#ask first

[this-orange-anon024]

(Irl conversation with family) :

" We don't ask for permission to kiss. Just go for it. Cause it'll ruin the moment. "

WHO'S. WE????!!!

[yaknowlikenyah]

You know that trans woman in your life? Your friend who doesn't have a ton of queer support?

Touch her.

Little gestures. Hold her hand. Play with her skin. Press your leg against hers. Cuddle on the couch. You don't realize how robbed of touch your trans sisters are. You don't realize that they might not have a group of friends that dog pile on each other or girl friends who will fix their hair for them.

Touch her.

[d4rling-boy-zhane]

Bro sometimes my classmates will randomly vlog on their Chromebooks at the most random ass times

Like I've Genuinely just been existing and randomly noticing that someone is vlogging

It only bothers me if I'm in frame or if you could like hear my voice bc wtf I didn't consent to that? It's so unnecessary😭 you could've at least made sure no one was in the background

[eat-your-milk]

Hey yall, just wanted to say-please don't criticize AO3 authors without asking first, especially when its something small and easy to ignore.

To quote another comment that I got a while back, saying-

'However, I did notice some grammar and punctuation errors (it wasn't distracting but I'm in honors English so I notice this stuff). There were some sentences you could've combined, misplaced commas, and a missing apostrophe at the beginning.'

-Is just so unhelpful and disheartening to me.

Like I get that you are coming to me with the best intentions, but ASK me first if I even want it. Because, chances are I already know it is a problem and I just haven't had time to fix it.

Now, I don't want this to detract from actual solicited criticism. If you ask beforehand and I say yes? PLEASE tell me what's wrong! I do want to improve with feedback, and as someone with severe ADHD, I have a really hard time catching spelling errors. (and if it actually is a severe problem that makes it unreadable? Go for it!)

But this? It just about destroys my want to write. I was preparing to release a chapter yesterday, but one comment I received yesterday really just blew away all of my drive (even though I know they didn't mean to). I have enough criticism for my own writing (especially for my older stuff). In fact, I severely struggle with even posting anything at all. I battle with deleting my fics every day because I feel like they aren't good enough on a regular basis.

Please remember, I am basically reteaching myself how to write from the ground up right now, and I am sorry that you have to witness that journey. I will improve, and when I reach a stopping point in my fic, I will fix paragraph spacing and minor misspellings.

Just don't come up in my fic and point out every little thing that's wrong without asking first, even if you have the best intentions!

I know its silly and stupid to whine about this but, it really just does get to me, even if its not intended to harm. I write fanfic to write what I want with my favorite characters and to learn more about writing as I go. I am not trying to make a flawless novel to sell. (of course, I will try to make it as flawless as I can, but this is fanfic, not the New York Best Sellers list.)

I don't need to doubt myself anymore than I already do.

[donniesbabygirl28]

Any requests for Matt Dillon characters? (Also I will not be doing Matt Dillon but I am doing Matt Dillon CHARACTERS)

Also if I gotta say one more time to ASK BEFORE REBLOGGING MY POSTS. I hate that sm.

Only people that FULLY have my permission is @the-greasers-angel, @dljcem and @heyitstial

Thank you <3

[coulsonlives]

People don't understand that for a lot of artists, their sketchpads and books are as personal as a diary. Like it's a place where they can dump their weird ideas and shit, sometimes without even thinking. Of course artists can get upset when people go through their sketchbooks without asking, would people be okay if someone went through their diary without asking

[radiosaturday]

Not interested in discourse about this but I really wish people would stop inviting me to stuff that's for "women and nonbinary people." Like friend, an explicit part of my gender is Not a Woman. I'm glad you're trying to be inclusive to people who might want that space, but it ain't me.