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Tickbox problem solving is wrong

I believed that you can tackle a new issue only when you have solved your current one. So, if my family is dysfunctional then i have to first solve my relationship with the family and then move on to find a partner or a box.

Apparently, this "tickbox" mode of problem solving is non optimal. And you will understand this only if you focus on your life. Your life runs irrespectively of your having fixed your dysfunctional family. Solving the relations with the family is a 2 way process, and you probably will never solve the problems if there the other party is unwilling.

In the meantime your life runs and if you are focused only in solving one probles, all the other problems just pile up. And given the fact that you may no ever solve the problems with your dysfunctional family then you will have been stuck in a never ending loop. Focusing on the tree and loosing the forest.

So, in parallel of solving your problems with a family member you should focus on ur life problems like carreer, finding a suitable partner etc

#psychology #psychotherapy

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The small cafe

He sat in a quiet old cafe. He felt like George Orwell's hero. From the book 1984. The hero just before his execution.

At the end of the book, the hero was withdrawn from society and beaten by the system. He had accepted the merciless and all powerful system. And he was just an observer instead of a rebel. Just like the 1984 hero, he felt a strange, inexplicable feeling of happiness.

Back to the present and the small corner cafe.All around him, older people were discussing politics. The old man with the big belly was standing up for the government's decision to change the judiciary system. A woman correctly said "This cafe shop and its people represent society".

He thought that was absolutely true. He was sitting by himself and he was a cripple. His walking was characterized by the med professionals as "spastic-ataxic". Him the cripple, the old man with the big belly, that woman sitting laughing and the elderly talking about the stock exchange. All of them are the society. More correctly, the old, more accepting part of the society.

This part of the society was so different from the executive, high stressed professionals in the City that was used to. Or all the other company professionals fighting to pay mortgages and silently backstabbing colleagues to get a promotion. This small cafe was a place for the withdrawn, for the defeated, for the people exiting the rat race. This cafe belonged to the people outside the system.

"The future is going to be bright and cheery", shouted an drunken old man. He thought that sounded like a KPMG, a company logo. This drunk old man cry and the well contemplated company logos were so similar after all.

#george orwell #cafe #system #emotions #paralysis

Will try 30 of this modification side plank crunch each day. Tried the full exercise (with the down leg straight instead of bent). However it is too difficult #plank #sideplank #sideplankcrunch (at Alabama) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwT5UftBGH0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=xticy36c5rqp

#plank #sideplank #sideplankcrunch

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Don’t quit, because starting over sucks.

You probably have a lot of reasons not to quit, but I’ll just add another to the list.

Starting over sucks.

Yes, setbacks are annoying, but I’d rather have multiple setbacks than have to full blown start over any day.

If you think about quitting and all your other reasons just aren’t convincing you, think about how it feels to start over. That should be a good kick in tush for you.