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Sideblog. Learning to love myself bit by bit Adores the rain. This blog is a mix of dark aesthetics, and anti pro ana. I'm absolutely against the promotion of eating disorders. Recovery is hard but living with a disorder is harder. My asks and messages are always open! Free, confidential Eating Disorder Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 take note that I'm not a licensed doctor. I'm just doing my best to help. ❤ Personal tag is #Rainytalks. var sc_project=11762456; var sc_invisible=1; var sc_security="16ba14b3"; var sc_remove_link=1;

[anti-pro-destruction]

Hey I’d just like to put out there this book I read recently and it actually changed my life and it’s one of the best books I’ve ever read it’s Body positive power by Megan Jayne Crabbe (not sponsored lmao) she also has a bopo insta which makes me feel a lot better about my body and diet culture @ bodyposipanda ❤️❤️❤️

The official site, check it out!

Some details about the book and what it containsI’ve actually never heard of the book personally but it sounds like a really good read!! It can be ordered online from Amazon too from what I’m aware and seems like it contains some incredibly helpful and inspiring messages. (Just from reading about the contents in the link above I’m pretty much sold, take a look!)The book has (and im quoting directly from the website here) “trigger warnings placed throughout to protect anyone currently in recovery.“That’s something I really barely ever see in books so I’m so happy that exists! But still keep in mind that some of the content in this book could potentially be a trigger, for anyone who thinks they might be sensitive to that despite the warnings.From what I’ve read on the site (I really want to read the full thing soon) I really can’t fault it, so please check it out!!

@ bodyposipanda’s instagram

ok I’m still surprised I haven’t heard of this person before so thank you so much for sending this ask but 1. They are so…beautiful I am this image rn2. Their posts are so wonderful and positive while still staying realistic and not sugarcoating anything which I absolutely love3. All their posts about diet culture are so hard-hitting and I love them like….call them OUT4. Please PLEASE if you don’t look at the book just check out this insta page I promise you won’t regret it

thank you so much again for sending this ask, I’m happy to learn that this is a thing that exists and I’m glad that it’s helped!! Please give this wonderful person’s account and work a look, everyone! 🖤

[whatcouldbereal]

Omg her Instagram and all the people she celebrates on it! Beautiful! Just as a warning to anyone checking out her Instagram, the posts are super positive but some of the comments are not. As is with most body positive places people come in just to spew hatred. So if you’re sensitive to that kind of negativity maybe don’t read the comments just the posts

[scretladyspider]

Pro ana and Pro mia disgust me. But not necessarily because young, impressionable people see the content, and not necessarily because pictures of strangers and fetishized for their body types and thinness. 

But because we live in a world where girls constantly hear BE SMALLER even if they’re absolutely tiny.

Because thinness is prioritized over health. 

Because there are girls right now crying in dressing rooms because they’re popping out of the shorts they wanted or the swimsuit they thought would look cute.

Because there’s so much pressure to be thin that people turn to abusing their bodies by starvation and vomiting because they’re just so desperate for the cries of BE SMALLER to stop. 

Because when my bulimia is active, I can never be sick enough. Even with heart palpitations and fainting I cannot be sick enough. I could lose 100 pounds and never be sick enough.

Because it’s horrifying to glamorize the deadliest psychiatric illness of all time, and yet we see it in movies with our thin-pressured actresses, in music, in fashion. 

Because it’s a huge deal for a store to offer all sizes for the same price. 

Because when we hear “you look healthy” we hear “you’re fat” and when we hear “you look thin” we hear “you’re valued”. 

Because we live in a world where eating disorders are so normalized they regularly kill. 

Because no one deserves to go through that, and a desperate person may think, “this is an option. This is a new me.”

Because the American Dream Girl Version involves a high powered working THIN woman who cooks extravagant dinners but barely eats them. 

Because it is a revolution for a woman to love her body. 

Because pro-ana and pro-mia reinforce these ideals. And these ideals are everywhere. And anorexia and bulimia and OSFED and binge eating disorder all kill. 

And it is dangerous that such a thing has become so utterly normal.

[anti-pro-destruction]

not eating means no energy and no energy means not being able to play with small doggies bc ur too weak so please look after your bodies ok do it for the doggies who want to play with u

[suchlovelybones]

I ❤️ you Watson. You are sometimes the only reason I get out of bed in the morning.

