As Olivie mentions, Elena Ferrante is the pseudonym of an author whose gifts manifest in the ability to deeply explore the internal nature of the female experience. Ferrante’s books also offer commentary on the societal and economical expectations of Naples. I have to admit, I wish I had read the Neapolitan Novels sooner, and as I post this, I’m well into book two, The Story of a New Name. I don’t even have the excuse I didn’t have access to the novels as the full set sat on my bookshelf for 1.5 years before I picked them up. Finally, I read The Days of Abandonment and The Lying Life of Adults first (Abandonment on Olivie’s recommendation) last year. Both Abandonment and Lying Life focus on specific points in the protagonists’ lives. In Abandonment, Olga must face and grieve the loss of her marriage and her sense of self, whereas in Lying Life, Giovanna is forced to reconcile the truth of her world differs from her parents. In a sense, both of these works were a warm up for what My Brilliant Friend was going to bring as the series (considered one long novel by the author) shows the long-term affects of the themes and experiences she previously dabbled with. (This isn’t to say the other two works aren’t strong or complete on their own; more so, the experience is different like running a 5K vs. a marathon. Both are races, but the tolls they take on your body differ.)
Lenù and Lila
For a book centered around a female friendship, I went in thinking the novel would be skewed due to the single first-person narrative. Ferrante’s mastery of her art shows itself in this element because although we never get a glimpse into Lila’s head, we have just as much understanding about her as we do Lenù. Their friendship begins the moment both girls decide to ascend the staircase to Don Achille’s apartment. The stairs, a symbol of the journey Lenù’s about to start us on, and Don Achille, the evil figure that haunts both their lives in some shape or form throughout the book, cement the foundation of the relationship and display the idea that some people will always be tied together. The girls are of the same age and come from a similar socioeconomic background buried deep within Neapolitan poverty so it’s easily assumed over time, a friendship would be formed. However, it’s important to note this starting point because it shows the ebb and flow of the relationship yet to come. Lenù and Lila each push the other throughout the course of My Brilliant Friend to do better, to be better. Without this union, neither of the girls would have reached their full potential. There’s also a very interesting balance. Olivie touches on this as she describes Lenù and Lila’s beginnings and adolescence: Lenù has a compulsion to be liked by everyone while Lila is disagreeable; Lenù is “good,” and Lila is “bad.” Then later, Lenù aspires to find her own identity both as a writer and outside the Neapolitan neighborhood while Lila accepts a more traditional future sequestered within the same space she’s always known.
Olivie mentioned this commonality of “teams” in the discussion of the Neapolitan Novels. For some reason, this surprises me. Lenù is an unreliable narrator, but her love of and dependence on Lila never strays from the words she writes, even if they appear unflattering on the surface. Instead, her own weakness and jealousy shows its hand. To me, the two girls were equal and forever bonded. I didn’t prefer one over the other and never once thought one was “right” and the other “wrong.” Lenù tells us at the beginning she’s angry Lila disappeared, but more so, that Lila wants to “eliminate the entire life that she had left behind” (23). Lila wants to remove their story, which is ultimately why Lenù decides to tell it. Balance is key after all.
Are you more Lenù and Lila?
Initially, when the two girls are introduced as children, I found myself identifying more with Lila. I should have realized this would change. Starting in her childhood, Lenù has a huge focus on wanting to be liked. She recognizes it as a weakness and often compares it to Lila’s no-nonsense attitude. It was here where at the depths of my being I reconciled with my own inner child because very much like Lenù, I clearly remember wanting very much to be liked. As their stories begin to diverge, first with school, and later with varying class statuses and romantic experiences, I found myself more commonly aligned with Lenù. Her thirst for knowledge, her study habits, and her uncomfortable social encounters awakened several moments from my adolescence. However, Lila’s attitude toward romantic relationships and her resolution not to fall in love sung true as well. If I had to average it from the first entry into the Neapolitan Novels, I would say I’m 65% Lenù and 35% Lila. I fully expect this to change the deeper into the series I read. I have a hard time thinking by the end I will be completely like one of the girls versus the other since they are mirror images; you can’t have one without the other, which is exactly the point Ferrante makes.
Education and Maestra Oliviera
The concept of education and what it represents is present throughout the novel. There’s an expectation that once children stop passing exams to move into higher classes or when the family’s need becomes too great, education went by the wayside. This is especially true for girls. Maestra Oliviera is an advocate not only for Lenù, but also for Lila. One of the first divisions the girls encounter is when Lenù goes into middle school, but Lila is not offered the same opportunity. As Lenù tells us: “But what could you do, it didn’t enter into his view of the world that she should continue to go to school” (70). Instead, Lila begins spending time at her father’s shoe shop to learn the trade, her thoughts and aspirations set on different things. This doesn’t alter Maestra Oliviera’s want to further Lila’s education. Through Lenù, Lila is challenged to learn Greek, Latin, and literature, meeting with Lenù frequently outside of her school hours. This separation allows Lenù to start establishing her own identity away from Lila as she no longer has her presence for comparison, but as Ferrante shows us, even if Lila is not physically there, mentally, she’s constantly in Lenù’s realm. Each of Lenù’s victories are Lila’s as they constantly collaborate. This academic partnership adds another layer to their friendship, and I found myself enjoying each moment Lenù and Lila would sit with their heads together over their shared interests. There’s a shift in Lila that becomes marked when Lenù asks her to read an article she wrote and plans to submit for publication through Nino. It’s in this moment we fully understand the fleeting questions Lenù constantly asks of Lila’s seeming disregard and carelessness for her own education. Lila knows her path must be different so she wants the best for her friend. Lenù recognizes the sadness in her friend and alters her course of action, trying to be the best, not just for herself but also for Lila.
