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not actually anaal nathrakh | it/its/any

[rainbowsofdoom]

weird & insane degenerate ppl Please Interact 🙂💗

[welchald]

[lostinparad1secity]

[quietwingsinthesky]

all the “peer pressure is bad” education we give kids is practically useless because all it cares about is telling them that Drugs Are Evil rather than the much more useful lesson of ‘the person who responds to you saying you don’t drink by telling you they’ll find a way to get you to is also going to be shitty about all your other boundaries’.

[quietwingsinthesky]

god forbid you teach kids that their consent should be respected rather than about the inherent immorality of all the sinful actions of their peers

[hoodienanami]

Boys Gone Wild! Forget Will & Grace: Gay men are in lust with Johnny Knoxville and the skater punks of Jackass by Carl Swanson (2002)

[sugary-sheep]

I don't think anyone can say they had a truly healthy childhood. I feel like there's a baseline level of trauma that comes with the fact that you're the legal property of someone else for your most vulnerable years, no matter how great your parents are, and this only gets exponentially worse for every degree away from perfect experts with principled objections to normative child abuse your parents are.

[philcollinsenjoyer]

explained to an 8 year old that once a fruit is ripe you only have so much time until it rots so you have to eat it soon and she said so i'll never be able to keep it perfect like this forever? no and there are about a million pieces of art for you unrelatedly

[manaphy]

thank u for being a cooler blog than me and not unfollowing me yet

[genderkoolaid]

need to bring back the distinction between minimalist/genderless androgyny/gender neutrality vs maximalist/genderful androgyny, because i am very tired of people talking about androgyny being encouraged or valued when it is very clear they mean the kind of androgyny that relies on the minimization of gendered traits (allowing one to be associated with pre-pubsecence, female virginity, angels, the kind of androgyny that has been, to varying degrees throughout time and place, ideologically permitted in the christian world) and is also profoundly white and thin. when androgyny is undeniably adult and is defined by not a lack of gendered traits and a quiet excusal from gender, but rather actively possessing "opposing" gendered traits, it tends to be treated differently.

yes* the image most people have in their heads of a nonbinary person is someone white, thin, lacking breasts, lacking a visible penis, lacking facial hair, lacking makeup, lacking lacking lacking. but why is it that when people critique this image, they never critique the idea that this is how we are defining androgyny? people loving talking about how this image is neutral-masculine as proof it favors transmasculine/FTX people, but there are plenty of transfeminine/MTX people who also go for this neutral-androgynous look.

meanwhile, many nb/gq/gnc people of all assigned sexes and genders are hairy, fat, have breasts (or give themselves breasts), have penises (or give themselves penises), dresses using both feminine and masculine clothing, etc. hell, just look at how stigmatized the androgyny of intersex people with PMOS & other kinds of hyperandrogenism are. the image of a fat hairy person with large breasts and a deep voice is repulsive in patriarchal culture; this is androgyny, too. to act like "androgyny" is one simple thing is to erase how misandrogyny actually functions.

*& to be clear, such people also face violence and oppression due to their gender nonconformity & androgyny, even while being a more palatable kind of androgyny in certain contexts

[genderkoolaid]

It became apparent that my brand of gender-nonconformity was somehow more attractive to men than Alok and Jacob’s, and as the night wore on, I found myself sincerely befuddled. The looks I gave in my pictures were just as funky as theirs, with my partly-shaved head and my geometric bodysuit plus oversize platform heels, or a close-up of me sans makeup that showed off my strong brow and flat chin in all their androgynous glory. I wondered aloud why Alok and Jacob weren’t getting matches, if there was some algorithmic mystery at play—whether guys were racist against Indians, in Alok’s case, or if they found Jacob’s bright makeup too intimidating. “Meredith,” Alok finally blurted out, interrupting me in a tone replete with tolerance. “You look cis.” With those words, Alok exposed the key difference between me and them. Though I’ve come into my own gender-nonbinary identity, to many, my body reads as cisgender because I’m short and don’t have body hair. I’ve also taken hormones and had reassignment surgery, because I went through a period when I thought I was a binary trans woman, before figuring out I wasn’t comfortable with that identity either. What I didn’t quite grasp until Alok pointed it out was that now, regardless of how GNC I tried to present, cis people still predominantly read me as a cis woman. If I told a stranger I was trans, it’s likely they might think I’m an early-transitioning trans guy more than anything else. So on Tinder, I can still get dates, since there are plenty of guys who like the androgynous female look. On the other hand, Alok and Jacob’s features haven’t been softened by hormones, and they have visible body hair that marks them as more obviously trans, so they have a much harder time. Nonbinary femmes like them are too masc for the straights, too femme for the gays, and too out for nearly everyone else.

from "Why Can’t My Famous Gender Nonconforming Friends Get Laid?" by Meredith Talusan (she/they)

for reference, here's photos of Meredith, Jacob, and Alok:

I would argue what is depicted here as "femme" androgyny is (one example of) what I would describe as maximalist/genderful androgyny; it is read as "femme" as opposed to "masc" because minimalist/genderless androgyny focuses on minimizing gendered characteristics to be neutral (non-masculine non-feminine), and neutrality in patriarchal society is read as diet-masculine by default — and perhaps cis by default, because both of those things are more comfortable for people in a patriarchal society to assume of a person who minimizes intensely gendered traits.

But the treatment Alok and Jacob experience, in my opinion, while shaped by femmephobia, is not reducible to femmephobia alone. It is the combination of explicitly masculine traits (like body and facial hair) and feminine traits (makeup, feminine clothing), their failure to pursue and perform a non-masculine femininity, that leads them to be seen as undesirable. This is misandrogyny.

