"very early in my life, it was too late"

I don't mean to intimidate you with my eloquent conveyance skills.

[im-taking-accountability-deacti]

There are 4 things I learned when I was 25:

You do not have to be affectionate all the time to care for someone, in fact, caring can also mean a couple of texts or silence for a few days while you both live your lives happily and separately.

People do not care for you less when they’re busy with their own lives. It’s your reaction to them being their own person - and your ability to make yourself happy - that determines how they feel about you.

Not everyone reciprocates to your actions the same way. If you want someone to acknowledge, be interested in, or treat you a certain way for your efforts, all you have to do is let them know. They will try their personal best to accommodate that within their personal spectrum of feelings.

No one owes you 100% of them, not even after 30 years, because someone having a percentage of themselves is what keeps them sane at the end of the day and that’s okay.

[ducksaysm00]

These things are so important to learn.

[rrrrnessa-deactivated20170212]

Conversations with a male friend

He’s Muslim. Like I am. He calls me to tell me how his new girl “didn’t work out”, I ask him what is it that she was missing. He tells me how she has a past and I explain to him that we all do. “No, not that way…a sexual history”. He’s over 30. Most people our age have a sexual history, I explain. “Yes, but she is Muslim” and I ask him “Are you not Muslim too? Were you not bragging about hooking up with that girl…what was her name…Jessica? Britney? Whatever. At my cousins wedding?”. He tells me how it’s different. “She’s a white girl”. I tell him some would consider me a white girl. “But you’re not. Not really. I mean you’re Muslim. Turkish too. Bosnians aren’t white anyway. There are different rules for us.” I get quiet. I’m not sure how to explain to him that Muslim women have sex too. He doesn’t believe me. He says “I used to think we’d end up together. But you had a child”. I laugh. I tell him that the prophet married Khadija even though she had children. He says it was different then. “I’d marry you if you were a virgin”. I ask if that’s what he wants. He tells me yes…“i want a wife who is a virgin, there is nothing wrong with that, don’t give me a new age feminist lecture either. I can have preferences”. I ask…“how many women have you touched?”. He goes quiet. “You are not a virgin either”. He tells me it’s different for him, he is a man, men have needs. “What of women? Do we not have needs?” “ Sure but women can wait. The husband can fulfill their needs”. I ask him who he thinks fulfils my needs since I no longer have a husband. “You don’t have sex. You are a good girl. You have always been a good girl. I want my wife to be like you”. I laugh again…“but you don’t want me?”. “ No, it’s not you but…you know…you’re not a virgin. I’d like someone like you…just less experienced” he says but his voice sounds bitter at the last words. Experienced. I’m sure he meant to say damaged goods. Someone else has had me before him. “What else?”, I ask, “What else does your future wife need to have?”. He tells me she needs to be smart, educated, he’d like post grad work too, but she must know how to cook well. He says “she cannot be modern…like you. I mean, I like you a lot but you are too modern. We would never make it work. You and I…you are too smart”. He mentions a Ph.D. I ask if he has one. He doesn’t. He didn’t finish college. He works at the tire factory. But his wife must be educated. Educated and intelligent but she must allow him to take care of her. I tell him “you want your wife to be everything but what are you? What are you offering her?” He tells me he will love her, provide for her, and she must do the same. She must also take care of him, finish school, be a virgin, be intelligent, want children, have children, raise the children, work, cook, clean, and be a virgin. He mentions the virginity thing twice. I ask him if he is expecting too much without giving anything in return. He says a woman would be lucky to be loved by him. “I’d love you, but you know…” and I finish it for him “I am not a virgin, I know”. I laugh again. The women are expected to be everything all in exchange for love, an ounce of love. Not even good love. Mediocre love. The men….the men are expected only to find such a woman. I tell him “I hope she doesn’t suffer. Whoever she is that you marry. I hope she doesn’t suffer.” He doesn’t understand. Why would a woman want anything other than the love of a man?

[frankoceanvevo]

[onlyblackgirl]

The history of film in one scene

[alittlebitofpcos]

[wheresthedamnlighter]

Important

[thr0atmistress-deactivated20191]

[zhinee]

INTELLIGENCE IS NOT MEASURED IN YOUR KNOWLEDGE OF MATH

[escabye-deactivated20190922]

There’s 9 Types of Intelligence, just remember that and if anyone tells you otherwise, just shove with picture in their face

[steffamarie]

take a quiz on the intelligences here!!

[thorneduprose]

Let’s see what I get later

[thiscityscreamsyourname]

You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously.

Sophia Bush   (via thatkindofwoman)

[eearth-deactivated20180601]

I hope my soulmate is having a good day 

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

I haven’t read it since seventh grade, but my favorite part of Twilight that I remember is the “radioactive spider” line bc it implies that

when presented with a dude who looks somehow eerily identical to his adopted siblings while sharing none of the same genetic features, a dude whose adopted siblings are apparently all dating each other, a dude whose family never socializes with other students, is never seen around town, NEVER EATS, a dude whose entire family is super dedicated to attendance and punctuality but just straight up LEAVES TOWN on sunny days,

Bella thought “could he be….Spiderman?”