[anti-pro-destruction]

This is the best addition to this post I could have gotten thank you so much I love him/her

[anti-pro-destruction]

Hey I’d just like to put out there this book I read recently and it actually changed my life and it’s one of the best books I’ve ever read it’s Body positive power by Megan Jayne Crabbe (not sponsored lmao) she also has a bopo insta which makes me feel a lot better about my body and diet culture @ bodyposipanda ❤️❤️❤️

The official site, check it out!

Some details about the book and what it containsI’ve actually never heard of the book personally but it sounds like a really good read!! It can be ordered online from Amazon too from what I’m aware and seems like it contains some incredibly helpful and inspiring messages. (Just from reading about the contents in the link above I’m pretty much sold, take a look!)The book has (and im quoting directly from the website here) “trigger warnings placed throughout to protect anyone currently in recovery.“That’s something I really barely ever see in books so I’m so happy that exists! But still keep in mind that some of the content in this book could potentially be a trigger, for anyone who thinks they might be sensitive to that despite the warnings.From what I’ve read on the site (I really want to read the full thing soon) I really can’t fault it, so please check it out!!

@ bodyposipanda’s instagram

ok I’m still surprised I haven’t heard of this person before so thank you so much for sending this ask but 1. They are so…beautiful I am this image rn2. Their posts are so wonderful and positive while still staying realistic and not sugarcoating anything which I absolutely love3. All their posts about diet culture are so hard-hitting and I love them like….call them OUT4. Please PLEASE if you don’t look at the book just check out this insta page I promise you won’t regret it

thank you so much again for sending this ask, I’m happy to learn that this is a thing that exists and I’m glad that it’s helped!! Please give this wonderful person’s account and work a look, everyone! 🖤

[anti-pro-destruction]

Do you have any advice for, when you're trying to work on eating a normal amount again, but your stomach is small and it makes you feel nauseated?

Sorry, this reply is very late coming!!! I’m not sure how long ago this was sent, but I’ll do my best to reply anyway…I hope you’re doing alright.

I had this problem too quite a bit. I’m not by any means a doctor so I really couldn’t give you a hugely scientific answer, but I’ll share what I know.So one thing to note is that it does take time, and it should be done slowly so that you don’t become too overwhelmed. Your stomach didn’t shrink very small just overnight, (presumably) it happened after months or even years of restriction. The same applies here- your stomach won’t go back to a normal capacity and stretch just overnight, so it definitely won’t be able to handle big meals at first and that’s normal!!

It kinda depends on whether or not you’re in a dangerous physical situation and need to urgently gain weight, or if you’re at the stage of recovery where the healthy weight just needs to be maintained. But regardless, it might help to take things slowly, and in small steps. Eating smaller meals every few hours, rather than 2 or 3 big meals per day, might help. You’ll be able to work up to eating bigger meals over time as you adjust. Do make sure if you can, though, that regardless of meal size you’re eating a wide variety of foods with all the nutrients needed (I can go on about what foods to eat but that’s another answer I guess,,,)

Setting a daily meal plan helps for a lot of people too- it helps you to organise things more and will stop you going off track or just forgetting to eat. (which happens!!) it gives you something to go from and will likely make things easier and less confusing at first. Think of food as medicine,, like it’s necessary for you to eat it to recover.

But tldr, eating smaller meals more often throughout the day might help, and work upwards in small steps. This worked for me, but it could be different for others, as everyone works differently I think…Best of luck and stay safe 🖤

[myprivatejournal101]

Me when people refer to “ana” as a person/goddess:

[anti-pro-destruction]

not eating means no energy and no energy means not being able to play with small doggies bc ur too weak so please look after your bodies ok do it for the doggies who want to play with u

[anti-pro-destruction]

No really why does this actually have so many notes

[anti-pro-destruction]

Just joined the community. My ED isn’t bad yet... i read one of your posts about this not being worth it and immediately deleted my blog. Thank you.

Hi, sorry for the very slow reply!!! I know you probably sent this a long time ago

I’m really glad to hear that my blog was able to help. On one hand, I guess the community can be very supportive, and make you feel less alone. But it can also force you deeper into your illness and discourage you from recovery too, which is why deleting your blog was a brave step to take.

