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[aphobicopal-blog]

Hello! My name is E.C. Miller and I run a small online store called “ThreadyToGo” and the money is going towards a chest binder and my eventual top surgery, so every dollar and cent helps me out! I ship internationally for a low price, all of the prices of items are converted to your currency and since pride’s coming up it’s the perfect time to look into a bracelet/pin of your own! I also have blind bags and bulk orders!

Also till the end of pride month all bracelets are 20% off with code “PRIDETIME”, so this makes it a perfect time to buy from me! 

Note: Will do all variants of aromantic flag, please just ask! Demisexual, lithromantic and many others available 

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Note: Will do all variants of aromantic flag, please just ask! Demisexual, lithromantic and many others available 

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(Gay / Lesbian)

All of the bracelets are available, inexpensive, cute and in the process helping a non-binary person!

Also on top of that, custom orders are available! So Everyone can find something here!

And in honour of pride I’m now selling handmade soft pins that are now for pre-order (20 available at the moment), they do not count for the sale as they are for pre-order but the money foes go to the same place!

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If you are interested please contact me at @apeskyhedgehog or check out the store here. 

I hope you have a great day!

//Get them Here//

[fuckyeahasexual]

Ace-Friendly Therapists Masterpost Build!

We get a constant influx of therapist horror stories. Therapists who say asexuality is not valid, therapists who try to ‘change’ their patient’s asexuality, therapists who insult and degrade asexual clients, and so on.

But we also get stories about therapists who are understanding, supportive, and knowledgeable about asexuality. And I want to make an accessible collection of such therapists.

Finding a therapist/counselor that suits your individual needs is always a challenge. Our choices are very often limited due to budget and travel constraints. We choose therapists that fit all our interests and needs - for some people, that means a very specific field, and therefore less options to choose from.

Aces deserve therapists that treat us right. We don’t need to be satisfied with a therapist that doesn’t understand asexuality. Our money can go towards brighter horizons.

If you know a therapist that;

Understands asexuality as a sexual identity

Respects asexual clients

Has experience with asexuality and the asexual experience

Is flexible and accommodating towards a diverse community of asexuality

Please send us their name and location! All submissions will be collected in a Google doc, meant to clearly indicate who is safe for aces, and where they are available.

We will require the therapist’s full name, and their city/state/country of employment. Bonus information (that’s not required, but would be appreciated); their price range ($-$$$), and their specific fields of speciality (LGBT issues, trauma, teens, etc). This list will be worldwide.

Thank you for helping us build a safer world for us!

[peintomove-deactivated20240529]

P R I D E

:Store: (Buy these Stars and Show off your Shine) :Follow Me:

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I’m bored so if anyone wants to submit their aspec ocs I’d love to see them!

- Mod Sap

[aphobic-opal]

Please take today (June 12, 2017) to keep the lost lives of the pulse massacre in your heart.

Please also remember that you have no right to use their deaths to further your agenda. It is horrifically inappropriate. The victims of the massacre did not choose to die. They are not martyrs. They are innocent victims who’s lives were ripped from them. Stop using their loss to push your beliefs.

This post is 100% in response to ace discourse, and is particularly targeted at members of the community that are white and/or not mlm.

- Mod Sap

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the irony is thick here

[lulanight-moved-deactivated2021]

When faced with accepting that pulling the pulse victims tragedy for their discourse is a shitty thing to do, user artemiscourse couldn’t accept it and typed the first catchy thing they could think of, regardless of whether it made sense or not.

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^^^

- Mod Sap

[artuhmes]

it’s been almost a year since the pulse nightclub shooting. a year since the largest mass shooting in American history. 49 people’s lives were lost. it’s been a year since their family has lost them. countries around the world lit up monuments in remembrance for these people. as the anniversary approaches tomorrow, please be safe. if you go to any pride events please be safe. dont forget that there are people who love you.

Rest in Power to the lives lost on that day. Don’t forget about them. 

Stanley Almodovar III, age 23

Amanda Alvear, 25

Oscar A. Aracena-Montero, 26

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21

Martin Benitez Torres, 33

Antonio D. Brown, 30

Darryl R. Burt II, 29

Jonathan A. Camuy Vega, 24

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28

Simon A. Carrillo Fernandez, 31

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25

Luis D. Conde, 39

Cory J. Connell, 21

Tevin E. Crosby, 25

Franky J. Dejesus Velazquez, 50

Deonka D. Drayton, 32

Mercedez M. Flores, 26

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22

Juan R. Guerrero, 22

Paul T. Henry, 41

Frank Hernandez, 27

Miguel A. Honorato, 30

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40

Jason B. Josaphat, 19

Eddie J. Justice, 30

Anthony L. Laureano Disla, 25

Christopher A. Leinonen, 32

Brenda L. Marquez McCool, 49

Jean C. Mendez Perez, 35

Akyra Monet Murray, 18

Kimberly Morris, 37

Jean C. Nieves Rodriguez, 27

Luis O. Ocasio-Capo, 20

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25

Eric I. Ortiz-Rivera, 36

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32

Enrique L. Rios Jr., 25

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24

Christopher J. Sanfeliz, 24

Xavier E. Serrano Rosado, 35

Gilberto R. Silva Menendez, 25

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34

Shane E. Tomlinson, 33

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25

Luis S. Vielma, 22

Luis D. Wilson-Leon, 37

Jerald A. Wright, 31

[aphobicopal-blog]

Reciepts for @azzy-against-aphobes 

Really nice

Fluffy goat

Probably bleats when startled

Sweet person

Runs a cool blog

Too good for this world, too pure

Just really good???

