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It's not weird or bad if I kinda feel like I boy but continue living as a girl for the sake of convenience, is it? It's not like I completely feel like a guy, I still feel like a girl too. But is it OK if I don't come out as nb or anything?
I really hope this hasn’t been sitting here for weeks or something because I never got a notification.
If you’re comfortable not coming out, you don’t need to. There’s no reason you have to come out if you don’t want to.
hi! so the mods here at qla have decided that since not all our readers are native english speakers, it would be in everyone’s best interests to start a collection of gender-neutral pronouns across all languages. if you don’t see your language or pronouns on the list (within reason, for accessibility purposes we can’t include every english variant of a pronoun), please let us know and include conjugations if possible! thank you!
for further expansions on grammar you can check the posts in the pronoun project tag:)
arabic ( عربي )
هما (they, originally dual, can work as a neutral singular third person)
انتما (second person dual)
bulgarian (български език)
те/тях/техен/им (generally used for a group of people, could be used as singular as in “they”)
то/него/негово/му (means “it”, informal)
chinese (中文)
mandarin/普通话: 他 or 她 (tā) - only the pronunciation is gender-neutral unfortunately, the characters are gendered
cantonese/广州话: 佢 (keoi5/keúih) - them/him/her/it
它 - also tā, but means “it”. ask before using as it could be derogatory
牠 - ta1, used for non-human animals
add 們 (men) to either for plural, add 的 (de) to make it possessive
那个人 (simplified) 那個人 (traditional) (na4ge4ren2- that person) and 这个人 (simplified) 這個人 (traditional) (zhe4ge4ren2- this person)
czech/čeština
onikání, which was used in the past as gender-neutral pronoun when refering to someone of lesser status. it’s oni/je/jejich/se they/them/their/themself and the use is: Oni jsou moc milým člověkem. - They are a very nice person.
danish/dansk
de/dem/deres
hen/hen/hens
dutch/nederlands
zij/hen/hun
ze/hun/ze - (note: literal translation of they, but ze is often used as “she”)
english
they/them/theirs
ze/zem/zeirs
xe/xem/xeirs (xyr)
hir/hirs/hirself
spivak: e/em/eir
esperanto
ri
Ŝli - combination of he/she, generally used like “they” in english
estonian/eesti keel
tema/teda/tema (formal)
ta/teda/tema
farsi
او
finnish/suomen kieli
se/sen (means it, informal)
hän/hänen (formal)
french/le français
ol/mo - ex: ol s’appelle Bidule et c’est mo pote.
ille (referring to oneself), ceulle (referring to someone else)
eux (sometimes used as a subject-position instead of object-position)
georgian/kartuli/ქართული
ის / იმან / იმის (is / iman / imis) = they / them / their
german/deutsch
xier/xieser/dier
xier/xies/xiem/xien
sie_er
er_sie
sier
es
sie_r
si_er
x
sie*
er*
greek/ελληνικά
αυτοί / εκείνοι ( are these the ones that mean it?? let me know so i can take them down)
αυτ@, εκείν@ (singular) φίλ@ς (plural) - not pronounceable, good for writing though
hebrew/’lvrit/עִבְרִית
there aren’t actually any gender neutral pronouns in hebrew sadly. the first set is all male pronouns and the second one is all female. like the word ze (זה) is male for ‘it’ and it has a female form which is ‘zo’ (זו). atzmam (עצמם) is plural male (but it is used sometimes as neutral tbh). also the second set is only female pronouns for she, her, hers and herself
also about the plurals, you need to add either ם or ן to make these words plural either in a male or female form, like the plural words aren’t actual words it needs to be עצמם\שלהם\אותם\הם and it’s the male form you just need to replace it with ן to make it female but people use these as gender neutral pretty often because that’s the closest you would get
icelandic/islenska
hín/hín/híni/híns
hé/hé/hé/hés
það - equivalent of “it”, ask before using, could be derogatory
hán/hán/háni/háns - mix of binary pronouns
when referring to an individual of an unspecified gender, use viðkomandi instead of hann/hún
ilokano/Ti Pagsasao nga Iloko
isuna (singular they), na (singular their), kaniana/kenkuana (singular theirs), isuda (plural they), da (plural their), kaniada/kadakuwada (plural theirs)
indonesian/bahasa indonesia
dia (third person singular), mereka (third person plural)
irish/gaeilge
sibh/siad
italian
????
