Anxious Lass

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Suffering is not a competition. It's just different - Anxious Lass

Mental illness isn't a competition, yet so many people treat it like it is. Why is that even a thing? Why do we stigmatise instead of support each other?

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40 Worst Things To Say To Someone With Depression

It’s tough having a mental illness that some people don’t understand, especially when they flat-out don’t want to. Depression often gets trivialised and treated as if it’s just ‘being a bit sad’ when the truth is, it’s far more than that and doesn’t just go away in a few days or with some retail therapy. It takes time, support and different kinds of treatments to come

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Just Because I look Fine, Doesn't Mean I AM Fine - Anxious Lass

“But you don’t look sick” “You can’t have social anxiety, you’re way more confident than me” “I saw a picture of you on facebook, looked like you were having a good time. You can’t be that depressed” They are called invisible illnesses for a reason. Whether it’s a mental or physical illness, if it’s not as obvious on the outside then there are always people who

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What Social Anxiety REALLY Feels Like - Anxious Lass

It's difficult sometimes to explain what social anxiety really feels like because it is often misconstrued as just being shy or being antisocial..

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Living With Someone Who Has Anxiety - Anxious Lass

A guest post by my boyfriend about living with someone who has anxiety. Things that he has learnt, including some tips and pointers.

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10 Social Anxiety Myths And Why They're Total Bullshit - Anxious Lass

A list of social anxiety myths and why we need to stop believing in them including social anxiety simply being "shyness" or introversion.

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How To Explain Social Anxiety To Someone That Doesn't Have It

It's difficult to explain social anxiety to someone who doesn't have it so here's a few ways you can help them understand.

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When you’re told to “just go and talk to them”.....

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When you have a face full of food and the waiter/waitress asks if everything is alright with your meal.....

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When you actually say something and everyone’s like “SHE TALKS!”...........

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Hi, I have social anxiety and I want to see if I have SAD. I'm way too scared to talk to my parents about it and was hoping that my general practitioner could help lead me in the right direction. Can they do that? I'm too young to go to a psychiatrist on my own or the doctor, so it's really my only way without having to confront my parents. Can you please help me?

I’m not sure where you are in the World, it’s different everywhere but your GP should be able to help you at the very least by giving you lots of information.

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Hi I think I have social anxiety sometimes especially airports I feel so bad I can't even look into people's eyes and I feel like I'm gonna be sick like I feel really bad and I blush that's the worst part of it though so can you help me please ?

If it’s that bad you definitely need to see your GP for a proper diagnosis and a possible referral to a psychologist/therapist. Without knowing if it’s truly a Social Anxiety Disorder you could end up with the wrong type of help, so I’d say getting a diagnosis is the first step.

If it is a Social Anxiety Disorder, I would fully recommend Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT for short) especially if you are worse in certain situations like the aiports.... CBT will help you work on those fears step by step.

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I'm thinking about becoming an elementary school teacher, but here's my problem. I have really bad SA. I have an assignment coming up soon where I have to read to kids at a daycare and I'm terrified. I really want to do this for a living, but now I'm scared I won't make it bc of mental illness. Do you have any tips? I don't want to lose anything else bc of this.

Hey, I know exactly the place you’re in right now. I’ve been there <3

I wanted to be a wedding photographer but extreme anxiety and weddings full of people are a difficult combination. My first wedding was the scariest thing I’ve ever done but y’know what? The longer I stayed in the situation, the easier it got and afterwards I felt amazing!!!

I know you can do this despite how scary it is. The one thing you have to remember is, you won’t make it if you don’t at the very least try. 

Just treat this assignment as if you’re proving a point to yourself that you can do it. This is a great test for you and a first hurdle. If you make it through this, you know you can achieve anything you want!

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Hi. I've been struggling lately and I'm not really sure why. I'm a quiet person, don't socialise much, afraid of talking to people (phone, orders, etc), tend to worry a lot which resulted in nervous breakdown and will cry my eyes out if I feel like I'm losing my sanity. There's a lot of negativity inside my head. I tried to shut them off like telling them to stop or go away and sometimes it's a struggle trying to control them. It's tiring. Is there something wrong w me or r all of these normal?

Hi Anon

I wouldn’t say it’s normal to be feeling this way, but I sure do understand as I sometimes get this way when everything gets on top of me - whether that’s my anxiety on it’s own or specific things going on in my life.

Negative thoughts don’t usually just go away when you tell them to stop, as much as that would be lovely... instead we have to challenge them.

Think about what these negative thoughts are, write them down every time they occur. Think about what might be causing these thoughts to pop into your head. That way you’ll be able to challenge it by thinking of alternative thoughts. If it’s something you’re doing like going out with a friend and you have a negative thought like “they’re not going to have fun with me” for example, challenge that thought by trying to think of alternative thoughts such as “they will have fun with me, last time we went out we had a blast” or “well actually it’s not just my responsibility to create the fun, if they don’t have fun that’s not my fault cause I’m fucking awesome”

and then actually go out and PROVE to your negative thoughts that they’re wrong. Enter the situation you’re afraid of and take notes on how you feel, what’s happening etc. Until you can tell yourself that actually, it’s not as bad as you think. 

Hope that helps at all x

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Thought it was time to update my head shot, and to show my face a little so you know who it is giving you all this (probably shit) advice :) The confetti shooter was so loud that I went deaf for a full minute, I wasn’t expecting that but it was so much fun.