- Mod Sap

[105ttt]

All autistic asexual people are valid! You do not have to want sex or identify as something other than what you truly are because of gross, incorrect stereotypes. You are not “childish” or “immature” or “broken”.

[haveagaydayorg]

Graphic about asexuality.  There’s a link at the bottom, so i went in search of the image to reblog it, but the tumblr was taken down due to bullying, according to the post :( Can I still be Asexual If I…

Masturbate?  YES Expericne arousal?  YES Have a libido?  YES like porn?  YES Have sex?  YES enjoy sex?  YES Am in (or have been in) a relationship?  YES Appreciate people’s appearances?  YES want to kiss and cuddle?  YES fantasize?  YES have kinks?  YES was sexually abused?  YES want kids?  YES experience romantic attraction?  YES am sexually attracted to other people?  NO Asexuality is only about not experiencing sexual atracted.  An asexual can be or do any of the above as long as it does not involve sexual attraction.  Sexual attraction can be described as the following: - intrinsic desire for seual contact with a specific other person - ability to feel that someone is “sexy” (but can still know what other people see as sexy), almost like a warm/hot feeling

If you do experience sexual attraction, but it is very rare, you may identify with grey-asexuality and demisexuality.

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[aphobicopal-blog]

Mod Sap here! So my life partner is current in the intensive care unit of the hospital, and has been in the hospital for two and a half weeks now. There’s a real likeliness he might not survive the next few weeks, so that’s why the blog has been silent. I might be on occasionally while he’s asleep though.

- Mod Sap

[catandkitty]

this is part of the issue with #positivity! if you’re defining #positivity as ONLY being allowed to say “you are VALID and NORMAL (no matter how much people will try to hurt you bc you’re def neither of those things)” and never, “the reality is you don’t face this threat that has been invented by attention-seekers on tumblr and you can safely access healthcare” like WHAT are your priorities??

[aphobicopal-blog]

Found in the #ace positivity tag.

You start your post by saying that we’re “def” neither valid nor normal. You follow it up with suggesting aphobia was invented by /attention seekers on tumblr/. You conclude that we can all apparently safely access healthcare (weirdly off topic but whatever). 1. Asexual and aromantic individuals are definitely valid, and quite normal.

2. Aphobia has existed as long as asexual individuals have, even if it’s not recognized as such due to lack of general knowledge and education about asexuality.

3. Given that conversion therapy and medication are still recommended to “treat” asexuality and aromanticism, I don’t exactly have much faith in the medical system.

Our priorities are to provide others with comfort and support when ill-informed bloggers such as yourself decide to forcibly assert your uneducated opinion by mistagging it so you can target those that are seeking help and reassurance.

- Mod Sap

[aphobicopal-blog]

/Slight Miscalculation/

Hey there! So uh tumblr apparently changed their settings and you can no longer add members (aka mods) to the primary blog on the account. I’m setting up an identical sideblog, and will be transferring over the username/information. I’ll let everyone know when the username and such have been moved!

Mod applications can still be submitted here, as I’ll have this blog open on my browser as well!

- Mod Sap

[aphobicopal-blog]

The temporary blog is being hosted at @aphobic-opal if you want to follow earlier on! It’s not actually set up or anything yet, but should be by the end of today.

- Mod Sap 

[aphobicopal-blog]

Block @bandaidboys for suggesting most aces are pedophiles/apologists and posting it in the ace positivity tag.

- Mod Sap

[alicecourse-archive]

F is for fucking petty little shits who can’t get their heads out their asses long enough to learn the definition of discourse

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[lilycourse]

Anyone else think it’s weird that there are words to describe variants of ace, but there aren’t words to describe variants of gay, straight, or bi that describe how frequently you feel your attraction? An ace who experiences sexual attraction infrequently is still an ace (and also can be called gray-ace, if they want to be more specific), but a lesbian who fluctuates between finding all men ugly-looking, boring to look at, and finding men aesthetically pleasing to look but doesn’t want to date or have sex with them isn’t also called some variation of a lesbian, but is simply a lesbian.

(Also, please MOGAI tumblr, don’t take this as a suggestion.)