latvian/latviešu valoda/lettish
viņi/viņu/viņiem
lithuanian/lietuvių kalba
Jie/Jų/Jiems/Juos/Jais/Juose
malay/bahasa melayu/bahasa malaysia
dia
michif
wiya
norwegian/norsk
dem/dem/deres
hen/hen(henom)/hens(henoms)
hin/hin/hins
sir/sir/sirs
portuguese/lingua portuguesa/português
el@/del@
elx/delx
elæ/delæ
punjabi
all pronouns are neutral (he/she: “uha usa” or ਉਹ ਉਸ; him/her: “usa” or “usanū” which is ਉਸ or ਉਸਨੂੰ; his/hers: “usadā” or ਉਸਦਾ). also, the pronouns “he” & “she” in english both translate to “vah” (वह) in hindi. however, the rest of the pronouns are gendered. verbs are also generally gendered.
russian/ру́сский язы́к
ох/ех/ех/ем/их/ниx
slovak/slovenský jazyk
oni/nich/im/ich/nimi
slovenian/slovenščina
oni/z njimi/njim (they/with them/to them). Now if you want to say: I want to help them - you don’t use ‘njim’ but ‘jim’. (Želim jim pomagati; Pomagati jim želim.)
spanish/español/castilano/castellano
Pronouns that can be written and pronounced:
Ella/la/-a (binary feminine): “Ella es la niña linda”
Él/el/-o (binary masculine): “Él es el niño lindo”
Elle/le/-e (neutral): “Elle es le niñe linde”
Ello/lo/-o (neutral, similarly to the english ‘it’ can be very offensive so please be careful and don’t use it unless you are told to do so): “Ello es lo niño lindo”
Elli/li/-i (neutral, cacophonic and uncommon): “Elli es li niñi lindi”
Ellu/lu/-u (neutral, cacophonic and uncommon): “Ellu es lu niñu lindu”
Pronouns that can be written but not pronounced:
Ellx/lx/-x: “Ellx es lx chicx lindx” (I don’t know who told you otherwise, but this can be used by both poc and white folks)
Ell*/l*/-*: “Ell* es l* niñ* lind*”
Ell@/l@/-@: “Ell@ es l@ niñ@ lind@”
Ell_/l_/-_: “Ell_ es l_ niñ_ lind_”
Ellæ/læ/-æ: “Ellæ es læ niñæ lindæ”
swedish/svenska
hen/hen(henom)/hens(henoms) - variations are in parentheses, gender-neutral third person personal pronouns
den/den/dens (dess) (means ‘it’)
de/dem (dom)/deras
tagalog
Singular/Plural siya/sila (they) niya/nila (them/their) (sa) kanya/(sa) kanila (theirs/preposition them)
turkish/türkçe
o/onlar
welsh/cymraeg/y gymraeg
nhw/nhw/eu
multilingual pronouns list
experimenting w gender identity is always something to be encouraged. transness is not a precious commodity. it’s not something u can appropriate. and even if u discover that you’re actually cis, that you feel most comfortable as a cis boy or girl, exploring gender will always teach u something new and important about yourself.
you’re not a “transtrender” if u aren’t or haven’t always been completely confident in your transness. u and your identity are 1000% valid.
Hello I am currently in possession of a binder that is a couple sizes too big for me! I am in a M size binder myself and this one I bought is too big for me. It would probably fit someone who wears Larges or XL sizes!
Since this blog is dedicated to helping the lgbtqia community and since it is a school project that I need 300+ followers to be “successful”, I’m doing a binder giveaway for my followers.
Condition of binder: new, recently washed with Armin Hammer Sensitive Skin detergent (please do not reblog giveaway post if you are allergic to said detergent) tried on 2 (once to see it didn’t fit and once to take these pictures)
rules
must be following me my-lgbtq-project
must be in need of binder for gender/dysphoria reasons (not for cosplay)
only reblog will ocunt but you may like this post to bookmark it
if under 18 must have parent consent to give away address for shipping
will not ship overseas, must be within the US
this post must get at lease 1k notes
winner will be picked randomly giveaway ends late april (date undecided)
if u find urself not wanting 2 label ur sexuality or gender that is totally ok, u can be like a ufo, super cool and unidentifiable.
Please I beg you
If your kids think that they’re trans
Let them take puberty blockers
It’s completely reversible
Puberty is not
Do it for the children
had no idea these were even a thing
Glad to help
hey tumblr allow me to drop some knowledge on you about this subject
There are two drugs that suppress puberty: leuprolide and histrelin. If your insurance does not cover these - and there is about a 50% chance that they won’t - you have options.
