Are exes actually exes for a reason?
There’s really no definite answer for this. I can look back, and I see a few exes in my head where they are most DEFINITELY an ex for a reason. Whether things went good or bad, ended good or bad, etc. There’s a few where we were together, cute with each other, and then our true selves came out and one of became destructive in one way or another (I am as much to blame as others are in most cases). A few times it ended badly, a few other times, we saw the destruction and went our separate ways. No harm done. Though some did end on good terms, I don’t really talk to exes at all.
But onto the difficult part. You ever known those couples that were always so on and off? Did they eventually split for good? Or are they happy and together still without a recent break up? I am a firm believer that just because a couple is on and off so much and for so long, doesn’t necessarily mean they shouldn’t be together. Sometimes it takes going through A LOT of bullshit, A LOT of trial and error, and A LOT of heartbreak, anger, tears, etc, to finally realize that this person really is who you want to be by your side forever. Sometimes all the separations and the attempts to “break free” or move on, are just steps towards realizing what you have right in front of you. Learning from a different mistake each time. Sometimes the passion between the two (whether they’re meant to be together or not) is just too damn strong and there’s no way to stop it or avoid it. They always gravitate back towards each other. I feel like THOSE couples are the strongest. NOT EVERY TIME THOUGH. I will admit there’s couples that maybe they just like the attention, or don’t like seeing the other move on so quickly, or don’t like that the other is no longer obsessed with them, or whatever the case may be. Those people don’t have passion, at least not for each other.
Do you agree/disagree with any of this? I wanna hear everyone’s thoughts and opinions on this. But please, no name calling or shaming.
Here’s a piece from Mark Manson (my relationship guru)’s article:
Imagine your relationship as a beautiful china plate. If you break it once, you can put it back together with some care and effort. If you break it a second time, you can still put it back together but it takes a lot of extra time and care. But if you break it again and again and again, eventually you end up with so many pieces that you can’t put it back together. And no matter how much you liked that plate, you’re better off going and finding another one.
It all depends of the person. If that person keeps on changing and the person is going another, then there’s no point in staying and it’s better of to find a new partner with the lessons you learned from your previous relationship.
I absolutely don’t believe I should ever be back with me ex. I’ve gone back with him too many times to realize that we weren’t right for each other.