At what point does Lila become one of “the plebes” for Oliviera? What does Oliviera dismissing Lila as a lost cause mean for Lenù?
Ferrante paints a very clear picture of what the societal expectations are for girls like Lenù and Lila: marry young, have children, and raise a family. This isn’t to say one shouldn’t strive for tradition, but Maestra Oliviera acts as a reminder that this is not all their world has to be. They can have more than tradition mandates should they want it. For me, the moment Lila agrees to marry is the moment Maestra Oliviera dismisses her as a lost cause and more so as a “plebe.”
Ferrante contrasts the news of Lila’s engagement with a visit between Maestra Oliviera and Lenù: “The beauty of mind that Cerullo had from childhood didn’t find an outlet, Greco, and it has all ended up in her face, in her breasts, in her thighs, in her ass, places where it soon fades and it will be as if she never had it” (277). For Maestra Oliviera, Lila’s acceptance into the norm of their current-day Naples separates her from ascending to something more than herself. This is still achievable for Lenù, which in turn bothers her. It’s after this moment Lenù starts questioning the relationship between Lila and her intended. She wonders to the reader if the match is right, if there is something she isn’t seeing, and why Lila doesn’t want more. On the other hand, there’s also a sense of relief for Lenù. She knows she’s Maestra Oliviera’s most successful student, but in her mind, it’s only because Lila didn’t have the same opportunity.
Mothers and Daughters
Although the focus of the narrative is on the relationship between Lenù and Lila, Ferrante spends a great deal of time showing us the familial relationships of both girls as well as the supporting cast. Lila’s mother, Nunzia, strikes me as the representation of what an Italian mother is supposed to be for the time period. She is submissive to her husband, but will stand quietly to keep the peace for her family. Lenù’s mother, on the other hand, is a force within the novel, even though she is never named. From the early moments we are introduced to her, we can see Lenù’s negative feelings: “My mother always saw evil where, to my great annoyance, it was sooner or later discovered that evil really was, and her crossed eye seemed made purposefully to identify the secret motives of the neighborhood” (59). Lenù wants a life completely opposite of what she views her mother as. The idea of becoming even the slightest bit like her is frightening.
Lenù also notes the power dynamics between her mother and Maestra Oliviera, specifically when decisions must be made for Lenù’s education and later how Lenù spends a summer. Upon first glance, these scenes show the difference in approval and respect Lenù has for both female figures in her life, but upon closer inspection, it also shows how difficult it must have been for Lenù’s mother to know how little her daughter respected her and the amount of negativity she felt toward her. Ultimately, Maestra Oliviera pushed issues into the forefront, but it is Lenù’s mother who approved them all.
Did you have any thoughts on the scene where Lenù’s mother tells her none of the boys of the neighborhood are good enough for her now? Do you agree with Lenù that this has trapped her in some way, never able to leave the neighborhood entirely, but also not one of them?
That approval is what drives Lenù’s mother in the scene where Lenù’s superior status is mentioned in comparison to the rest of the boys in their neighborhood. Although Lenù is angry and feeling restrained, she doesn’t understand her mother’s truth. Like Maestra Oliviera, her mother sees a different path for her, something beyond the neighborhood and doesn’t want to watch Lenù waste her potential. Lenù’s lack of understanding in her mother’s intentions is obvious here. Her mother isn’t trying to trap Lenù, but instead, wants to set her free. By restraining Lenù’s physical urges, her mother is keeping Lenù from an unexpected cage. Lenù regards this as the opposite: the restraint is meant to keep her in Naples. However, her recognition of not being “one of them” anymore rings true. Though, Lenù herself is reluctant to admit it. Instead, we see this displayed in her actions when she is given a choice between two social encounters.
Final Thoughts
I could talk about My Brilliant Friend for another 2000 words, but for brevity’s sake, I’ll just include some other things here:
I loved the moment when Antonio stands up to Donatello Sarratore with Lenù in tow.
Ferrante spends a lot of time discussing and displaying the normalcy of growing up with violence. There were several moments of relatability.
Lila’s focus on becoming rich alters the people around her, most notably her brother, Rino. This also sets the tone for her character arc during My Brilliant Friend.
I find Enzo’s characterization incredibly interesting from his first appearance to throwing rocks at Lila to the math competition. My favorite moment of his arc is when he defends Lila’s choices, especially as she isn’t there to defend herself.
I do NOT like Nino. Not at all. This might be my new hill.
I did NOT expect the ending to unfold the way it did. NOT AT ALL, but it was so heartbreakingly good.
Ferrante’s books have a way of hitting me unexpectedly. This was no different while reading My Brilliant Friend. It was such a reflective and deeply personal experience, so much so that Ferrante’s become one of my favorite authors and might soon land on my GOAT list. The last time I felt so much while reading a book was the first time I read Pride and Prejudice, which is my favorite book of all time.