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Janaina Medeiros
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JBB: An Artblog!
@theartofmadeline
JVL
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DEAR READER
titsay
Show & Tell
Cosmic Funnies
if i look back, i am lost
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KIROKAZE
Mike Driver
cherry valley forever
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@anastasiaparis
“I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and… I believe in miracles.” Audrey Hepburn
this year I wanna be That Skinny Bitch with great skin who parties her ass off but also works really hard and gets a lot of money and has multiple love interests but hopefully settles down
It’s not enough to have money and to accumulate things (in my opinion) without any self-improvement. I have so many horror stories of people who’ve made fortunes & dwindled it cause of dumb behavior, poor grooming & mentalities
Some things are not meant for me.. Poverty is one of them.
you are not your lowest moments and you are not your mistakes. you are not your drinking and you are not your failed relationships. you are not lost, rather you’re just in the process of finding yourself (it’s continual sweetie, it’ll be a constant process) love yourself for everything that you are, you are your own best friend
Goddess Glamour
Picture yourself as a goddess on earth, leaving a trail of gold in your wake. Your eyes are rubies and your skin is diamonds, you cast a spell over all who see you. When moving through a crowd, whisper in your mind something like “You will remember me, my beauty will haunt you in the best sort of way. I am a siren. I am calling.“
She wears strength and darkness equally well, the girl has always been half goddess, half hell.
Nikita Gill (via wordsnquotes)
If you do what you need, you’re surviving. If you do what you want, you’re living.
Unknown (via wordsnquotes)
Why would I rather be a stripper?
Because its so much easier to shrug off the judgement of my life and appearance from behind my money fan.
WOA #1: Leave no patron un-hustled
I know that un-hustled isn’t technically a word, but you catch the gist right? It basically means to hustle every patron that comes in the club. Maybe there are patrons you’ve had a bad experience with, heard bad stories about, or who just doesn’t like you for whatever reason. It’s okay to not try and hustle them because as I have asserted before, time is money and you don’t want to waste time on customers you KNOW won’t spend money on you.
I’m talking about new patrons you’ve never talked to before. It’s easy to judge a customer by their appearance and assume they won’t buy dances. I was really guilty of doing this when I first started dancing. I still do it sometimes when I’m not in the best money-making mood. I can’t tell you how many times I would pass up talking to a customer because I assumed he wouldn’t spend money and then see some other dancer going to the VIP room with him 10 minutes later. It’s even worse when they keep going back to that VIP room throughout the night. All you can do is sit there and think, “damn, that could’ve been me back there making all that money.”
You can never really know if they would’ve liked you enough to buy dances from you to begin with. Regardless, it’s always better to try even if you think you won’t get any money out of them. Think of it this way, what’s there to lose? Nothing. Okay, well maybe a little bit of time depending on how long you keep yourself there but you have to sacrifice time to get money in the first place. All I’m saying is don’t be so picky about who you hustle unless you have a legitimate reason. Sometimes, and maybe even majority of the time, the girls who hustled the most leave with the most. Just something to think about next time you’re mentally debating whether you should talk to a patron.
Remember, what could it hurt?
Future
Friends:
When I started dancing at 22, I told myself that I’d get out once I finished college and paid off my student loans. I’ve done both. I was done doing both about 3 years ago.
At 26, I realized that after accomplishing these goals, that I didn’t have everything I wanted before I quit dancing; in part because of poor financial planning, lack of hustlin’ skills and effort. I wanted to travel more and save so much more. In addition, the career that I initially chose, being a lawyer, just seemed crazy. Not because it wasn’t possible, but because after doing this job it was hard to fathom giving it up for being a lawyer…couldn’t fathom being in debt for $50,000 or more.
Not too long after that I realized because of this line of work I wanted to work for myself. So I figured I’d go to business school, learn what it takes to start a business, meet people with great ideas (because I’m not the visionary type) and then start a company from there. Even as I write that it sounds ridiculous. Let’s be real, B-school is for people who want to go into investment banking, venture capital or another one of those crazy Wall St. jobs. Jobs I wouldn’t want to do because it wouldn’t afford me the sort of lifestyle I want. And I would be participating in a system that I just don’t believe in.
I ended up taking the GMAT anyways didn’t even look at my score. Didn’t even bother thinking about the LSAT…I’m the sure the Bar would have been a nightmare too.
So those two career paths were out.
Next up, real estate – which is still on the table much later in life.
I write all this to say that I feel (felt?) pressure. Pressure that if I was still in the sex industry after 30 that I am a failure. That if I didn’t have a graduate degree before 30 that I am a failure. Personally, professionally and financially speaking of course. But is that true? (I mean this doesn’t even account for the fact that I won’t be married or have children by then, at least I hope not.)
