One Appropriate Way To Approach An Unowned Little..
The first thing you have to come to terms with, is that most littles need care and support above their sexual needs. There are subs that crave Dom Play, and being used quickly, and often, but by and large, littles will be looking for a relationship. Leading with your dick is not going to get you far in this dynamic, and is not appropriate if you want to capture the heart, mind, and body of one of the precious and youthful souls that is a little.
If it is not obviously stated somewhere, you should always make sure that the little who has caught your eye is unowned. Ask if you are unsure. If she is owned, respect her Dominant and her relationship, and move on. If she is not, you should ask if she is open to meeting someone who could become her Daddy. The proper way to earn her submission takes time and energy, and if she is not interested in getting to the same place you are, you want to know that before you begin.
Now that you know she is unowned, and is receptive to taking the road you wish her to take towards you, you need to get to know her. This part of the process is not different than meeting people in vanilla relationships. Where is she from? What are her hobbies? Who does she live with? Does she have any pets? What are her favorite TV shows? This is you showing interest in her as a human being. It’s a very reasonable place to start. Be as open and honest as you can possibly be about yourself when she asks you questions, or volunteer pieces of yourself when you feel appropriate.
The last get to know you questions can be designed to start to get an impression of what will be involved in her care. What are her goals? What challenges does she face in her daily life? Does she want to eat healthier? Does she want to do better in school? Does she suffer from stress or anxiety, or have other health issues? Does she hate that her room is always a mess? Does picking out what to wear everyday stress her out? When you find these things out, you can start to consider how to help her deal with these things within the boundaries of the relationship you will create together. The good Daddy you hope to be for her, will take the time to look at each of the things she expresses to you, and come up with some initial strategies to help her manage, control, or fix these things.
From here on out, challenge yourself to be patient. Patience is an essential element of being a good Dominant, and displaying that you have it at the outset will create the impression you wish to convey. At some point, when she feels you have taken an interest in who she is, and trust begins, she will start to open up with you about relationships and kinks. Let that conversation be on her timetable. If she is waiting for you to broach the subject, let her wait. In jumping into this conversation too early, on your timetable, you show her your lack of patience and control, and risk broaching the subject too early, and putting a chip in that trust you have been working on building.
Once you get to this part of getting to know a little you are interested in, things can start to take their own pace toward the day she asks you to be her Daddy. Remember that, like the discussion of kinks and relationships, that there are still elements that should be under her control and timetable. Don’t ask for nudes. Let her decide when she wants to share her naked self with you. Don’t ask her to call you Daddy. That’s what she calls you after she offers you her submission. Don’t call her pet names. You are not there yet. Remember that earning the trust necessary for her to offer you her submission can take weeks, or months. Be patient, have patience, and exercise as much patience as you can.
This is how I’d go about pursuing the submission of a little that I felt myself drawn to. It is not the only way, but it encompasses what I perceive to be their typical desires, and paves the road for a healthy and happy DD/lg relationship. My best on capturing the attention, and earning the submission, of the little who has caught your eye. 🌹
