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You are, to an extent, responsible for creating the magic in your own life. You have to create some to see some, you have to act on the faith that magic is not just something that happens to you, but something you build through what you do. Itâs not always just chance, It is something that you have to actively participate in. Thatâs how you make loving and living life something you do, not something you wait for.
Someone explain this to me, cause I apparently donât get it.
People are so ridiculously selfish narcissistic and careless.
If itâs not what they want or what they need, then it doesnât pertain to them.
Being jealous of you own wife and son for their mother/son relationship is just baffling.
Itâs been this way since the day he was born almost 23 years ago, so maybe you shouldâve got help when you realized you were jealous of an INFANT.
And now that kid thatâs been raised in a household all his life with your around is just like you.
Always causing drama if things arenât his way.
Always wanting extravagant things.
Always needing something from you but never offering to help you in return unless thereâs something in it for them.
Yâall live in that house where you the wife/mother just quite literally tried to take her own life like 6 months ago, and just had a major surgery 2 months ago.
And what do yâall do? See who can throw the bigger pity party.
TOXIC. UNBEARABLE. UNRELIABLE. Just down right disgusting behavior.
EVERYONE has baggage, and for yâall constantly think that no one else has crap they have to deal with or nothing that can come close to what you have on your plate that was most likely put there by your own freaking self is just wild.
Donât point fingers and put blame on ANYONE else until youâre both man enough to look in the mirror and admit to everyone including yourselves that YOU ARE PART OF THE WHOLE PROBLEM.
I promise if you you have an issue and come at me in a stupid way, youâre going to get the FULL STRENGTH of all this rage I have built inside cause this has gone on for far too long now and enough is enough.
Grief is weird.
On January 7th, my whole world was turned upside down by a call I never ever thought Iâd get.
My mother was being rushed to the hospital, heart beating and breathing but non responsive.
My husband and I waited for a bit to see exactly what was going to happen once she got there.
I live almost 6 hours away, so it wasnât very long after I received the call that I was on the road.
They told me sheâd had a seizure in the bathroom, and was laid out on the floor.
This was apparently a result of a suicide attempt.
I didnât know what would happen, if Iâd get to see her or even hear her voice again.
My mind raced as we drove through the wee hours of the morning down I-59, returning to where I grew up most of my life on the coast of Mississippi.
Long story short (at least for this blog), she survived after almost a month in the hospital, two of those in ICU.
But all that to say, how do you grieve someone who isnât gone?
My emotions are so mixed up inside, I donât even really know how or what I feel.
I donât really know how to talk about it because Iâm unsure of what Iâm feeling.
And I donât feel like I can talk to anyone about it really.
My family doesnât seem to want to talk about it at all and just kinda pushed it under the rug.
I feel like everyone would judge me⊠âSheâs not dead. Sheâs still here. What are you grieving for?â
And honestly, I donât know.
All I do know is a part of me died that day, a childlike part of me that thought Iâd always have her around.
But it opened my eyes to just how precious every day is because we not promised tomorrow.
And sometimes, even when we donât want to be around for tomorrow, God has a bigger plan that weâll never understandâŠ
At least not while weâre here on this earthly realm.
âBut I donât do anythingââ Taking care of yourself is productive. Giving yourself the things you need is productive, no matter how it looks. Creating joy for yourself is productive. Trying is productive. Hoping is productive. Moving slowly but surely is productive. Not giving up is productive. Reading this is productive because you are interrupting the pattern of self-criticism, even briefly.
I need an outlet,
I donât have many friends. As Iâve gotten older, Iâve had friendships blossom and wither.
But when my husband and I made our big move 6 hours NE of the city and region Iâd known my whole life, I never expected to just be forgotten.
Sure, I know people have their own lives, with kids, and families, and jobs. But I had people who I had known for years.
I watched them get married and grow up. Watched them have kids. Watched their kids grow up.
And it was just like I was a cut off and not a part of the inner circle anymore.
This is something that Iâve struggled with, but Iâve gotten used to over that last few years.
Iâve had friendships since, but not like those. Most of them either fall apart on their own, or fizzle out because Iâve gotten quite good at shutting people out,
All this to say, 2026 has been a banner year in our household.
January my mother was in the hospital for over three week, two of which she was in ICU, for a failed suicide attempt.
Not many people know the truth, so itâs hard to talk about it. And not having my friends has made it even worse.
Like, Iâm grieving a person who didnât even die⊠how does that make sense???
But I get caught off guard by the most random things. Songs on the radio, a scene in a tv show, sometimes not even anything is happening and I just sob.
February my husband lost his grandmother, who was also like a grandmother to me.
Iâd been helping take care of her for a few years now, and she so was so dear to me.
It was so sudden and a week after her 89th birthday no less.
March my husband and I both got sick, him with RSV and me with upper respiratory.
April was all about getting our storage emptied and the rest of our belongings up here where we now live, while also helping my parents clean out a house they had inherited.
