Unpopular Helpol opinion but I don't think telling less experienced Pagans to go fuck themselves if they're wary of Zeus, or another Hellenic deity, because the most information they have at that moment in time is that this god has violated someone is the right approach. I love so many gods more than words can express, and have come to respect and appreciate them so much more after getting to know more and understand mythology more in depth. Being aided in learning more was a big part in me getting where I am today.
Someone who is wary of the SA part of the myths probably has their heart and moral compass in the right place, and it doesn't mean they'll never have a deep relationship with the gods. They just need to learn more, like I did when I was starting out, and if I had come here as a baby witch seeing the shit I see now I would have ran in the other direction.
I had the same wariness around Apollo as a baby witch, and he is one of the gods I am closest to now. I can't imagine my life without him. He blesses me so much every day and does so much to take care of me and show me he's there. Education helped get me here. Judgement did not.
I understand feeling protective of your gods, completely. They are one of the most important facets of my life at this time. I appreciate the roles they all play in this world, even the ones who don't quite vibe with me. And I am getting to know new ones surprisingly often. They are ancient, wise, loving, and warm. And I think they understand some people need time, experience, and resources. After all, blind faith leads to fanaticism, and we've all seen what consequences that can have on society.
The gods don't expect baby witches, Pagans, and Helpols to blindly listen to every rando on the internet as an authority. They want us to learn, to get to know not only them, but the way others experience them. Nobody will see that if they're being told to fuck off for not starting out in the spot it took you years to get to.
You don't have to personally educate the youth! Not everyone is a teacher and that's fine. But perhaps consider reframing some of this energy. Instead of "fuck you if you don't like X god" or "I don't want to hear you talk about the assaults!" Consider maybe "Please refrain from negative comments about this god on my blog" or "These gods are much more complex than their myths and mythic literalism can be problematic."
In the end, the way we frame it should encourage thinking and growing, not shut it down before it can begin.