Although, I should also note that "guys who like the androgynous female look" are, not always, but not infrequently chasers, and they do not always treat people they see as "androgynous females" with genuine respect even if they sexually desire them. See, for example, Lou Sullivan's experience being fetishized and manipulated by his chauvinist cis boyfriend, who desired him as an "androgynous female" and so pressured him to not transition and tried to convince him that his desire to be a gay man was unhealthy and unattainable & as mentioned in the og post, being seen as more palatable in certain context does not mean that androgyny like Meredith's is not punished, even violently, in many others. The point being, this kind of androgyny is not straightforwardly "privileged" and this article is more focused on hoping that Meredith's friends can find genuine love and good sex, rather than interrogating how different forms of androgyny are perceived and treated under patriarchy.

[genderkoolaid]

#i think also part of it is that like the non-marked androgyny is something that others then think they can impose gender onto#in order to binarize the person#where there is a degree of if we add something to you you will then become a gender#(and then there's the assumption that the person hasn't transitioned medically in order to achieve the unmarked androgynous)#or if they have it has not crossed the event horizon of being read as too masc or too fem in one direction in a way that would#prevent the person from being read as a man/woman

#basically the unmarked androgyny is perceived as a blank slate from which gender can be imposed on the individual with the potential for#eventual conformity (aka the can still be saved by detransition theory)#while marked androgyny is to show both masculine and feminine traits in ways that refuse to be conforming#and which would have to take active steps towards eliminating traits in order to force the individual to conform to masculinity or feminity#so the marked androgyny is a threat that refuses to be silenced and refuses to allow the plausible deniability of being non-conforming#where neither is actually truly desired#just the ones that is perceived as easier to 'fix' and impose a binary gender on is seen as more desirable and less threatening to the syst

#adding on: also there is the you look cis they think you're a cis woman#like the idea that unmarked androgyny is just someone who is perceived as a cis woman not presenting feminine#and how marked androgyny almost always has facial hair#like the hostility towards unmarked androgyny within the queer community absolutely overlaps with the hatred for the transtrender theyfab#like i see a lot of talk about how we need to show more appreciation and visibility of marked androgyny but we also need to just have more#for everything bc 90% of the time if im seeing something about unmarked androgyny it's not actually uplifting those who are#this post is i think the most positive thing I've seen regarding unmarked androgyny in months

great points made here.

& yeah, a lot of people use the different ways that marked/unmarked androgyny are treated as a cover to be misogynistically exorsexist to "theyfabs." which, as mentioned above, completely ignores... so much. that there are people assigned male who are relatively hairless and slim and would be better able to achieve unmarked androgyny than certain people who are assigned female who are quite hairy with large breast and hips, or that nb/gq/gnc people can and do medically transition; like Meredith above, and there are plenty of people assigned female who look exactly like Jacob and Alok. the fixation on making this about transmascs vs transfems or amab vs afab is just more exorsexism and it prevents us from actually discussing the misandrogyny at play.

[piranes11]

how it feels to stop tossing and turning and get up to piss

[chilewithcarnage]

[anaalnathrakhs]

can't tell if my living conditions are horrific or if i'm describing like. mild issues.

either way they're mostly yknow, my own doing and my own responsibility. i know it's objectively gross, but i wonder how gross it is on a scale from like "ew disgusting" to "i understand the circumstances that led here"

[asexual-amanita]

Autism actually can make people violent and aggressive, and I’m tired of “autism advocates” saying it can’t. Many autistic people, especially higher support needs people lose control of their bodies during meltdowns and times of high emotion. Some autistics have limited control of their bodies at all times. This body brain disconnect is a prevalent associative feature of autism. This is not to say that measures shouldn’t be taken to protect and teach the autistic person and others, but you can’t erase real, but stigmatized parts of a condition, and then dare to call yourself an advocate. Just because a symptom is unpleasant or unpalatable doesn’t mean it’s not a genuine part of the disorder. Stop ‘cleansing’ your autism advocacy.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

and when people acknowledge it they treat it as an Evil Boy Thing which. no. autistic girls (and autistic people considered girls by these sort of people) do it all the time you just don’t acknowledge their existence.

[lady-of-vitreous-sight]

it's kinda scary how you can just be tired all the time forever

[random-brushstrokes]

Xenia Hausner - Nachthunger (1998)

[mollyjames]

Uh oh, the player character is coming this way. Quick, engage in mindless small talk which comments on recent events or location relevant details

[patchworkhorsey]

The lovely Odessa 🐚🐬🌊✨

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Giveaway raffle prize for @askodessa featuring their beautiful one of a kind pony! ✨❤️ I’ve never drawn a character like this, it was a fun challenge to draw an actual ribcage 🐎

[bees-with-swords]

"Do you ever dream of land?" The whale asks the tuna.

"No." Says the tuna, "Do you?"

"I have never seen it." Says the whale, "but deep in my body, I remember it."

"Why do you care," says the tuna, "if you will never see it."

"There are bones in my body built to walk through the forests and the mountains." Says the whale.

"They will disappear." Says the tuna, "one day, your body will forget the forests and the mountains."

"Maybe I don't want to forget," Says the whale, "The forests were once my home."

"I have seen the forests." Whispers the salmon, almost to itself.

"Tell me what you have seen," says the whale.

"The forests spawned me." Says the salmon. "They sent me to the ocean to grow. When I am fat with the bounty of the ocean, I will bring it home."

"Why would the forests seek the bounty of the oceans?" Asks the whale. "They have bounty of their own."

"You forget," says the salmon, "That the oceans were once their home."

[hearnoweevil]

Last year I finally had an excuse to illustrate this simple little Tumblr story I've had bookmarked forever for class.

I hope you like it :]