Big time fucking projection from the Halsin haters this week I see lmao
first we have yesterday's loser sending anon hate to a Halsin art blog and then stalking me to project their insecurities onto me, and now we got this person today hating on him for literally the same behavior nearly every other companion engages in??
I have seen this "I hate Halsin bc he doesn't respect my boundaries!" from others on here and Twitter, and honestly it boggles the mind because:
Every. Single. Companion (except I think Wyll) can ask to spend the night with you at the tiefling party, AFTER you have already agreed to spend it w/ someone else, and will even INSULT your choice of romantic partner (many of them make fun of Gale and Wyll, and Gale has scathing critique of almost everyone lmao)
If you tell lae'zel you're not interested before the party, she will STILL be like "you were soooo hot today" at the party in an attempt to make you regret turning her down. Doesn't give af about your boundaries (and I love her for it lol)
You can sleep with Astarion or lae'zel prior to the party and yet at the party, the other one, Shads, and Gale will hit on you.
You can have the weave scene with Gale in the middle of camp, for everyone to see, prior to the party, and yet at the party: lae'zel will still hit on you/try to make you jealous, Astarion will still try to sleep with you, and shadowheart will hit on you.
The ONLY situation in which Karlach hits on you at the party is if you have already agreed to spend the night w/ someone else prior to speaking to her.
If you hit 30 approval w/ Karlach before the party, she'll wake you up in the middle of the night to tell you she wants to ride you until she sees stars, even if, again, you have already slept with Astarion or lae'zel, or have done the romantic weave with Gale (this scene is currently bugged but is SUPPOSED to happen, and has been fixed by hyperspacetowel's lesser restorations mod) (I didn't even realize they fixed it and first time I got it I was like OH MY GOD KARLACH 🤣)
Minthara will hit on you the second you reach 40 approval, REGARDLESS of who you're partnered with, and when you say you're already in a relationship, will say "you can have me instead 😈"! And doesn't even fucking apologize when you tell her no 🤣. Which I LOVE her for, sooooo alluring of her~
EDIT: before it became bugged and Larian never fixed it, Wyll would also ALWAYS ask to dance with you in act 2, even if you never flirted w/ him and are dating someone else (Lesser Restorations has since fixed this bug)
So EVERYONE ELSE can hit on you left right and center, regardless of who you're already dating, regardless if you already told them no, and not get criticized. But the second Halsin does it, ew he's a creep?
This is an unfair criticism for the above reasons, but I also personally hate this criticism bc it REEKS of therapy speak and this stupid ass "consent is sexy" purity culture crap that tumblr especially is still clinging to.
And by "consent is sexy" culture I mean this attitude of: "someone didn't have a 5 hour long conversation with me about all my boundaries and trauma before they confessed their feelings for me I AM SOOOOOOO UNCOMFY" attitude. People who act like the normal and therefore sometimes messy ways mankind behaves about romance and sex is a MORTAL SIN against the 10,000 HR protocols they have in their head detailing EXACTLY the proper ways in which people should behave for every situation. VERY Victorian, no? VERY puritanical, no?
I also hate this attitude because it also REEKS of this infantilization of the self that is rampant among grown ass adults in their 20s and 30s: "someone I am not attracted to considered me in a sexual way! Ewww I am UNCOMFY!" Mankind is a sexual and romantic species, and you are not a child. You have to learn to deal with this. It indeed sucks sometimes (or all the time lol) to be hit on or oggled, but we cannot control the way other people react to our presence. We can only control how we react. A VIDEO GAME that ISN'T REAL should be a way for you to begin learning how to deal with this if you are having trouble.
People are messy and a part of life is learning to have some fucking grace towards people, when appropriate. Someone confessing their feelings to you IRL when you are MARRIED or engaged? Or even in a committed relationship? Crazy and you have a right to be pissed. Getting all upset bc a video game character confessed his feelings to your character bc you've hit the required approval threshold? Relax bro 😂