The thing is, this shit is expensive. Leuprolide (brand name Lupron) is a shot that you can take either monthly or every three months. If you’re buying it out of pocket, monthly it costs about $1200. So over the course of the year that is going to cost you about 14 grand. Holy shit.
Histrelin (brand name Supprelin LA) is a once yearly implant that goes under the skin of your arm. It costs anywhere between $15000 and $18000 depending on your pharmacy. Holy fucking crap.
BUT! There is an alternative. See, Supprelin LA was specifically designed to suppress puberty in children. Histrelin *also* comes in an implant called Vantas. It’s indicated by the FDA for treating cancer in adults (suppressing testosterone and estrogens is very important for some cancers) but it is the EXACT SAME DRUG.
The Vantas implant is available from Walgreens Specialty Pharmacy in Oregon for $3200. I know that that’s still pricy, but compared to the alternatives, it is a godsend. That’s $3200 for an entire year - and often longer - of hormone suppression therapy. (There’s no consensus on how long exactly the implants last. We’ve seen them last up to 18 months.) The procedure to put it in is simple. No general anesthesia, only local. It can be done at the endocrinologist’s office and takes about 20 minutes. I’ve assisted with over a hundred of these.
I’m not a shill, I don’t work for the company that makes Vantas. But I’m posting this because the vast majority of doctors don’t know about this drug. It was designed for adults and is marketed for adults. But it is the exact same drug they use for children and at a fraction of the cost.
So there you have it, tumblr. Signal boost this shit. Help some kids with crappy insurance afford their treatment.
(credentials - I work at the office of a pediatric endocrinologst - one of only two in the entire state of Arizona that does hormone suppression therapy for transgender children. I’m happy to answer questions if anybody has any.)
I’m making aromantic awareness flyers for Valentine’s day. What do you guys think? Are there any better statements I could put on them that are positive and informative at the same time?
hey if you think youre Not Cis but you don't think you "qualify"
transness and gender variance aren’t pissing contests to see who’s most dysphoric or best fits the image of cisnormative ideas of trans people, don’t be afraid to explore your gender just because someone is wrongfully acting like a gatekeeper to the community
Although we have a list of resources on our main page (as well as a booklist, FAQ, and links to all of our original articles arranged by topic), we thought we’d put together a quick list of resources on popular topics we’ve recently gotten questions about.
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Variations in Gender Dysphoria
Cassandra has made a useful infographic that can be used to understand the nuances of gender dysphoria. It helps gender variant people understand that there are several sides to dysphoria, and that each and every one of them may vary in strength.
The infographic was originally inspired by this article by Darah Hoofman-Fox.
In our recent study of gender variance, we found that 59% of the respondents reported some kind of dysphoria. This also applies to crossdressers and crossdreamers. 30% reported strong or severe dysphoria.
See also Crossdream Life discussion!
This is so important, I was experiencing dysphoria for a long time before I realized it because most of what I felt was social dysphoria. Once I realized it and accepted it was when I realized how I felt about my gender identity and realized I was nonbinary so please reblog this it could help someone confused and lost out!
IF YOU NEED BREASTS
These are artificial simulation breasts! What they do is give you the look of breasts! I know surgeries are expensive and many women struggle with the chest area, so this is perfect. There are two kinds!
First: $52.98 , comes with clear straps.
Second: $34.92, comes in various cup sizes.
Fun fact: you’re allowed to change your mind on how you identify. We are all changing and discovering who we are. Just because you identified as one thing before doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to change your mind as you learn more about yourself.
HERMIT SAMS BINDING FAQ!!
I have noticed we have been getting many questions in regards to binding. Here I will try to answer some of the more frequently asked questions!
First of all The DON’Ts of binding!
Don’t use ace bandages or tape!- I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH! It can constrict you more and more with each breath. You can break ribs and cause major long term damage! We already made an entire post telling the dangers (TW: injury)
Don’t bind for more than 8 hours at a time.
If your binder is causing you serious pain then take a break. Even high quality binders have the possibility to cause bruising so listen to your body. If you still feel as you are in pain, go to the hospital. Especially if it’s effecting your breathing
If its your first time using a binder, take it slow. Wear it in short installments so your body can get used to it! Don’t push yourself too hard!
Q: Where do I buy a binder?
A: There are many places to get them from. However make sure they are a reputable source. Here are just a few.
