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♡ Vincent/Vinny/Vince ♡ he/him ♡ trans gay guy ♡ adult ♡ white usamerican ♡ it's LGBT ♡

[alloromance]

Hi this blog is partially LGBT-centric discourse, partially just LGBT stuff in general. DNI and opinions under the cut.

DO NOT INTERACT:

cryptofash/racists/antisemites

terfs/tehms

truscum/anti-nonbinary

“transmisandry truthers”

MAPs/NOMAPs/proshippers/anti antis

“pro-life”/anti-abortionists

christians

DISCOURSE OPINIONS:

there are 5 orientations: lesbian, gay, bi, straight, ace

there are infinite genders

dysphoria is not a requirement for being trans

cis het aces/aros are not LGBT or "queer"

same with cis aroaces, oriented or not

lesbian, gay, bi and straight are not inherently sexual labels (and ace shouldn't be either tbh)

the SAM is a scourge on the LGBT community

queer is a slur and can only be reclaimed on an individual basis by LGBT people

the acronym (for the marginalized demographic(s)) is LGBT, full stop: Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Trans

pansexual is an LGBTphobic label

there is no ace-spec or m-spec or aro-spec. you either are or you aren't

bi lesbians don't exist. lesbians can't be attracted to men

all orientations include attraction to nonbinary people (except for ace)

there's no such thing as a kinky asexual or nonsexual kink

concepts like cupio and affectional latency are massively homophobic

[enby-life]

In light of my goop being scooped in two weeks, and in frustration of most “before and after” ftm top surgery comparisons being of skinny/muscular people with smaller chests, I have a compilation

Source A / Source B

[alloromance]

it’s fine and normal to go by multiple pronouns if you genuinely are comfortable with all of them but if you are regularly thinking/saying “I prefer [x] pronouns, but [y] pronouns are also fine I guess” consider that maybe it’s a cope and you don’t have to settle

[alloromance]

im sure it’s been said before but the whole “I’m not cis! cis is a slur! that implies that I’m comfortable with my gender and I’m not! nobody is! don’t call me cis!!” thing is the nastiest egg behavior

like please hatch and go to therapy

[decemberistsfan]

the thing i’ve taken away from ‘kink at pride’ discourse is that a lot of yall have a lot of internalized homophobia.

repeat after me. it is not bad to be flamboyant. it is not bad to be confident and proud in your sexuality. it is not bad to be a sexual being or want to be sexual. you are not a ‘better’ LGBT person because you aren’t sexual or flamboyant or proud of yourself. and your own issues don’t give you a get out of jail free card to be a cunt to people

[levianity]

[loboflaco-deactivated20221016]

I think the desexualization of trans men is something that needs to be spoken about by folks other than us trans men bringing it up. It’s massively insulting and infantalizing to only refer to us as if we are all prepubescent boys incapable of being looked at as fully actualized men that can be lusted after. It’s shocking but we can even be tops and not simply holes to be conquered by chasers. Just saying.

[butternaan]

idk which young trans person needs to hear this but transmed ideology and the culture surrounding it is not helping you

[butternaan]

man reading some of the tags under this post makes me so goddamn sad like im glad that so many of u escaped that circle and are happy where u are today but it sucks that this even exists as a potential threat to trans kids like... being miserable should not be an integral part of trans identity... if theres a billion trans ppl theres a billion ways to be trans and no one has or ever will have a patent on the "trans experience" (especially white ppl) i truly hope transmedicalism and "truscum culture" becomes less and less of an actual problem in the future

[afeelgoodblog]

It has been amazing to see how aids has been controlled, definitely a win for humanity

[genderoutlaws]

Susanna Valenti posing next to the sign for Casa Susanna, a popular weekend destination and bungalow camp for gender non conforming men and transgender women run by Valenti and her wife Marie | 1960s | ph: Andrea Susan

[polkadotmotmot]

Sonya Sklaroff - Rainbow Flag, 2017

[pussyhaver-deactivated20231126]

ok maybe i'm having a total misfire in my brain but didn't you once make a post saying that transphobic detrans communities are overwhelmingly populated by former transmeds and that many 'big name' ones like keira bell also admit to having been so? ever since i read that i've been paying attention to it and it turned out to be so true it's unreal. and anyway apparently kalvin garrah has been detransition baiting, posting pics in makeup and a wig and feminine clothes, bc i saw some terfs celebrating it and praising how much "better" he looks (ofc) while feminine. and i mean if he really does then it's just another puzzle piece clicking into place lol. turns out there really is a pipeline between being an angry bastard who wants to tell other transsexuals what to do and being an angry bastard who still wants to tell transsexuals what to do

That was me yes lol it is absolutely everywhere. It is something I noticed after meeting my wife went through it and thankfully came out the other end an incredibly compassionate and normal person. Transmedicalism was en vogue for trans men for so many years and it's such a toxic ideology. "You must transition fully and completely as quickly as possible and pass well and never deviate from your new gender role in the slightest or you're a trender and if you're a trender you're evil for appropriating transexuality because it is nothing but pain and misery and suffering and if anyone says otherwise they're a trender too" I know hindsight is 20/20 but it kills me how obvious it is that this belief system is ripe for creating the most bitter and aggressive detransitioners who believe that since they weren't a true transsexual, then no one is. If being trans is nothing but suffering and misery as well as a rigid role you must adhere to to minimize gender deviancy then no duh you would eventually get sick of it and desist. Believing everyone else is a faker is also just projection and is obviously borne out of insecurity

[colorisbyshe]

Honestly, ace discourse wouldn’t exist if people were capable of understanding that every single person on the fucking planet not only has a DIFFERENT relationship to sex/relationships/attraction as everyone else but also a COMPLICATED relationship to sex/relationships/attraction. Every single person! Yes, even the privileged ones.

