Another Kin Blog

A kin blog. Mod is a 27 year old spiritual fictionkin and soulbonder who has been both for over half their life. If you want my personal/memory blog ask off anon. This is a side blog, follow backs will come from elsewhere.

[jeshire-deactivated20230502]

I phrased it a little weirdly, my bad. The inclination towards describing one's self in one of many different ways, of describing one's self as trans or kin in any number of ways, comes, at least in my case, from feeling something "as" this, or as that, and it becomes something really of your own when it consistently happens. These were kinda my follow up to your kin post? It doesn't matter how your identity relates to canon, it's a part of you and that's where the focus needs to be.

Ohhh, yea I got’cha.

Yea, like, it’s in internal, personal thing and imo people need to stop worrying about how close to canon they are. You don’t need to identify as an AU version of someone to have differences and honestly I would think, logically, that they’d be expected!

Otherkinity is an involuntary, nonhuman identity that is one’s own to explore, and fictionkinity is much the same just with species and people who appear in fiction, canon appearance be damned. Focus on yourself, not any canon counterpart, first and foremost. It’s kind of part of where that introspective bit that we talk about comes in, I bet. ;P

[azaphaer]

Otherkin Help Blogs You Should Probably Avoid

Alright everyone, as this is an issue that has come up in the tumblr community, lets crack down on “Otherkin Help Blogs”. 

There are a ton of these on tumblr, and new ones seem to spawn each week; but as far as most of these go.. they aren’t accurate or qualified sources of information. Most that probably couldn’t answer this questionnaire I created shortly ago in a way that one would want to be receiving guidance from.  

As it is, being able to tell an applicable source from the next is one most new or questioning otherkin can not really tell, given they have little or no prior knowledge of what otherkin is. To combat this, I’ve put together a list of Otherkin “help” blogs, that range from displaying poor, lack of correct knowledge to high content misinformation, or some of which were more likely trolls.  

Now, though a lot of these blogs have good intentions, any amount of misinformation they put out is harmful to the community and especially it’s newer members. And so this list was created( regardless of the level of misinformation) as one new or questioning otherkin should avoid as a resource for information or advise. 

- - -                                             Flagged Otherkin Help Blogs (-ranging from minimal to high amounts of misinformation-)

that-otherkin-feel new-otherkin-help questioning-kin-halp everykin we-kin-help kinsultation kinservice kincuddles otherkin-help otherkinpride kin-help we-otherkins kinassistance otherkinhelpblog fiction-kin otherkin-outlet kintypeoftheday just-otherkin-things (troll) outcast-kinhelpblog (troll) super-lycan-witch (promotes the idea of physical-shifting) unnxturxl (promotes the idea of physical-shifting) - - -

Those are what I have found so far, concerning blogs that I believe should be avoided if you are looking for accurate answers on anything about otherkin. Though, if you are new and interested in the subject, I would strongly advise doing a lot more research outside of tumblr(and really dig deep, as there is a lot of misinformation out there!).

If you insist on getting answers from tumblr users however, these are blogs I would recommend seeking out information from:

@seriousotherkin @youredoingkinwrong @obligatorycoffee  @fromfiction

[wumpo-deactivated20190322]

I'm confused by your kin post, are you saying it's ok to be kin outside of your race/ability?

the idea that it isnt okay to be kin outside of your race/ability/etc. was coined by 5 white dfab adults who all pretended to be trans women, intersex, japanese minors with DID, aka “The Yandere Bitch Club” because they wanted people to stop “stealing” their anime fictotypes. they were also all abusers and drove actual kids off of tumblr. like this wasn’t even a concept in ‘kin communities before them as far as i’ve been told by older people in the community (on and off of tumblr)

not to mention, you can’t pick your fictotypes. so ya that is what im saying in the post.

[fromfiction]

Is it possible to "steal" someone's soulbonds, or to interact with them against the soulbonder's will or without their knowledge? If someone I don't know or don't like tells me that they've been talking to my soulbonds, should I believe them?

