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Could you remove the posts about sweetrenee cause it seems you are participating in bullying given what we know about that person who said it you. There is no need to be petty and just let it go.
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shoutout to my east asian mlm for living with near constant fetishization based on both race and orientation from kpop/jpop idol fans and “sinful” anime pairing shippers.
you are so much more than just your ethnicity and sexuality.
you don’t have to be forced into these boxes.
you are so much more than the media’s representation of you.
okay like. supposedly being interested in m/m relationships, or even a specific m/m relationship because you like the specific dynamic depicted is fetishizing. because it’s only acceptable to take an interest in any m/m relationship if you’re a man who likes men, apparently. BUT then also m/f relationships are supposedly relatable and accessible to everybody???
or maybe.
just maybe.
that’s a bullshit argument used to shut down enthusiasm for anything that isn’t heteronormative as well as to shame a group of what is perceived to be young women and girls. because any time young women like anything at all, however harmless or even positive and uplifting, that thing is relentlessly mocked and derided as shallow and ridiculous.
this post has so much going on that i guess i gotta write a whole essay so here we go
as a gay man, i can say with full and total confidence that more often than not, women’s consumption of our relationships, and our sex lives, and our trauma is fetishistic. it’s not about fighting heteronormativity. it’s really not that deep.
finding another man loving man in fandom is incredibly difficult, especially in shipping circles. i’ve been in the tumblr business for almost seven years, and i’ve met maybe 1 or 2 guys total who write slash besides me. slash fiction is dominated almost entirely by women and woman-aligned people, and it’s been this way for a very long time. even a good amount of smutty slash fanzines in the 70s-90s were written by women who liked to write about boys fucking. when i met another guy who wrote slash fanfic, i was completely shocked. it had taken 6 or so years to meet him, and i was completely bowled over. and i just thought “boys don’t write about boys loving boys, that’s not our thing”. but what i wanna know is why isn’t it our thing???
why aren’t most slash fanfics written by boys who love boys? why isn’t a genre, a subculture ABOUT US, something that we’re seemingly not allowed to participate in? why do we feel like outsiders when writing our own stories? why are some of them most praised “gay shows” and “gay books” (for example, the song of achilles and yuri on ice) all written by women, and read by women, and aren’t really catered towards gay men at all even though we’re the SUBJECTS of the story.
when you go through websites like goodreads and look under the “gay romance” section, you see names like madeline, jane, abigail, marie, amy. i mean, abigail roux’s writing alone probably takes up half the list! you might see a sean or a david thrown in, but for the most part, stories about men loving each other are written by women. ones that are written by men often don’t get the attention reigned in by the foxhole court and cut and run. that’s where the issue lies. in a community supposedly dedicated to us, our love, our sex, our relationships, we take the back seat. we don’t get recognition. we don’t get control. we don’t get to tell OUR stories OUR WAY.
not to mention, much of slash has always been smut. and that smut, for a lot of questioning boys who love boys, that’s our first exposure to sex between two men. i know it was for me. but when it’s written by someone who’s never been a man having sex with a man (and no, if you’re a cis girl having sex with a cis man is not the same way trans men have sex with cis men, but y'alls abysmal treatment of trans men will have to wait for another post), it’s often written inaccurately and unsafely. not using a condom? unsafe. spit as lube? definitely not safe. SHOVING IT IN???????? REALLY NOT SAFE. rimming someone without having them clean or use an enema first????
not only unsafe, but also really gross. the general consensus (and yes i asked) about this is that safe sex has been deemed by slash shippers to be “boring”. they want to get right to the fucking, no time for prep (which is literally the most important part), no time for cleaning, no time for lube, no time for protection. this is incredibly dangerous for young men who love men who are trying to figure out all the different ways that we can make love to each other. if this is their only exposure, they’re going to think that doing this is okay. they’re going to think “yeah, i can just shove my tongue into someone’s dirty asshole” or “i don’t have to prepare my partner before shoving very large into something very tiny” which is not the case and will get people hurt. i know fic isn’t supposed to be a sex ed class, but the lack of sex safety is really concerning.
and when men who love men like myself bring up the fact that maybe you guys should stay in your lane a little and let us take the wheel in a genre entirely dedicated to us having sex with each other, you somehow claim that we are “kinkshaming” you and being misogynist by taking away “the one place where women can explore their kinks without judgement”. which is complete and total bullshit because FIRST OF ALL gay people are not your kink. we are not your fetish, we don’t exist for your entertainment or your gratification. if you really think that two men who make love to each other is your “fetish”, then maybe that’s telling you something. human beings aren’t kinks. so fuck outta here with that.
and the obsession with boys enduring homophobic and sometimes transphobic abuse and rape for the sake of ~angst~ and hurt/comfort is uh pretty fucked up. the obsession people have with gay trauma is by far the most disturbing of all. like so many woman slash writers go out of their way to subject gbt male characters to all sorts of injury and abuse just so they can be ~comforted~ and possibly get comfort sex. the idea that you want to see us hurt just because you think it’s cute when we comfort each other isn’t okay. like, didn’t someone want to write a check please fanfic about the pulse shooting??? yeah how can any of you look at that and think it’s okay. it’s not okay. in no world is that okay.
