I commented about this on a post on reddit, but this deserves its own post over here.
One thing that I've noticed in the hatred of LGBTQIA+ people, a point which I had internalized for a good while, is that it's about sexual attraction only. It took me a few good revelations, as a bi man, to come to terms with the fact that I was able to love those of the same gender as me, not just be attracted to them sexually. I still struggle with that sometimes. I struggle to imagine a married life with another man, even though I know it's possible and something I want. I can never imagine being in a marriage with a man where I behave the same way as Gomez does for Morticia, for example, even though I know that is a possibility, if not a goal.
And the deliberate messaging that it's all about sex and suppression of same-sex relationships on TV or discussions of it in media aren't damaging because everybody needs a carbon copy of themselves on the screen to feel represented. Much more than that. It's about having a role model, of sorts, to know what the other sides, other kinds of love are, so you don't end up like my sorry ass.
And yes, love is love and I don't need a fucking guide to LOVE specifically, but I don't need a guide for cooking either. I could improvise a recipe on the spot and it'll turn out... somewhat fine, but a recipe sure as hell helps.