Because we live in a society that demands sex as much as it punishes it. That both glorifies and demonizes sex. Sex is only good within very specific contexts but if you don’t like those contexts or act within them, suddenly you are perverse and wrong. Even people with healthy relationships to sex, relationships, and attraction still face pitfalls that complicate matters–partners who don’t have healthy relationships or maybe they can’t get a partner at all. Break ups. Factors that affect their libidos or interest in relationships. Periods where sex and romance don’t matter at all because something else is a priority.

And of course, your gender, sexual orientation, race, class, and every other identity impacts not just YOUR relationship to sex and all that but also everyone ELSE’S relationship and response to your sex, relationships, attraction. And the identities of the people you are and aren’t attracted to impacts that too! From the race of your partner to same gender relationships to people who prefer fat partners to whatever the fuck else… all of this impacts the complications around sex, relationships, and attraction.

And yet it is only people on the ace and aro “spectrums” who are obsessed with pretending their relationships to these things are wholly unique or special. That they have created new social classes. They are obsessed with feeling different because they think there is some homogeneous relationship to sex and love that the rest of the world is partaking in that they are somehow excluded from. When really everyone has something complicated from, their own hyper specific contexts where they do or don’t want sex or love or whatever.

Nothing about your relationship to sex or love makes you more or less LGBT. If you are gay and don’t want to have sex, ever, you are still gay. If you are cisgender and straight and only feel capable of sexual desire for longterm monogamous partners and even then, you only want to fuck on Tuesday mornings and Friday nights.. you’re still straight. You haven’t discovered a new class of heterosexuality that is “queer’ or different. Rather, EVERY person who is heterosexual is different in how they perform or experiecne it. You are the same in your difference. A cishet who doesn’t ever want sex because of trauma is no more or less cishet than one who wants sex all the time because of trauma or a cishet who doesn’t ever want sex because they don’t feel sexual attraction or whatever else.

Gayness, straightness, and bisexuality are not defined by HOW you do or don’t want sex or HOW you do or don’t want to date, it’s just defined by WHO you want to be with. There are infinite ways for HOW you can gay, straight, or bi and none of them are separate identities.

[fatmasc]

If ur like me and driving urself crazy trying to find a top surgeon but ur fat then look at transbmi. Its a short list of surgeons with high or no BMI limit (some surgeons are listed as having an unknown limit - be extra wary of them as they dont guarantee a high limit)

[diaspora-transan]

I had a friend go thru KU Med, and he said they don't have a BMI requirement for top surgery. However, they do have a (flexible) one for bottom surgery, mostly because having hanging stomach fat on a brand new penis will not be good for said brand new penis. So, despite what their website says, BMI is not a factor for top surgery.

I've had 2 friends go thru KU Med for top surgery, one thru Dr. Ponuru, and one thru Dr. Farmer. Both are fat, both are gnc but binary trans men, both had good results. From everything I've heard, the surgeons are very open/welcoming to nonbinary people as well.

[fatmasc]

I cannot stress enough: if you know of a surgeon who you think should be on this list PLEASE contact Elijah Castle, the trans man who runs transbmi. He has a google form linked at the bottom of the page for submissions. I do not run transbmi so i cant add the reccomendations i keep seeing in the notes!

[dicksizer]

[riverside--wren]

You joke, but there was a famous trans American jazz musician named Billy Tipton who had 5 wives, and he successfully hid the fact that he was trans from 4 of them by claiming that he lost his dick in a car accident. He was only outed when he died in 1989 at age 74.

King shit right here.

[shesnake]

gays aren't "starved for representation" you just refuse to watch anything that isn't a marvel movie

[shesnake]

"but gay representation still hardly exists in the mainstream" gay rep will NEVER exist in the mainstream if you don't support indie lgbt projects, if you don't prove the demand for depth for complexity for love, if you don't just fucking google actual lgbt films

[shesnake]

seeing a couple people on this post talking about how there's no media about lgbt people of colour. here's a list of over 100 films with lgbt protagonists of colour.

lgbt poc

protagonists of colour only, off the top of my head but still compiling. recommendations welcome!

[sweatermuppet]

[Text ID: THE WORLD WILL ALWAYS NEED MORE TRANSSEXUALS. THERE IS ROOM ENOUGH FOR EVERYONE. THAT INCLUDES YOU! /End ID]

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[alloromance]

this post is so funny

yes <3 a woman wearing feminine things, a man wearing masculine things, and a nonbinary person dressing androgynously are all choosing to conform to the expected visual stereotypes for their gender <3 so you agree trans women are women and trans men are men and nonbinary people are outside of the binary <3