And already in May, my mother had a second hip replacement surgery, and Iâve suffered a mini mental breakdown.
So here I am, on the internet, pouring my heart out from behind a keyboard to a billion strangers on my blog lol.
But weâre fine. Everythingâs fine.
Monsters
Things get crazy, day to day. Days get hectic and full. And things get in the way and here to stay, we feel like is nothing but bull.
We want to do our best, and want to thrive, but in the back of our heads... feeling and thoughts, like little monsters, wreaking havoc and causing dread.
And we ask ourselves how we prevent these monsters? We don't mean to get carried away. But from time to time, when we don't think, we throw daggers with the words we say.
Life and death is in the tongue, and things can go from bad to worst. But if you take your time, and actually think, about the affect of your words and actions first.
So take your time, consider your reactions, and make sure they're worth it or not. Cause whether you realize it or whether you don't, sometimes they'll burn the only bridges you've got.
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I really donât understand. When did the adults revert to such childish behavior?
Like, so much so that their children are the more mature ones in the scenario?
Family drama is ALWAYS the worst, but especially when itâs your chosen family.
Blood family is one thing, theyâre around all the time. They are bound to get on your nerves and under your skin.
But when the ones that youâve chosen to be your âinner circleâ start acting out of character, thatâs when things go sideways.
Take it from me, reach out to them before itâs too late. Once things go so far, there isnât any coming back or getting back to normal.
Things get manipulated and twisted through the most sickening lense and things just are never the same,
They got so wrapped up in being a âfamilyâ that they never really noticed one of their own had began to withdraw into solitude.
Dealing with the things of life, a lot on her plate most of which he never spoke about to be âstrongâ because she was always told to suck it up.
The one that came into her life that she thought would be a lifelong relationship. The one she thought would be there for anything whenever she called.
The one who helped her break through all the walls sheâd spent so many years building, and working through the trauma put there by years of scars and hurt.
The âmanâ who she had come to love, even more that just a best friend, but as a lover, a companion.
Betrayal is a vile situation that anyone can find themselves in. Doesnât matter how good you think you are.
Apparently itâs always lurking, waiting to pounce on its next victim and destroy the things that they hold most dear.
And it hurts the most when itâs done by those chosen few. In your circle, you think youâre impervious as youâre all together.
And that may ring true, because itâs always been said there is power in numbers, but once youâre on your own, itâs totally different.
Things hit the fan, words are said that canât be taken back, and then thereâs nothing to do but sit and look at the mess thatâs been made of your life.
You think that itâll never happen to you, til it does. So know this: NO ONE IS PROTECTED.
Everyone is vulnerable to the disappointment that is the human mind. There will always be something in the forefront of your mind that you canât address.
Thereâs always that something that remains unspoken due to inconveniences or not wanting to hurt or burden another soul with the weight.
But we were designed to be in relationships with others. If that werenât true, we wouldnât have families. We would all be alone on our own.
SPEAK UP. Donât wait til itâs too late, cause then youâll be stranded in the desert of despair with no way out and then youâll really be all alone.
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As some may know from my group chat, I am currently in therapy to manage my anxiety and Iâve been learning grounding techniques and the kind of questions to ask myself when I get in one of my moods where I might spiral into an attack or spark it. I slowly have been working through how to manage and my therapist sent me techniques in the Betterhelp app which is how Iâve been going to sessions. The techniques I have started to learn and apply I am finding to actually be helpful when I actively work on them in a moment of panic.
For instance the other day at work I started to feel my heart race and that overwhelming stomach knot I feel when my anxiety spikes. I was in the middle of paperwork and received a text from a dear friend who supported my desire to leave my current job and sent me multiple job postings every few days. But the posts she sent me some of the listings just overwhelmed me and in my head, I began to spiral with thoughts about my abilities to handle those kinds of environments and I could feel myself start to panic a little. So when I walked to the mailbox to get the mail, I did one of the techniques I had read about previously and started to say out loud everything I saw outside to ground myself. I kept my focus on the things around me, naming each tree or car which helped calm me from a full-blown attack.
I am sharing this story because I know with PCOS many of us struggle with anxiety and depression and I know not everyone can afford therapy as it can be very expensive. Shoot I barely can afford it but with the app Betterhelp, it's a lot more affordable than other avenues so I make it work. This is why I am writing this post to share a few grounding techniques so that any of you who struggle with anxiety can have a tool that will help ease at the moment. Now it's not a cure-all so some may work better than others, but at least it can help (as a few help me) to ground you when your anxiety gets high.
There are seven ways you can ground yourself so take what works for you the best and use it to overcome those moments.
1. The Grounding Chair
The first step in this technique is to sit in a comfortable chair where your feet touch the ground. Close your eyes and breath in slowly to the count of three and then out slowly. Bring your mind's focus to the rest of your body in the chair. How does it feel? Scoot your bum right into the back of the seat so that the whole length of your back is pressing into the back of the chair. Can you feel the contact of the chair against your body?
