... so you have to win no matter what. Amami Rantaro
25+ • he/him Fictive and agere caregiver. I made this blog to help separate myself from Kokki to take care of him better.
Call me Amami, Ama-nii, Rantaro-nii, or whatever you'd like. I'm a traumagenic fictive of Amami Rantaro from Danganronpa V3, with a whole mess of memories from conflicting timelines. Don't worry about it! I'm sure not.
This is my blog to help separate myself from our system's host, Kokki, as it's my job to take care of gan and having ways to externalize myself from gan helps with that. My primary objective as Kokki's caregiver is to keep Kokki small and well taken care of, so you'll see some sfw agere stuff on here.
In terms of caregiving, I'm a bit on the firm side, and sometimes have to employ forced regression to keep Kokki in headspace. Keep that in mind. I don't mind listening and chatting to other regressors, but I want to make it perfectly clear to everyone that Kokki is my first and only priority. I'm not looking for any other exclusive regressors.
Other than that, I'll probably be posting some about my source and whatnot, too. Danganronpa isn't meant for kids, so if that's not your cup of tea, please move along.
🫧 Tips for low functioning littles and showering: ☁️
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Hey there little one! I think it might be bath time, don't you?
I know it's not always easy- sometimes the world feels too big and all you want to do is get back in bed, so i've set up a fun list of things that help me and maybe you too <33
☁️﹒Lay your comfiest clothes out in advance! have your fuzzy socks, favorite shirt, cozy pajama pants and towel laid out outside the shower so when you get out you can slip right into them!
🫧﹒Bring along some music or a podcast! sometimes feeling like someone else is there with you can help keep you out of your own head!
☁️﹒Let a stuffie friend tag along! while they cant get in the shower with you, they can hang out by the sink if they'd like too. you can tell them all about your day and what fun things you have planned next!
🫧﹒Mix and match senses and smells, if you have a soap you really like the smell of, you're more likely to want to get cleaned up!
☁️﹒For sensory littles, focus on the sensations of the water, the sound of the pitter patters or the way the bathroom gets all steamy like clouds in the sky.
🫧﹒If you get bored in the shower, bring a bath toy with you! something small like a little rubber friend- they like to get clean too!
☁️﹒Try sitting in the shower over standing, it's more comfortable and can help give you that little feeling if it's easier for you to get cleaned up in headspace
🫧﹒Sometimes having a song to hum along too can really help, i like twinkle twinkle little star!
☁️﹒Get some bath time markers! doodle on the shower wall with water soluble pens, see how many stars or clouds you can get done by the time the shower is up!
🫧﹒If showers are too noisy for you, try a bath instead! use bubbles and sticky letters you can put on the wall!
☁️﹒And most of all, try to enjoy it, i know it's easier said than done, but imagine your washing all the sad away, putting the day behind you and getting ready for cozy time.
You got this little star! and when you're all washed up, clean and dry, that's one more thing off your to do list. be kind to yourself, you deserve it <33
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Kiddo who’s so used to taking care of themself. Making their own pasta, cutting off their own crusts, filling their own cup, putting bandaids on their own owies. Kiddo who spent so long taking care of themselves and self soothing they don’t know how to act with a carer now looking out for them. Instinct tells them self soothe, to be quiet and take care of it themselves.
Their carer finds them all the time, standing on a stool to stir pasta they’re making, muffling their cries with a teddy bear or cleaning up their own scraped knees. And carer is trying to be patient, rushes in and tries to take over so kiddo knows they’re not alone and they’re being taken care of now.
“I tan do it…”
“I know you can, button. But I wanna do it for you, okay? I like taking care of you.”
Believe me, I know it's not the same as having someone to help you - but sometimes we have to make do. 🤎 So let's discuss some ways that you can be your own caregiver.
🐾 Future You
Think about a 'near future you' and how you can give them an extra boost. Maybe it's you when you get home in the evening, or a week in advance, either way, spoil them!
Some examples:
- "Future me would be so happy to have a clean kitchen to cook in later."
- "Let's lay our favourite pyjamas out so future me can get a comfortable night's sleep."
- "It's getting late, I should go to bed so future me has lots of energy tomorrow."
Showing yourself love by putting in a little bit of extra effort can really help with motivation! Really take on the role of a doting parent if you're able.
🐾 Inner Monologue
Similar to Future You, the goal here is to separate your stream of consciousness (the part of you that makes choices), and the part of you that isn't feeling in control. Speak kindly in your mind, like you would to a child. Console them, encourage them, even over the little things.
Some examples:
- "Oh dear, I know you're tired but we need to get a shower. Let's get it done quickly and then you can rest."
- "Look at you go, brushing your teeth! We're going to feel so much better once we're freshened up."
- "This work is hard, isn't it? After it's done, we'll do something nice and relaxing."
- "Almost done. You're being really brave."
🐾 Show Your Inner Child Your Life
What would they love about your life? Your hobbies, your friends, the fact you still like their favourite band? See your world through the eyes of a child who would idolise a grownup like you, who never stopped being fun.
🐾 Let Your Inner Child Plan Your Day
Let them choose your outfit, activities and meals. Whatever that little voice decides, that's what you'll do.
🐾 What Would A Toddler Need?
At our core, we aren't much more complicated than we were when we were little. When children are in bad moods, we don't hold a grudge against them, we consider what might be making them so fussy. We never really grow out of that, even the strongest, toughest people in our lives get hangry or overwhelmed. If we're feeling burnt out, grumpy, or on the verge of tears - it might be time to ask what a toddler would need. Sometimes the most intense emotions can be fixed with some quiet time or a snack.
🐾 Reward Charts
Struggling to get something done? Make yourself a little reward chart and buy yourself stickers. Add prizes or rewards for milestones or streaks, and commit to treating yourself when you achieve them.
🐾 Making Time For Whimsy
I promise you it's good and important!! Plan adventures, arts and crafts, time with friends, movie nights, anything - and get excited! Always have something to look forward to if you can. If you look online, you're likely to find really fun events for cheap/free in your area, like pottery/painting classes and meet ups.
🐾 Other Suggestions:
- Plan to cook/order your favourite food when you know a day will be stressful
- Make a routine with yourself and stick to it. Maybe every Friday, you go for a walk or do a face mask and paint your nails!
- Be playful and gentle with others. Sometimes people just need to be reminded that it's okay to be silly and vulnerable.
heuugh no one mentions the cuteness agression when it comes to being a caregiver.
what do you mean you're curling up to me because i'm comforting/safe to you. hhueejghuuhghg... it hasn't happened today but this happened in the past week.
i need to compress that kid into a cube and hug it til they explode, i think.
I bring a "that character isnt a twink or a sub or a femboy or even non-masculine in any way you're just forcing old binary gender roles onto what you percieve as femininity and can't interact with someone whos's appearance doesnt fit your idea of a man without reducing them to those qualities" vibe to the fandom that people REALLY do not like
