubborn, and their life priorities such as work. It's like they feel like they don't have the time/emotional resources to take proper care of you so they feel like it's better not to act. There is also a massive blockage with changing the way they approach their feelings and emotional stability, which they are kinda refusing to learn to do at the moment preferring escapism in what they are used to rather that embracing the change.

[Thoughts] When it comes to what they are thinking, they are suppressing their feelings hard because they feel too much, overwhelming, impossible to control. They are wondering about the choice of choosing you which would lead to change the way their foundations are laid out and completely restructure their lives which they think would lead to pain. Again it's not that they don't feel enough but they don't feel like they can rise up to the task but they also have thoughts about chasing you that feel too much and too excessive for them and they don't want to act on them.

[Intentions] It shows in their intention as well as they want to move forward with you and see where things can go and are open at the thought of having something with you, but at the same time they are not ready to let go of old crumbling structures, not ready to make changes, not ready to take risks and terrified of what it could mean. Feels like wanting to avoid the inevitable. So like they want a new beginning but without making the needed changes. They also want to keep their relationship with you on the low/as a secret.

THE CONNECTION'S DYNAMIC

[Current Energy] The current dynamic is at a standstill. Nothing is happening and both parties are focused on themselves. It's like there are too many things to worry about or to care about, too many energies getting into the mix, both from private lives or from other people's opinions and energies, and it's getting in the way. There is also a need to clear the air and level things, for example having a direct conversation that is honest and where both parties can express their point of view, but it's currently blocked because none want to see the other's perspective. But bellow all of that there seem to be a deep bond that feels emotional and spiritual that is hard to ignore and that maintain the bond between both parties. Both parties see the other positively and see the connection as genuine, soft and somewhat sacred.

ADVICE FOR YOU

There is a need for you to be more playful and childlike in your approach and not so determined to get to a quick win to fix your anxieties and the pressure you feel. Don't feel the need to prove anything, stay authentic to yourself and have fun as things unfold naturally. Trust your own vision, trust what you want and don't base your decisions on whatever people are telling you or based on what you think you should do vs what you actually want to do. Also, there may be another opportunity on the horizon for you and a choice will be needed between your person and the future one. In all cases it will be your calling to decide what it is you want to do when presented with this or these opportunities and decide what action is needed for you to give you the stability, commitment and happiness you crave for, opening a new chapter in your life. Again I get a feeling of choosing between two suitors and looking at it through the lens of what will bring the most fulfillment in the long run.

PILE 3🌹

YOU

[Current Energy] It seems you are just coming out of a situation that weighted heavy on you, either another connection, a life situation or simply something that happened in the connection you are inquiring about. You feel defeated and quite low, ruminating to the point where it becomes a bit disproportionate to the situation, a bit too exaggerated, overthinking in a negative spiral.

[Feelings] Your feelings for your person are fresh and budding, so it seems likely this is a new connection or someone you don't yet have a deep bond with. There is a desire to cherish and explore those feelings but also feeling carefully hopeful, because what I also see deep down is a very romantic push, with a sense that this person represents something beautiful and pure for you. Like you see the potential in this person, it's like a sense of truth within you you can't ignore, like your mind skips forward to dream about what could be.

[Thoughts] It seems you want to move the connection forward. Things are a bit too quiet or not matching your desires and expectations at the moment and you want things to change. There is a desire for communication with your person to get out of the stagnancy of the current state of things. I don't get a rushed feeling from that but rather your thought are centered around how to move things further in a stable way.

[Intentions] You intend to build something strong with your person, really putting in the work toward something stable and long lasting. There is the sense that the road to get there will take time and effort and you are at the beginning of the journey, but you are motivated to get there with patience and work.

THEM

[Current Energy] It seems this person recently encountered a loss of some kind, perhaps literally loosing someone or perhaps they experienced a breakup. Right now it seems they view the idea of moving on or moving towards you as something akin to cheating. I don't know if it means they would be cheating by being with you or if it's only a guilty feeling not attached to reality that they have, but there is a strong sense of guilt, regrets and wondering if thinking they are doing something wrong here.

[Feelings] They are deeply observing and mulling over their feelings right now. I can tell they definitely feel something for you, something intense enough to stop them in their track and ask them to think before acting. There is also the idea that a choice needs to be made about those feelings and they are not in the position to make it currently so they hold off and try to find the truth in their heart to know what should be done moving forward.

[Thoughts] They are trying to keep their thoughts contained and undercontrol. There is a feeling that right now things are shaky and they don't seem to be facing their problems but rather to keep things under the lid, is what I'm getting. Like let's keep things as they are and not change a thing for now. There is a sense of rigidity, like they have their own view of the situation and are kinda unable or unwilling to see things differently. An inability to take a step back to look at things with more distance. They don't want to be wrong, like they can't afford to be wrong.

[Intentions] It seems their ultimate goal is to come out on top of this situation, that no matter what choice they make they want to have no regret and be proud of what they did. They know this is an important moment, an important decision that needs to be made and they are trying to find their truth, a path towards long term happiness and fulfillment. It really contrast with the trickery feelings of the current energies and shows that they really want to make things right and not end up being the villain of the situation.