I struggle with that. I’ve adopted this phrase: “As long as you’re happy with what you’re doing and your decisions, not hurting yourself or anyone else it’s okay.” I truly believe that. And that’s what I would tell a friend if they asked me what they think about being a sex worker after 30 or not having a first or second degree by 30.
I suppose that my two biggest concerns about my intermediate and long term future is this: if I continue dancing, will it keep me from living a full life? I want to say my answer no, of course not. I make my life the way I want it to be, regardless of the job. Full life means to me spending time doing the things I love with people I love and having the career I want. This job enables me to start building my career I do want. So, no this job won’t keep me from having a full life. However, I do worry that the career I want won’t pan out and I will have wasted my “good years” for nothing. That’s a whole other can of worms…
Next, will I make the kind of money I want? The kind of money I’m making now dancing is good, sometimes great, but it won’t lead to the financial future I want. I want to make a bunch of money, so I can retire as early as I can and travel as much as possible. The money I’d make and the time I’d have, I’d like to contribute to causes like education, the environment, healthcare and of course sex worker rights.
So…I’m preparing to stay a dancer until my dream career is fully developed enough for me to stop. That could be a 6 months from now or 6 years from now…who knows. It’s likely I’ll be dancing well into my 30s. I’ll just have to hope for the best and prepare for the worst right?
Hmm…these are the things that keep me awake at night.
xx
SN
taintedstripperlove:
Every stripper has a look and fulfills a fantasy of some sort. The faster you find your niche the more money you’ll be making. You will not be everyone’s type, be warned but the guys that will like you, will LOVE you!
Some girls instantly look sexy, and they market on that seductress look. Those…
Preach girl. Preach.
Future
Friends:
When I started dancing at 22, I told myself that I’d get out once I finished college and paid off my student loans. I’ve done both. I was done doing both about 3 years ago.
At 26, I realized that after accomplishing these goals, that I didn’t have everything I wanted before I quit dancing; in part because of poor financial planning, lack of hustlin’ skills and effort. I wanted to travel more and save so much more. In addition, the career that I initially chose, being a lawyer, just seemed crazy. Not because it wasn’t possible, but because after doing this job it was hard to fathom giving it up for being a lawyer…couldn’t fathom being in debt for $50,000 or more.
Not too long after that I realized because of this line of work I wanted to work for myself. So I figured I’d go to business school, learn what it takes to start a business, meet people with great ideas (because I’m not the visionary type) and then start a company from there. Even as I write that it sounds ridiculous. Let’s be real, B-school is for people who want to go into investment banking, venture capital or another one of those crazy Wall St. jobs. Jobs I wouldn’t want to do because it wouldn’t afford me the sort of lifestyle I want. And I would be participating in a system that I just don’t believe in.
I ended up taking the GMAT anyways didn’t even look at my score. Didn’t even bother thinking about the LSAT…I’m the sure the Bar would have been a nightmare too.
So those two career paths were out.
Next up, real estate – which is still on the table much later in life.
I write all this to say that I feel (felt?) pressure. Pressure that if I was still in the sex industry after 30 that I am a failure. That if I didn’t have a graduate degree before 30 that I am a failure. Personally, professionally and financially speaking of course. But is that true? (I mean this doesn’t even account for the fact that I won’t be married or have children by then, at least I hope not.)
I struggle with that. I’ve adopted this phrase: “As long as you’re happy with what you’re doing and your decisions, not hurting yourself or anyone else it’s okay.” I truly believe that. And that’s what I would tell a friend if they asked me what they think about being a sex worker after 30 or not having a first or second degree by 30.
I suppose that my two biggest concerns about my intermediate and long term future is this: if I continue dancing, will it keep me from living a full life? I want to say my answer no, of course not. I make my life the way I want it to be, regardless of the job. Full life means to me spending time doing the things I love with people I love and having the career I want. This job enables me to start building my career I do want. So, no this job won’t keep me from having a full life. However, I do worry that the career I want won’t pan out and I will have wasted my “good years” for nothing. That’s a whole other can of worms…
Next, will I make the kind of money I want? The kind of money I’m making now dancing is good, sometimes great, but it won’t lead to the financial future I want. I want to make a bunch of money, so I can retire as early as I can and travel as much as possible. The money I’d make and the time I’d have, I’d like to contribute to causes like education, the environment, healthcare and of course sex worker rights.
So…I’m preparing to stay a dancer until my dream career is fully developed enough for me to stop. That could be a 6 months from now or 6 years from now…who knows. It’s likely I’ll be dancing well into my 30s. I’ll just have to hope for the best and prepare for the worst right?
Hmm…these are the things that keep me awake at night.
xx
SN
Stolen from @dancer_dominique
Showgirls get rich! 💁 Duh.
1. There are lots of men who will never think that what you give them is enough and whatever they give you is more than you deserve. 2. If a customer claims he got extras from other girls but can’t give you names or descriptions of the girls who performed…