Please take care of yourself. Again, I know this is probably coming super late so I hope that you’re doing alright wherever you are at now. 🖤

[anti-pro-destruction]

I hope you're doing well

I'm doing just fine now thank you for the concern though. I really appreciate it 🖤I've been busy with some difficult exams that took up nearly every second of my time last year, as well as some other things. Sorry that I wasn't able to come online here more often. I hope you're doing well too

[anti-pro-destruction]

hello

[inkskinned]

It’s a real strange experience to find out what other people’s favorite pictures of you are. You get so focused on the right angle and how sharp your jaw is and if you look like you’re posing naturally. Your favorite is where you’re ethereal or otherworldly or just the best version of who you want to be.

But then your best friend says it’s the one where the two of you are looking at a flower, the one you hate because your arms look bad and your chin is one with your neck. And your sister likes the one of you in the car, asleep with your mouth open, with greasy hair. Your mom likes “all of them, sweetie” but she particularly likes any you smile in.

It’s strange because what we want to show the world - perfection, beauty, effortless picturesque moments - they’re not what our loved ones look for.

They like what they see because it’s usually the real you, the one they love, the ugly unkempt unposed one. They love that you get so excited about nature and that you fall asleep on every car trip. They love your joy, and the way real smiles look, the silly moments and unflattering angles and all of it.

For a long time this plagued me. I can’t fucking take a good picture of myself.

But the other day I was looking through photos of my friends; thinking about what I liked and they didn’t. I liked the one where, yeah, she wasn’t quite twisted to the camera - but there was this glint in her eye I’m so familiar with. The one where he’s blurry in the snow but his smile is obvious anyhow. The one where she’s dancing in her bathing suit, full of abandon. The ones where it’s the memory that matters; candids under out of focus fireworks, overexposed kisses, left-the-flash-on at the top of a mountain.

I mean, I don’t think I’ll ever love my friends less just because they post an ugly picture. They could post a million of them and I’d still be down to hang in the morning. The idea that I’ll somehow become disgusted with them just for an ugly selfie is silly, selfish. Shallow. And not gonna happen.

So how come I expect them to leave just because I don’t always photograph like the epitome of beauty.

[inkskinned]

you know what? fuck it, man. the world is held in the fists of people who like to break things. at this point i’m saying who gives a shit. wear that victorian dress you don’t have an excuse for. dress up like a witch, pointed hat and all. who cares anymore. why worry about it when there’s bigger stuff to worry on. i’m saying. yeah, this lipstick is too dark, wanna share? i’m saying go talk to her, tell her that you like her hair. i’m saying she’s out of my league but i’m still swinging, i’m saying yeah i’m in a ballgown and it’s a pta meeting. what about it. eat the extra brownie, tell her your feelings. i’m saying if nothing matters than we might as well give nothing meaning.

[hellalowselfesteem]

This is so inspiring

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follow for more optimist nilihism

[anti-pro-destruction]

I'll bring this blog back to life and make it more active

[anti-pro-destruction]

Has anyone here heard this song before? I'm very surprised I haven't. I stumbled across it tonight on youtube, and I think it's quite interesting. I like it though. Please give it a listen. Trigger warning in advance for mentions of disordered eating.

[kaerlighedsbrev-deactivated2020]

following thinspo isnt very punk rock of u

[anti-pro-destruction]

Hello

It's been a while. I hope you're all having a safe and peaceful day

[astroparker-deactivated20200523]

Reminders:

Do not rely on social media for validation. These likes don’t determine your worth.

Want revenge? Move on. Be indifferent.

Detach from toxic people in your life. It’s okay, I promise.

I know you a lot of you put others first, but honey I promise it’s more than okay to prioritize yourself.

“Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean me first, it means me too.”

Respect yourself.

Let go of what you can’t control, don’t let yourself worry and stress over things out of reach.

If it won’t affect you in a year, it doesn’t matter now.

Drama is unnecessary, regardless of what it’s about. Drop it and move on honey. You’re already twelve steps ahead of those still being petty and bitter. Those are ugly traits.

You never know what someone else is going through, try to be more compassionate, empathetic, and open minded, regardless of who you’re talking to.  

It’s okay to be a work-in-progress, not all masterpieces were constructed overnight.

Don’t settle for less than you deserve.

Drink some tea. Drink some water. Drink some coffee. Drink something that’ll hydrate you and/or calm you.

You’re more powerful than you think.

If you have an argument with someone, sometimes it’s best to let it go. Don’t waste your positive energy on people that only bring you negativity.

On that note, take note of who makes you feel negatively, and remove yourself from those relationships.

Take care of yourself.

You’re enough.

You’re loved.

Your well being is important.

You are important.