THE CONNECTION'S DYNAMIC

[Current Energy] There seems to be a push and pull between wanting a fresh start full of laughter and innocence, and a feeling that things are stuck between the two of you. There is a mutual fear that if the wrong step is taken it could mean making things more complicated than they already are. Both of you seem to know that there is a need to communicate better, explain your personal point of view and boundaries, which both feels necessary and exciting, and, at the same time, potentially tricky and scary. All in all the connection is unstable at the moment, mostly due to them being in the midst of a difficult choice regarding the connection and you being put in a position where you don't really know where you stand or what to do.

ADVICE FOR YOU

There seems to be a need to rely more on your logic and mind rather than your heart at this moment, while also needing to let the dust settle and time do it's thing. I'm getting that you should be mindful about wanting things to go a certain pace and a certain way because you are 5 steps ahead in your heart. Rushing for answer might not be the best course of action right now, as would be seeking direct confrontation. If talking happens it needs to remain light and optimistic and not push anyone further in their own corner. That also means staying true to yourself, your own sense of confidence and happiness and not abandoning yourself or letting yourself sink. But mostly I think you should avoid pushing things too much and allow things to move at their own pace even if it is slow. There probably are things in this situation that you do not know or that you do not see, either because you haven't thought about them in this angle, or because some information are not known to you, so there is a need to think about the situation more and differently which will help you gain a sense of clarity, which might mean waiting for new info to be known. Right now you don't have the right view of the situation to take the right action so it is advised to stay put. Things may be quite different once you look at them differently.

PILE 4 🦢

YOU

[Current Energy] This seems to be a case where the connection is already well established and you are about to take a next important step in commitment. Could be about making things official with your person, moving in together or even getting married or having a child. This is not for new connections, there is a history between you and them and you definitely know you love each other. Anyway, your current energy is one of harmonious partnership with your person, you feel good in this relationship and you are very motivated and driven about taking things further with them. The future looks bright and you are really confident.

[Feelings] It's super sweet because I'm getting that your feelings are stable and secure, but the spark of the beginnings is still there, still alive and vibrant. You feel fulfilled with them in your life and the emotions flow freely while also being grounded.

[Thoughts] Your thoughts are about caring for your person and the relationship, overcoming obstacles in a gentle but firm way. You are aware that not everything is always easy but you look at the difficulties with the confidence and trust of someone who knows they can overcome them. Again I'm getting that there is a history between you and your person, you've been through highs and lows and it made your relationship stronger.

[Intentions] You intend on renewing your commitment, offering your undying love and respect for your person, walking towards the future with them. Might not be the case for everyone but there is a strong idea of marriage/partnership tied to a ceremony of some kind, which seems to be something you've wished for a long time that is finally becoming real. Strong new chapter energy that is the continuation of the last. In all cases the idea of showing your love in the physical world, materializing in some tangible way.

THEM

[Current Energy] Your person seems to be a bit less glowy than you so they may just be out of a difficult phase of their lives, or they might be a bit nervous about the future. I'm not getting anything necessarily negative, just that there is a sense that they are leaving a way of living behind and moving towards something new in tangible ways and this is a bit scary. But they definitely see this change as positive, and are dedicated to have things happen smoothly and in a way that is well planned and prepared. Their energy is future-oriented at the moment and as often this can trigger nerves when one thinks of all possible outcomes without knowing which one it will be.

[Feelings] You are someone they hold deep feelings for. They chose and committed to you and they feel ready for this new chapter with you. This moment in time seems to ''crown'' an important life phase for them, the culmination of something very important. They feel like they found their match and their forever-person.

[Thoughts] Their thoughts is where things get a bit tricky, I'm getting some type of decision paralysis like they know they need to do something but they feel currently unable to do it. There is a worry that things could not turn out well for them, which seems to not be grounded in reality but in their own fear. Again might not apply to everyone but maybe this person is thinking of proposing to you and they are freaking out about that and getting stuck when having to actually do it. Or could apply to any situation where something tangible needs to be done but the person that needs to do it is getting stuck on a mental level due to a lack of optimism and confidence.

[Intentions] This is reflected in their intentions as there is a strong sense of nervousness/anxiety that they are aware of. They want to get out of that mindset and again, ''crown'' the relationship in whatever way applies to your situation, it just seems to be such a big and important thing for them that they are terrified they are going to ruin everything. They are definitely working through internal blockages, fears and illusions and overly focusing on what could go wrong.

THE CONNECTION'S DYNAMIC

[Current Energy] The dynamic between the two of you is stable and deeply loving. Again it's pointing at a time where things are about to get more committed in one way or another, with the added idea of making it known and celebrated with the world at large and loved ones. Things flow well between the two of you and there is a sense that you found the perfect match for each other and are happy and at home with each other.

ADVICE FOR YOU

The advice for you is to not do anything lmao It seems that the ball is in your paterner's camp so to speak, and it's on them to make the next move. Do not rush them and do not push your ideas, desires and wishes on them. Let them do their things and observe the situation. I'm getting that you have a strong desire about something you want to happen in a specific way, but you might be sooo focused on it that it distorts your perception of reality a tad. So there is a need to look at things with a clear head and to see things in a different angle. I'm getting maybe chill a bit with the enthusiasm and just let things develop in their own timing. Nothing in the reading speaks about big issues so just let yourself enjoy the ride and see things for what they currently are, not what you wish they could/would be. It seems the time is not exactly right so best to take care of the relationship as it currently is and not push your own timing onto your person.

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