so this brings me to your claim that if gay/bi/pan men (including trans men and male-aligned people) tell you to maybe chill out and maybe let us write stories about us for a change, that’s a misogynistic/homophobic/shallow statement. this just blows my mind. i need a little more clarification about why it’s such an evil no-no for us to want to represent ourselves or speak for ourselves or tell our own stories. because it kinda seems homophobic that you’re so angry about gbt men wanting to represent themselves. it almost sounds like you only think our love and our sex and our lives exist only for you to write and read about. you’re making it sound like we are objects made for your consumption, and by establishing ourselves as real people is ruining your fantasy.
nobody’s saying you can’t be supportive of gbt boys and want to write about them in your stories. but for the love of god, don’t get angry when we want to tell our own stories, and don’t pitch a fit when we express that we’re uncomfortable with being objectified for your own sexual gratification.
tldlr; men who love men have never existed for your consumption. we are not your “escape from heteronormativity”, we are not your “safe space for kink exploration”, we are not your favorite ships, we are not your kudos on ao3. we are real men with real stories who want a chance to express ourselves in a genre that’s about us but that we seemingly aren’t allowed into. we are people, and we deserve to and be seen as people and treated like people. stop speaking over us and invalidating our concerns about how we’re being treated. and that’s the tea. 🏳️🌈💁♂️☕️
Hi can you please delete that ask I sent?
on it. -mod noiz
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Sure people can have headcanons, it is fine Like how some people headcanon that every gay wants to be a horny bottom, or Gays are rapists..oh right the Fujoshi culture, which your blog is against, so technically, you are against headcanons. Did you not realize that when you started lecturing me? And if you are throwing the homophobic word around, then you are homophobic too because you are against people making gay representation. All those Fujoshi's are making gay media, and you making this
Ah yes. Gay representation is equivalent to horny bottoms, r*pe, and all that other jazz. Nice.
Hi, found your special friend, turns out she loves to warn people of mean angry homophobe and sending death threats too. Have fun supporting the bullying dozen.
We aren't??? Associated with them???? Ive never even seen their blog before. Get your head out of your ass - Clear
Yuri On Ice: A good, well animated sports anime that has put effort into getting the animation correct for the sport. Also makes references to real life figure skaters, and doesn’t try too hard to be too intense like other sports animes. Includes an implied homosexual relationship that is healthy and not demonized or treated like a big deal within the show.
Fujoshis: WOW WHaT a gAy ANime!!!11!! MY HOMO SMALL BEANS!!!1111 I WANT THEM TO DO THE SEX ON ICE!!11 YAoIz on ICE AM I RIGHT???/ WHAT;S figuRE SKATIMG? WOW THEY’RE SO GAY!!.11 SMOLS11111!!! XD
You: look at me shipping all these GAY characters!!! WTF is this SIN im soooo going to hell for wanting to men to kiss!!!!1!1!! no i dont know what casual homophobia is
Me, an gay: shut the fuck up
Asian gay boys arent just ‘yaoi’ Asian gay boys shouldnt be fetishized. Asian gay boys belong in the mlm community Asian gay boys deserve to be happy with their boyfriend/s
full offense but if you’re going like “he’s a top” or “he’s a bottom” in an unironic fashion then you’re fetishizing gay relationships. Period. If you call yourself a fujoshi or yaoi fan (again unironically, and/or not jokingly) then you also fetishize gay relationships. Period.
^^^^^^^^ If you act like you can tell what someone does in the bedroom based on how they are in public your literally a stereotyping fetishizing piece of shit
straight yoi fans claim to support the show and how progressive it is with its non sexualized gay relationship, but we all know that theyre really just there for the “yaoi”. they go around saying things like “yaoi on ice” and shipping all men that interact with eachother. people have shipped yurio with yuuri, viktor, jj, and now otabek because of a FEW interactions. yoi fans arent shipping those things because they can see them having a healthy canon relationship, they ship it because they want something to jack off to. people ship yurio with every man that breathes his way in yoi so they can make gross fetishy porn of a 15 y/o and their homophobia is so obvious it hurts. how can you claim to support a show with a healthy gay relationship and then go and draw porn of a 15 year old and his first ever friend? just admit that you jack off to gross fetishy porn and stop pretending to support gay people
@ all the straight people replying to this post. cool. i dont care that you arent a fetishist, but other straight fans ARE. yes i am generalizing straight people, because lgb people sure as hell arent fetishizing gay relationships. ik it sucks to be grouped with people that do gross things, but you are a part of that group. so instead of complaining, reblog this. spread awareness, educate other straight people. complaining about not being like other straight fans is gonna get you nowhere.
ah yes, because straight fans ARENT homophobic right? these two straight fans argued against generalization, yelled about how not ALL straight people fetishize gay relationships, and then called me slurs. they reblog gay porn, have the word “yaoi” in their description, and then when an actual gay person tells them that he is uncomfortable with this, they call him a faggot and a “neurotic little bitch”. THIS is why we generalize straight people, because no matter what they say, no matter how many “yaoi” ships they have, when it comes to ACTUAL gay people they don’t give two fucks about what slurs they call us. this is literal homophobia, and is why i generalize straight fans into a category.
straight fans, please listen to what gay people are saying. we are the ones that experience homophobia. please don’t silence us and then pretend to support us by shipping a million gay couples. if you want to be an ally, then you have to listen to what gay people find offensive too.
straight people can reblog this.
Hey guys look we got us some trash. How about maybe not shipping something that’s downright abusive and honestly disgusting. Like. You could ship literally anything else. Ship Sangwoo with that stick you’ve got so far up your ass. Literally anything else.
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