This has been the hardest guy to get over!! (Other than your long term relationship obvi) Bc of the sex probably but you are starting to get over it! It’s officially been a week, your delusion is fading of him coming back.
I honestly can’t think of anything bad to say about him. Honestly he is such a nice guy other than the fact that he fucked and planned on not seeing me again BUT I’ll let that slide bc maybe he realized after that hang out that it won’t work. He was super tired. Maybe he needs to focus on working and stuff.
Either way, there’s nothing really about him to latch onto girl. You like him so much bc you like yourself. You are fun me bubbly and cute.
When he came over that night and you were talking and being bubbly his energy wasn’t matching. He even said he was bringing down my vibe AND he said “you’re being adorable” when I said I was yapping. So maybe he can see that I’m too fun for him or something rn bc he was so tired and didn’t have the energy to really give me much. The last hang out was kinda weird I must admit. I think I’m still just latching on to our conversations before this. When he told me he enjoyed talking to me and the paragraphs we sent and how we spent 4 hours talking on our first date. But really most of that was me! You are the conversationist. You held this all up. And once he realized he couldn’t hold any convo with me bc of HIM, he broke it off. Maybe he is avoidant too and depressed so he didn’t have the energy to even try with me.
I kept asking to hang out and he couldn’t keep up with that. The weekend fucks weren’t gonna cut it with me anymore and he could see that. I do need someone more present(his words) even if he was just trying to be nice, it’s true. He wasn’t present and he could see that! He wasn’t matching my energy for whatever reason. I’ve done all I could. I was fun and sexy and stroked his ego plenty, he doesn’t wanna talk anymore, I can’t control that. It is what it is. I left the situation with grace and that’s all I can do at this point. You are a healthy individual. You can’t and worn beg and man to want you. Even if I tried to hit him up again, I’d be chasing and begging and they hate that and I don’t deserve that either.
Start talking to other ppl. He’s not the only white guy in the word with good dick lol. (Not that you exclusively want a white guy) but tbh there wasn’t much special about him. You can find any there guy like that, green flags and all. That actually wants you.
It’s ok. Just keep putting yourself out there. Sometimes ppl will reject you. It’s ok.
The one thing I will change though is I won’t have sex so early on. I know that doesn’t promise anything…although…wouldn’t having sex earlier make me less attached since I won’t know him as well so if he leaves it whatever??
Hmm nah, don’t have sex so early!! That’s the one lesson I can learn from this. That was technically the second date…too soon