If someone I don’t know or don’t like tells me that they’ve been talking to my soulbonds, should I believe them?

If someone you don’t know or don’t like tells you they’ve been interacting with your soulbonds this is a HUGE RED FLAG, anon. This is the biggest indicator that manipulative, abusive behavior is on the horizon, and indeed, has already started.

Do NOT maintain contact with anyone who claims to be interacting with YOUR soulbonds against your will or without your knowledge. 

My advice, from personal experience, and from cases where this happened to other bonders is that you cut contact with this person immediately, and warn anyone else you believe may be in danger from them.

Note for kin: the same thing goes if someone claims to know more about your personal kintypes and kin experience than you do.

[alter-human]

This is so, so important. I lost a soulbond who was very important to me because of someone doing this when I was a kid and me not knowing who to believe. Don't let people do this to you, it's definitely a big sign that something bad is happening.

[questioncanon]

New blog for kin memory discussion!

Question Canon is a new blog that’s going to be posting daily questions and memory prompts.

Our aim here is to give people opportunities to discuss memories they might otherwise not have a reason to talk about, and to provide questions and ideas that might bring about memories or new insight into their kin identity.

Please follow and maybe give this post a reblog if that seems like something you or your followers might have an interest in! And if you have any ideas that you think might be a good topic of discussion don’t hesitate to submit!

[runawayalters]

Please reblog this if you believe that alters are real people with valid emotions

Please, I need to prove a point. It would mean a lot to one of my very depressed and suicidal alters.

[negacion-deactivated20180706]

Stop saying “most kin are mentally ill” stop stop STOP

IT’S NOT A FUCKING COPING MECHANISM. IT NEVER WAS.

Stop setting yourself up as an authority on things you know nothing about. You are alienating and confusing people.

This post full of accurate information is put in the tags on a daily basis. There is no excuse to not know what being kin is except choosing to be stupid about it and making shit up as you go.

[huminbeaning]

Dark alterhuman discourse, show me the Copinglinkers not obsessed with incorrectly calling themselves otherkin

[captainfortesque]

That episode of Spongebob Squarepants where Spongebob joins the nest of wild jellyfish is a good example for otherkin peeps

Like it’s okay to identify as a certain thing (such as Spongebob identifies as a jellyfish) but you need to acknowledge the body you live in during your current life and the limits it has

[alter-human]

I’m pretty sure the vast, overwhelming majority of otherkin are perfectly aware and accepting of what they are now. It’s a bit harmful to the community, I think, to imply otherwise.

[kincuddles]

I'm so happy! When I was little, I could see people's kintypes (but I didn't know the word) and recently, the ability is coming back, getting stronger. It's still hard but yay!! I have the gift!!

You are The Chosen One™

(no I’m kidding, sorry. That’s really cool! I’m happy for you!Actually I’m a little bit curious, if you’d like to share a little bit?)

- Cormac

[fromlylat]

This might sound weird (and I’m not anon), but I’ve had both young children and cats respond unusually when I was in deeper kin shifts. I’ve accidentally freaked my cat out a few times because of this, and got some really weird looks from parents because their kids are asking about me. I’m not kidding. This isn’t uncommon, but I’d love to know more about it. I also have reason to believe that some birds may be sensitive to it.

[sensationalpsychoticskell-deact]

I’ve always had like, daydreams about this, but never knew it was an actual thing? Even before I awakened, I’d experience shifts of sorts and I was always curious if others could tell.

[alter-human]

I've also had kids and animals notice when soulbonds are fronting, even when they're trying to be lowkey about it.

[fromfiction]

I saw a term recently that I thought would be helpful for the community as a whole. For characters that you relate to intensely/exemplify your personality and aesthetic in this life but are not kin with I have seem people call them Aesthetic Characters. It's different from Comfort Characters in that while comfort characters bring comfort these characters are just kind of like pointing and going "same!"