Underworks- I personally use them and find they work pretty well. They come in sizes (XS-3XL)
gc2b- This company is LGBTAQ+ owned and sizes run from (XXS-5XL)HERE is there tumblr
Loveboat- Comes in sizes (XS-XL3)
Q: I can’t afford a binder. Where can I get one?
A: If you can’t afford a binder here are some programs to get one:
Big Brothers Used Binder Program
In A Bind
Binder Boys
Replace the Ace
Come As You Are’s Binder Bucks Recycling Program (for people in Canada)
Also keep a look out on the tumblr tags for binder giveaways, they happen pretty often so keep you eyes peeled!
Q: Can I make one DIY style?
A: You sure can! If you can’t afford a binder making one is a good cheap alternative.
How to make a binder at home, How to make one from a camisole top, How to make one with fabric you buy
Q: How do I know what binder size to get?
A: Well, depending on where you get your binder the measurements per size may differ. So Always check the site. They usually have a sizing chart listed there along with a diagram on where to measure.
Q: I am in-between measurements. Should I get the larger or smaller binder?
A: Get the larger one. You don’t want your binder to be too small because this can cause you damage!
Q: Is there any proper care that you should do after taking off your binder?
A: A good thing to do after binding is to raise your arms over your head and give a few sharp coughs, this will release the mucus in your chest that can build up from binding. After this, put on some loose fitting comfortable clothing such as a large baggy shirt or hoodie.
Q: Have any advice for first time binders? Kind of a how to properly use them?
A: When binding don’t be afraid to re-arrange things to make you feel more comfortable. Reach in from the neck hole and push your breasts down and out. I know binders may not be the most comfortable thing but to make binding more comfortable, and to reduce the possibility of the binder moving around a bit, some people wear a light shirt underneath.
Q: Any good ways to get a binder without coming out?
A: What I have personally done is asked a friend to buy it for me (I give them the cash and they use their card). If you don’t have a credit card you can get a pre-paid one! You can often find these at any gas station or grocery store. Also ask if you can send it to their house and then you can just get it from them. This way you can avoid it being shipped to your house and your parents getting to it before you do.
Q: How do I wash my binder?
A: Wash it in the cold cycle of your washing machine, and hang on a hanger to air dry. If you have to hide the fact you bind then you can hand wash it.
To hand wash it you can do it in the sink, tub or in a bucket, get a little bit of laundry detergent. Use your hands to was it thoroughly and then you run it under the tap to get the soap out. Then just hang it to dry. Here is a video on how to do it. (volume warning for the video though)
Q: I am a cis female, is it ok if I still wear a binder?
A: Yes, anyone can wear a binder. It can make people feel more comfortable with themselves and many people use it for cosplay. HOWEVER please don’t enter giveaways that are meant for trans/nb people who are in desperate need of these binders. Seriously.
I hope you all find this informative and helpful! xoxo
-Hermit Sam
****BINDER GIVEAWAY****
as some of you know, I had top surgery this past December. that has left me with 9 SIZE SMALL binders from underworks, some ripped and some not. the tips on all of the ripped ones are down by the bottom. I know that a ripped binder and be better than no binder.
-4 non ripped tan -3 ripped black, 1 ripped tan -1 swim binder, perfect condition
some are pretty worn out and used, but some I only wore a couple times. a month from today, February 17th, I will be picking randomly out of all of the notes 4 afab trans people that I will send the binders to. reblog, like, and all those things as much as you would like.
in no particular order, 1st winner - 1 swim binder, 1 ripped black, 1 non ripped tan 2nd winder - 1 ripped tan, 1 non ripped tan 3rd winner - 1 ripped black, 1 non ripped tan 4th winner - 1 ripped black, 1 non ripped tan
good luck!! (if this only gets like 4 notes i will delete it)
TRANS PEOPLE OF COLOR UNITE
This is a new blog idea that I have been toying around with for a long time. Basically this blog is for transgender/gender-variant/nb people of color. This will be a support page and educational page involving the intersection of race and transness. I also want to post pictures/selfies of trans/nb poc, so submissions are open and I will be tracking the tag #genderfuckedbrownkids I hope I can make this a useful thing for people and gather resources specific to us.
This was in my psychology book. I thought it might be useful to those who can’t think if gender-neutral terms.
Finally I see something going against the implied language that suggests the male gender is the default gender, illustrated by “man-made, mankind” etc,
Undo androcentrism.
