AITA for being mad at my roommate?
I (28MNB) used to live alone until my Tumblr mutual (30NB) moved in with me at the beginning of March. I reached out to them because they got kicked out by their Mom (a situation I'm familiar with) for being unemployed. We had DMed a couple times and I got along with them quickly, we had common interests and I 1000% related to many of their issues.
However, after they moved in, issues arose. They drink CONSTANTLY. I don't even mean a glass of wine to unwind, I mean full on binge-drinking when the sun goes down. They don't seem to be aware that this is an issue, despite daily use, and when they're drunk? It ain't pretty. They can get extremely angry, irritable, and even destructive. I have the means to believe they broke our TV. I can't even phrase how upset this made me, not only did I have to spend hundreds of dollars replacing it (out of my own pocket, mind you), but I couldn't believe they would lie and say it just started glitching out of nowhere. They KNOW how important that TV is to me.
Not to mention, they are EXTREMELY impulsive. Five days ago, they came home with a puppy out of nowhere. Bear in mind, MY apartment doesn't allow pets. They know this. I told them this. And did they listen? Did they ask me, before bringing home a whole new life? OF COURSE NOT! Now we've got a puppy up on Craigslist (Because of course our landlord found out) and NO ONE IS ADOPTING THEM. Also, they were named after a Trollhunters character (that's dumb.) who I DON'T EVEN LIKE. AND I'VE MADE THIS SO CLEAR. IT FEELS LIKE A DIG AT ME BECAUSE I'VE BEEN VOCAL ABOUT IT.
They still don't have a job, and aren't searching. I pay 100% of the rent money. At first, I was happy to do so, because I was helping a friend, granted they eventually got a job. But now? Do I even need to explain?
When I brought this up to them, they lashed out at me, and made me feel like I was the crazy one here. I mean, I'm dealing with my own crazy shit, but that's none of their business frankly.
They only enjoy talking to me when I kinshift to Vox (from Hazbin Hotel) because they ship fucking radiostatic. Bear in mind, I SHIP THEM, but this is so gross. I am on the asexual spectrum, and I do NOT appreciate their cuddly advances. It's also extremely difficult trying to cope with kinshifting, and they do not help, they only pressure me into shifting more, and it feels like I'm being coerced. Not to get dark, but I don't know where else to talk about this.
I need to know. Am I crazy? Am I the Asshole here?
Are they the asshole?
Voting ended onApr 3
YTA - You're the Asshole, NTA - Not the Asshole, NAH - No Assholes Here, ESH - Everybody Sucks Here