That sounds like an awesome term. Thanks, anon!

[astralphysicist]

I don’t even notice kin shifts half the time anymore, sometimes it’s such subtle things. “Oh I’m holding my coffee cup like Ben did” or randomly noticing I expect the weight of Reaver’s pistols at my hips, or that I’ve adopted Firefly’s posture again. Kin shifts aren’t always huge dramatic differences, sometimes it’s just a little nudge in one direction or another that’s hardly noticeable. I’m probably almost always in a kin shift if we count things like that.

[fromfiction]

ever heard of someone that's fictionkin slowly reverting back to how they were before this life?

Awakening as fictionkin can do things like make you more aware of the traits you share of your kintype, and of course you can have more and more powerful shifts that effect your personality. I haven’t heard of someone ‘reverting’ to their kintype, but it is possible for your personality to shift to more like it once was once you’re aware of it.

[alter-human]

Adding to this, I think it’s even more likely if you have kin memories. Your personality is a direct result of all your experiences, and if you suddenly remember having the experiences of a different being then of course it’s possible you’re going to be a bit more like them, because now your perspective is drawing off some of their experiences.

[jeshire-deactivated20230502]

Honestly I don’t care if you like doubles or not don’t forbid your friends to talk to your doubles. Like don’t do that for any fucking reason honestly, kin-related or not. You can ask them not to mention them but honestly trying to control your friends’ social groups is Bad Shit my buddypal and you might want to evaluate why you’re doing that.

[negacion-deactivated20180706]

That’s not the first time I’ve seen someone worried that they’ll get in trouble with their friends for knowing doubles and…guys, that’s so unhealthy. It’s not okay. If two people can’t be near each other then they can block each other. It’s not your responsibility to cater your whole social circle to meet the needs of other people. If someone is uncomfortable with doubles, it’s their own responsibility to block them and avoid confrontation and discomfort.

If anyone tries to control who you’re friends with, that’s fucked up and unhealthy. Mental illness isn’t an excuse, insecurity isn’t an excuse. Asking for reasonable accommodations from friends is one thing, but making unreasonable demands is another. You are responsible for yourself in this situation. You do not get to decide who your friends can be friends with - that’s controlling and manipulative, end of.

[fromfiction]

question.. is it okay to be friends with 2 people that ID as the same character? i know 2 people that both id as papyrus and i love them both but i don't want to offend either of them or have them get mad at me. i have a feeling they'll cross paths and get very angry with me.

That’s a hard question, anon. My immediate ‘gut instinct’ answer is that of course you can be friends with both of them.

However, the real answer is that it depends on you and  your friends, and their feelings. Its entirely possible that one or both of them might feel uncomfortable with you being friends with another Papyrus. (I can’t personally envision Papyrus being mad about that, but I certainly don’t know every Papyrus there is).

You have two options, anon.

Option 1) Keep them completely separate and don’t mention that you know the other. 

Option 2) Communicate with your friends and find out their feelings, and respect their wishes, whatever they may be.

[negacion-deactivated20180706]

And also keep in mind that it’s very unhealthy for friends to shame you over your other friends. Controlling who you talk to and interact with is a sign of an abusive friendship, or damn near it. It’s not normal. You should not be made to feel guilty or pressured over your choice of friends. Being uncomfortable with doubles isn’t an excuse for it either, so don’t forget that.

[alter-human]

Honestly. If someone asks you not to talk to them about another one of your friends that's one thing but if they tell you you've got to choose between them they're being unreasonable.

[sensationalpsychoticskell-deact]

I don’t want to start a discourse on someone else’s post so I’m just going to make my own: If an artist captions their art (or has in their description bc I’ve seen that too) “don’t tag as kin/etc.” just don’t. I understand wanting to be facetious when the artist in question is antikin but the truth is, you don’t always know right away if they’re anti or not. You also don’t know why they’re making that request. Antikin deserve respect when it comes to their art just as much as any other artist.