[aphobicopal-blog]

But there are? I mean most people find others of all gender identities aesthetically attractive without necessarily being romantically/physically attracted to them. But if you find your attraction to whomever you are attracted to fluctuates, or if you find you occasionally/rarely are attracted to a different gender there are already existing orientations for those labels.

The primary reason aro/ace people may use aesthetic based descriptors is primarily to denote whom they’d prefer to be in a relationship with if they were to be in one/are comfortable with dating.

- Mod Sap

[nah---nigga-deactivated20180917]

Anyways @ace discourses, on any side of the discourse I’m just gonna say that encouraging 5-12 year olds to discuss their preference on sex irl is gross! Whether you think aces are LGBT or not, one of the arguments should never have “Children” and “sex” in the same sentence you dense mother fucker! Kids don’t think about sex like that until they’re about 13!!! So why the fuck y'all want children to open up about sexual details? That’s harassment. Another reason y'all need to get off tumblr and get a breath of fresh air. some of y'all talk about your sexuality with your 10 year old cousin and 7 year old niece and post that shit online🤔? Talking about how “at least she understands” no she doesn’t! The kid just agrees with you because she wants to play Patty cake! She doesn’t even know what sex is so stop pushing it on her Jesus fucking Christ y'all are nasty!!!! Log the fuck off!!! For once!!! Get off your high horse your not cool for telling children your sexuality! It’s gross!!!😒😒

[aphobicopal-blog]

I haven’t seen anyone encouraging teach children between 5 and 7 about sexuality and sexual orientation, but you’re literally spreading misinformation.

To quote my previous post:

“A child is anyone under the age of thirteen. Puberty for cis females typically begins between ten and fourteen, and twelve and sixteen for cis males. Most children will begin to experience physical attraction shortly before or at the onset of puberty.

While I believe children should wait until they’re at least well into puberty or nearing the end to ID as asexual, and sexual attraction may sometimes develop later on, properly educating them about sexuality in year four or five (between ages eight and ten) is not disgusting. “

I would also like to add that the age of puberty has been getting consistently lower among cis females, and many cis females start puberty as young as eight.

- Mod Sap

[nah---nigga-deactivated20180917]

PLEASE DONT TEACH  YOUR EIGHT YEAR OLD ABOUT SEX!!! WHAT THE FUCK!!!!

 All I know is that there is no 8 year old in the world that needs to know about sex that early? Dude thats a child i dont care what your false information says im gonna say rn that thats fucking disgusting to teach a child about sex and? DUDE HAVE YOU BEEN IN THE ACE DISCOURSE TAG literally….jesus christ 

I’mma tell you right now if you think that you should inform children about sexuality before they hit the double digits…before theyre even qualified to be termed as “pre-teen” thats prett nasty and i will have to ask you to steer clear of children

“ Asexuality is about sex and cannot be explained in a way that is appropriate without discussing intercourse therefore it does not apply to children at all.” so like, heres one thing since we’re quoting

here’s a post i found that is ace discourse that is about children and sexuality

another post

“Most girls get their first period when they’re 12 or 13 years old- “

-a kidshealth.org article its quoted from ANOTHER discourse blog because, guess what? this just so happens to be a topic that A LOT OF discoursers talk about…and guess where you can find that article? IN THE “TEEN” SECTION.

WHAT DONT YALL UNDERSTAND ABOUT BEING A CHILD.

Does the concept of sex seem like something you should be talking to a child about?

[aphobicopal-blog]

I, uh, quoted the whole post, and it was the post directly before this one? Anyways.

I’m just going to ignore your casual implication that I am somehow a danger to children for having a general idea of when puberty begins.

Both of those posts were heavily biased (and mostly incorrect).

I’ll consider it’s probably due to horrible sexual education that you believe that a period is the beginning of puberty. I started puberty when I was eleven, and didn’t get my first period until I was fourteen. Periods don’t begin until around two years after the onset of puberty, which is typically first marked with breast tissue beginning to develop (source).

The same source points out that puberty does usually start as early as eight. Sexual education should be taught when youth begin puberty, therefore eight would be the ideal age to provide starting sexual education (with expansion when they reach around 12-13 to provide more information on sexual safety, consent, and protection).

Advocating against proper sexual education despite the prevalent sexual content is media, most of which is misleading, will only serve to harm children,

- Mod Sap

Side note: My province (Canada) already gives your first sex ed class in grade five (9 and 10 years old) with a follow up class in grade six and in grade ten, so this isn’t exactly a new suggestion/concept.

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/Slight Miscalculation/

Hey there! So uh tumblr apparently changed their settings and you can no longer add members (aka mods) to the primary blog on the account. I’m setting up an identical sideblog, and will be transferring over the username/information. I’ll let everyone know when the username and such have been moved!

Mod applications can still be submitted here, as I’ll have this blog open on my browser as well!

- Mod Sap

[aphobicopal-blog]

The temporary blog is being hosted at @aphobic-opal if you want to follow earlier on! It’s not actually set up or anything yet, but should be by the end of today.

- Mod Sap