I don't think we give ToG enough credit for showing us that deep connections don't have to be romantic
Yes, the series technically classifies as romantasy, and yes, there is a lot of romance in there, but not only.
There is Manon and the Thirteen, who teach us that the family we build for ourselves is so much more important than the one we're born into.
Aelin, Dorian, and Chaol, who show us that sometimes you just need a hand to pull you out of the dark hell you wound up in.
Aelin and Ansel who teach us that sometimes we make mistakes, and those mistakes hurt the people around us, but that doesn't make them unforgivable.
My personal favorite, Fenrys and Aelin, who had a bond so deep they were the only things that kept each other sane through months of torture, so deep Fenrys broke the unbreakable blood oath and SURVIVED for Aelin's sake.
There is so much love in ToG. Platonic, romantic, between all genders.
Fuck I love this series so much
I think this is why this series was so iconic for me. (Besides my lifelong love of fantasy and magic.) It was something I so deeply personally needed to experience as a kid who didn’t know what asexuality or aromanticism was, and was struggling so so much with everyone in my age groups sudden obsession with romance.
It was such a relief to read something where platonic relationships that were strong weren’t just a secondary romantic connection in disguise. I love a secondary lead and yearning just as much as anyone. But for there to never be pure, strong friendships without them being turned into a love interest at some point in the story was so… distressing. And I hadn’t realized how suffocating that felt until I found the Throne of Glass series.
I still take so much comfort in every interaction between these friends. In my current reread, that is by far my favorite part of all of this. And maybe that’s why I’ve always described the experience of reading this series as coming home.
That’s exactly how I feel, like I’m coming home. If I could just meet and talk to these characters for fifteen minutes and hug everyone 😭😭😭