My second favorite part is that she Googled it.

[saltymommie]

The biggest problem I had with twilight is why anyone would stay in high school longer than the allotted 4 years? I hate that? It literally made me so mad esp if you have been in the american school system like i bet theyre still as dumb as an other american also they have been going to school for so long and never once thought about sex ed? Also how are they going to school without ssns? Which leads me to my next point is that Carlile is Stealing dead peoples ssns for his demented family Thats right everyone Vampires Are committing tax fraud

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

First of all, I’m actually almost certain that Carlisle pays taxes. That’s just such a Carlisle thing to do. He probably does them all himself late at night sitting in his study wearing a pair of glasses he doesn’t need. “Our dad is weird,” Emmett says. Rosalie rolls her eyes, “he’s not our dad.”

THAT SAID, yes, it’s totally ridiculous that Twilight takes place in high school. I think the concept itself would have been 100% more entertaining if Bella had been a a junior transfer student from a southwest community college to University of Washington in Seattle, commuting every day from Forks, where she finds out the weird dude from her college chem lab lives too (I’ve commuted 40+ minutes to school, it’s doable).

Not only is this more believable, but it would also be a lot more entertaining and potentially funny for Bella to just slowly realize she has at least one class a week with each of these weird-ass pale kids from her hometown.

Edward’s in chem with her. She accidentally sits down next to Rosalie in calc before she recognizes the resemblance. Emmet’s an overwhelmingly enthusiastic Fitness Management major who starts sitting next to her in Western Civ after he notices her talking to Edward. “Are you pre-med? You seem like you might be pre-med. My dad’s a doctor!”

Alice tries desperately to help her in a wheel-tossing class Bella had to take as an art elective after she put off choosing an art elective until it was the only one left. She asks herself daily why she didn’t take Art History. Jasper is there too. He doesn’t look like he’d be into pottery, but it seems like he’s into anything Alice is into (I still argue it’s literally impossible that he functions in public at all, but we’ll roll with it anyway).

Make Esme a professor at the school, too. Adorable. She’s that Mom Professor everyone loves and and respects (and also sort of fears). She always excuses absences as long as you send an email.

Instead of collecting graduation caps and gowns, they collect degrees.

Imagine Emmet bringing up the time he was almost a doctor, but having to actually be around the patients ended it. Carlisle says “I warned you the entire time you were in undergrad.”

After a few weeks of plot devices similar to the actual book (near-death parking lot experiences, etc.), Bella runs into Esme at the grocery store in Forks (I actually love that they buy groceries) and realizes my god, these people live here?

It would also make more sense that Bella were moving back in with her dad despite hating the Pacific Northwest so intensely. None of that sort of quirky “minor league baseball” stuff. She absolutely Would Not live in a dorm with some random roommate, so going to school where she could live with her dad was about all that made sense. The in-state tuition to a great university was just an added bonus.

It would also make the romance more enjoyable. NOW, a lot of people complain that a 100+ year old would have no reason to be interested in a high schooler in the original series, but I believe it’s very implied that all of the Vampires aren’t just physically frozen at their age, but they’re mentally and emotionally stuck forever as well.

Which is, you know, horrible. That’s why some of them are so damn angsty and emotionally volatile. That’s why Bella insists that Edward turn her sooner than later. Bruh, if you wait until she’s 25, she’s going to out-grow your maturity-level.

STILL, I think a romance between 21-23 year olds would have been better, by a little bit.

It would also make a lot more sense for them to be in college because of the way they function. They wouldn’t all be eating (or not eating) together in the only cafeteria as the entire student-body tried to pretend to not stare.

Less people would notice their eerie resemblance, their coordinated absences, and their overall weirdness, which would make more apparent Bella’s alleged super-strong powers of observation when she started putting things together.

Instead of there randomly being a sudden spike in criminals in that little town, Edward could dramatically rescue Bella’s naive ass from a party her human friends dragged her to.

I could go on, but this is eventually going to become and entire College Au rewrite of Twilight in excruciating detail. So I’ll stop.

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

this is all I ever wanted.

[disabilityuserboxes]

this user has scoliosis

do you ever get so annoyed at everything that you start to get pissed off at even little things like a spoon clinking against a bowl or sounds of people talking  

[alternativeblkgal]

I think it’s called sensory overload. It’s really common in people with anxiety

[reynabeth-deactivated20180821-d]

it can also be a result of sleep deprivation, stress, or ever dehydration !!

[mightbeinsaneforever]

thanks i thought i was just a bitch

[marvva]

queen of getting her hopes up

[heart]

have you ever been in the mood where something small bothered you and then you suddenly just didn’t want to talk to anybody at all

[fairylightsniall]

story of my life

[scrumptioustriumphunknown]

[futuristicflowercollectorlove]

Fashion Coats.

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Inventory is limited, order and get it.

[ghostlywriterr]

Badshahi Mosque. Lahore, Pakistan.

[bookmania]

Language is power. When you turn “torture” into “enhanced interrogation,” or murdered children into “collateral damage,” you break the power of language to convey meaning, to make us see, feel, and care.

Rebecca Solnit, Our Words Are Our Weapons (via bookmania)