If the chair has arms, touch it, is the material smooth or textured? Press your arms down the length of the chair's arm, notice how your hands hang off the end.
If your chair doesn't have arms, touch the material of the seat, how does it feel?
Next push your feet into the ground, imagine that energy drain down from your mind, flow down through your body, and out through your feet into the ground. As that energy drains from your head, feel how heavy each body part becomes, your torso feels heavy, and now your arms as you relax your muscles. Lastly, feel the heaviness go down your legs through your feet and down into the ground.
2. The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique
This technique uses all five of your senses to help get you back to the present. It starts with you sitting comfortably, close your eyes and take a couple of deep breathes. In your nose (count to three) then out your mouth (to the count of three). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name out loud five things you can see, you can look within the room and out the window. Name four things you can feel, (such as the silkiness of your skin, the texture of the chair you're in, or what your hair feels like.) What is in front of you that you can touch? Name three things you can hear, (traffic noise, birds outside, noises in the room you're in.) What noises do you hear? Name two things you can smell. Do you have something scented nearby or in the area that you can walk to? Name one thing you can taste, (it might be a good idea to keep a piece of chocolate or mint handy in case you are doing this grounding exercise.) You can always leave the chair in this exercise and taste whatever it is you have chosen with a small bite. Let it swill around your mouth for a couple of seconds, letting it really savor the flavor. Take a deep breath to end.
(This one works a bit better for me personally.)
3. Hold Something and Really Focus On It
Hold an object in your hand and really bring your full focus to it. Look where shadows may fall on parts of it or is there something about it that is textured? Or are there color variants in it or on it? Feel the weight of it, is it heavy or light? What textures do your hands feel while holding it? Is it rough or smooth? This can be done with any object you have lying around or if you know you are going into a stressful situation, take one of your favorite small objects and put it in your pocket so you can do this calming exercise on the go.
4. Distract Yourself
There are several ways to distract your mind so it stops thinking about whatever it is that is worrying you and focuses on something that isn't emotionally driven.
You can pick a color in the room you are in. How many things in different shades of that color can you see around you? How about out the window? Still feeling stressed? Pick another color.
Count backward by 7, starting at 100. It isn't easy and requires you to concentrate.
Or my personal one I use sometimes is having some friends send me pictures of cats on the internet or their cats and it stops me in my worst spirals. (Mostly cause I love cats.) But if you have a creature you love look them up. Or watch a video with them in it. Whatever works to pull you out of that spiral find that image online or video.
5. Draw Around Your Foot In Your Mind
Place your feet on the ground and in your imagination pick your favorite color to draw an outline around each foot. Start at the heel and using your imaginary pencil slowly go up on the side of your foot to your pinky toe and then around each toe then back to your heel. Repeat on the other foot.
Another way you can focus on your feet in a stressful moment is just wiggle your toes inside your shoe. Pay attention to the sensation as you move to separate each toe. Do some move independently of the others? Tense your whole foot then stretch it out. Now do the other foot.
6. Let Your Thoughts Come and Go
So this one is simple in that most of us with PCOS constantly have our minds overthink and wander. Personally, I know when my mind lingers on the parts I can't control or can't fully change my anxiety spikes and it just spirals till I have a panic attack because I don't stop myself and observe my thoughts. And I am learning in therapy that part of this is all due to cognitive distortion and the challenge to overcome those thoughts is to really think about what those thoughts do to my feelings and then my behavior.
This technique requires you to watch your thoughts for a minute. Imagine leaves floating on the surface of a stream. For each thought that comes to mind allow that thought to take its place on a leaf and watch it blow away in the wind. Or allow them to change into a fish and watch it float down the stream. Allow those thoughts to come and go, you don't need to respond to them.
In this case, you don't have to challenge these thoughts at the moment your anxiety spikes but down the line start to challenge them.
7. Get Your Adrenaline-Fueled Energy Out
If for whatever nothing works at first because your adrenaline is spiked your best bet to kick start the calming down process is to do something physical first to get that pent-up energy out. Go for a run if you can, a brisk walk if you aren't as conditioned to run or hate running, or clean a room like the kitchen, the house, or even outside if you have a yard. Dance around your room or house while listening to loud music. (I do this often, even on car drives for my daily commute and it helps me.) When you're physically spent you can try to return to the grounding techniques above to calm down your mind.
I hope this helps some of you in some form through those moments. I know in the past there are a couple I have applied without knowing these in full as grounding techniques and I am grateful to have a therapist who sent me this information as some others I have started to apply.
Living with PCOS isn't easy and managing anxiety isn't easy either. But hopefully, this helps those of you who struggle to find healthy ways to ground yourself so those overwhelming thoughts don't get the best of you. Take care cysters. You know I care about each one of you even if I am not a frequent poster.
All this information can be found on Dr. Sarah Allen's website.
Got this email and I decided to share for the cysters out there who plan to work out. Iâm not saying anyone has to work out to be healthy with pcos but if you desire to add that to your routine check out the video for more information.
