if you pay attention you can start to notice a little secret about why discussions online, especially political discussions, are often so insufferable. Its because so many people have no other avenue for political change. They reasonably get disillusioned with the state of the world, but remain trapped in a system which beats them over the head with the idea that doing anything to actually change the system (joining a party to build a movement for revolution) is actually reactionary for one reason or another. So people remain confined to acting out their political ideologies online, or through their consumption or lack of it, they try to boycott and Post their way to a better world. and so, what you post and what you buy, stops being regular part of life, or even a part of life which may have political elements, and turns into the entire political sphere, one misstep balloons out of proportion and is put under a magnifying glass, because its the totality of political consciousness. hence every discussion and interaction is a matter of life and death, and spirals out of control from there.
of course, this isnt to say that the things we say and do online, what we consume, etc... aren't important, but whats far more important is your actual political actions, how you organize for change in the real world. Organizing within a communist party will do far far more for the state of things than making sure you and your friends have the correct opinions on fandom ever will, even if those views genuinely connect to important political concepts, they just will never matter as much as the actual political-economic system of society.
If you actually organize and get connected, what used to feel like the world falling in around you, will start to shrink into a small mistake. you wont feel like you've abandoned your moral character and have to fight to defend it, or fight to make others around you agree with eachother to feel like you're doing things right, because you already will be doing things right in a much more direct and immediate way.
this isnt a "touch grass" post, theres so much bigotry and hate offline too, what im saying is to touch politics, touch organizing. political change in history has never come from gossip, it comes from people grouping together to make something better.
I've said it before but consumerism isnt just when you consume a lot of things, its when you view your political agency and you very existence through the lens of consumption. Similar can be said about how people view their existence online on social media. Act for political change, join an organization, and you'll stop feeling trapped into acting out a caricature of progressiveness online, you can just fight for revolutionary progress in real life, and then live your personal life without worrying so much about making sure you and everyone you ever talk is Posting correctly