This is a guy i blocked on badoo... i may have written a post about him. I know ive posted screen shots where I was telling my male friend about him, which led to the first penis pic my friend sent to try and help me with my reactions. This guy was firing up massive red flags of narcissism. I had told him on badoo that I wanted a relationship, However, I tend to say I would like platonic friends as I don't find myself attracted to anyone. So when I agree to meet for coffee and a chat for the first time I don't like to think of it as a date. I'm just meeting a potential new friend. This guy told me he sees it as a date and won't speak to anyone but me, he wanted to meet me, but it would be a date. If things don't work out he will move on. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that. I suggested that if we meet it just be a meeting of a new friend, he can talk to other women and date, but he did seem interesting and nice. But I have to be cautious because I've been hurt before too many times. So we just stay as friends. He was adamant that was not how he wanted to do things. So I said fine, we don't match up at all. Good luck with his search but I am not going to "commit" to someone I don't know/never met from only a few messages. He completely ignored that and began to ask where we were meeting etc etc. And I went into a panic attack. So eventually I calmed down and suggested somewhere, a coffee shop near me. However timing etc.. I am not free during the evenings. Conversation carried on and it was making me really nervous and uncomfortable. He was flipping things I was saying to try and explain my caution. I told him I was trying to learn to be confident and assertive with my boundaries given so many sexual assaults have happened to me. He then began to say things like "not all men" "he was beginning to feel uncomfortable about meeting me". So in response to that last comment I said "fine, don't meet me. It's okay with me. You contacted me, I'm explaining my caution. If that makes you uncomfortable then we don't meet." He again ignored it... really pushing to meet and also explain why I was wrong to be cautious. One more comment of "it's making me nervous about meeting you if you feel that way" and suddenly it suddenly clicked what he was doing. I had somehow been manipulated from saying no date to agreeing to date, and he was doing a lot of attempts at reverse psychology and various other things. So I blocked him without another word. That was on badoo A week or so later I joined Plenty of fish. The very same day (yesterday) who should message me acting like nothing had happened and I didn't block him on badoo but the same guy... cue panic attack. I have it utterly ingrained into me not to ignore anyone who talks to me until they show me a reason. The message itself was benign but I had blocked him in badoo and this was plenty of fish... what the hell... I had no idea what to do. So I asked my male friend, answer was to just block without responding. So i did. Covert Narcissists are my Achilles heel it seems. They throw me off and I'm vulnerable to them.













