ex-superwholock

sarah | she/they | australia | 26 | i'm just hanging out

[tranthony]

grout white shark

[kosmogrl]

[redlipstickresurrected]

Sergio Vallés aka Sergi Arts (Spanish, based Spain) - Self Aware, 2026, Paintings: Oil on Paper

[catboyattorney]

I got possessed by the printmaker's urge this past week and have been carving a different block every day. i carved my cat

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[parkchanwoohoo]

The anger that drove the making of this is so palpable I can't stop laughing

[marisatomay]

“what’s the song of the summer” ?? it’s DANCING IN THE DARK by bruce springsteen for the 40th year in a row

[marisatomay]

Happy Dancing in the Dark by Bruce Springsteen Day to all who celebrate

[0v9]

A truthberry might make you tell the truth... But a lieberry? A lieberry will loan you books

[ishowdespair-deactivated2026012]

[eon-of-axolotls]

[videolottery]

The only media I ever watched was avatar the lost air bender and dnd podcasts can I write a novel to change the world?

[blignick]

[stariteart]

🏳️‍⚧️ TRANSGENDER DAY OF VISIBILITY 🏳️‍⚧️

DON'T LET THE BASTARDS GET YOU DOWN

[deep-state-partisan]

Worry about it kitten

[graceebooks]

ok ♥️

fuck ♥️

[molags-balls]

wyd after taking this

[skelegun]

[mothermara]

remember to bury the dead with a phone, everyone. these days the ferry terminal at the river styx wants you to download a fucking app

[renthony]

Going to a talk with a panel of queer librarians and archivists today. Going to make very big, wet eyes at the head archivist and ask if she needs volunteers to help sort the backlog of queer history materials that I have been told exists at the local museum.

[renthony]

Me during the q&a section: "I've always wanted to do archival work, but I dropped out of university and had a lot of academic doors close on me. How can I get involved?"

Every single archivist on the panel: *laser eyes activated* What you're gonna do is come get our contact info after the panel. We need volunteers soooo bad.

SUCCESS.

[renthony]

I left with five different people's contact info and a lead on an internship opportunity. Go to the events at your local library if you can, my friends. 🥰

[queer-joy-detector]

Queer joy detected!

[lackadaisycal-art]

Excalibur

Practicing picture book spread dimensions for my portfolio